In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to answer the question: “Does time heal all?”  

First a quick update:  

·         Family in crisis’” Mark your calendar for Friday July 11, 2008 to watch another appearance of mine on the Montel Williams TV show when I work with a family in crisis, using Hypnotherapy and specific intensely emotional exercises and tasks to help the family face and break through their fears, build trust, and rekindle the romance between mom and dad 

Now let’s talk about the process of healing from my book and audio CD set: “How to Get Over It – breakups, betrayals and rejection” www.patrickwanis.com/HowToGetOverItBook.asp  

You may have heard it said that “Time heals all.” Is this true?  

I believe not.  

If time were the critical factor that leads to all healing then the older we are the happier we would be since time would have healed us. How many people do you know that are still angry, bitter, regretful, sad or deeply depressed about events that occurred ten years ago, or even twenty years ago. Many of us are still grieving over what happened to us as children. Accordingly, I believe time does not heal but rather what we choose to do in that time will heal us.  Later in this book, I offer you some powerful techniques to help you speed up the healing –to help you get over it – fast!   Continue reading “Time does not heal all” »

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to share with you a powerful technique to neutralize and bust worry. 

First a quick update:  

·         “Power leads to cheating and betrayal” What do Governor Spitzer, Bill Clinton, Bill Murray, Shania Twain’s famous music producer husband, John “Mutt Lange” and Dr. Phil have in common? Listen to the extensive interview I gave to Jim Peake of mysuccessgateway.com when I reveal that positions of power, authority and influence as well as any form of power can result in cheating because it can lead to delusions of invincibility, entitlement and the male ego drive to dominate and conquer. I also explain how power creates the ultimate test of our morals, values and integrity. Jim also raises questions about the link between the power of priests in the Catholic Church, betrayal, and the abuse and molestation of children www.patrickwanis.com/RadioInterviews.asp  

Now let’s talk about worry. 

Worry is negative imagination. It is what you create in yourself that causes you stress and anxiety. Worry also leads to greater fear. Worry is a conditioned response. You have learned to worry and you therefore can unlearn the process. You can eliminate the behavior. 

Negative imagination (worry) is a sustained form of fear caused by indecision. When you make decisions, you end worry. 

But first, let’s take at look at the roots of worry.

Worry comes from fear and fear intensifies, exaggerates and exacerbates worry. When you are afraid, you are likely to experience: 

Continue reading “The Worry Buster Technique” »

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to share controversial but revealing insights into what is love. 

First a quick update:  

·         “Why do men cheat?” What pushes, inspires, encourages or leads a man to cheat? Is it lust, power, boredom, escape or something missing in the relationship? Is a handsome man more likely to cheat than a man who has power, influence and money? Why would someone married to a successful, beautiful woman choose to cheat on her such as Shania Twain’s famous music producer husband, John “Mutt Lange” did? Listen to the interview I gave to famous radio personalities Eddie and Tracy of 700 WLW Ohio, sharing my insights into male behavior, the male ego, and the human brain and its five core emotions that can lead to cheating. I also reveal how women can also fall prey to the power and drive of the reptilian part of the human brain. www.patrickwanis.com/RadioInterviews.asp  

Now let’s talk about love and what it is. The following is an excerpt from my book: “How to get over it – breakups, betrayals and rejection”: 

“Defining romantic love  Over the centuries, many people have tried to answer the question “What is love?” through songs, poetry, books and movies. In Shakespeare’s plays, people died and even killed for love. Today, some people have created their own definitions of love: “Love is unconditional”, “love is eternal”, “love knows no boundaries”, “love conquers all”, etc. Many people also distinguish between loving someone and being in love. Some people go as far as to say, ‘’ I love you, but I don’t like you.’’  

There are two different kinds of love: unconditional love (when we truly care and want the best for the other person) and romantic love (when we focus on how the other person makes us feel.) Unconditional love can be summed up as “I love you and you don’t have to love me back” and romantic love can be summed up as “What can you do for me?”   Continue reading “What is love?” »

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal the secret to letting go of the past and what it means to accept the past. 

First a quick update:  

·         “What do men want?” What are the truths and what are simply myths?  What are the four things a man wants and the four things a woman wants? Read the article I wrote for RU Magazine TX at my blog: www.patrickwanis.com/blog  

Now let’s talk about what it takes to break the chains of the past. 

From my professional experience, I have found that the key block to our happiness is our perception and perspective of the past. In my last three Success Newsletters, I wrote about how a lack of forgiveness is a major block to our happiness. Why? We remain stuck in the past. We hold onto something over which we no longer have control. We try to change something or someone and we eventually learn that we cannot change anyone else except ourselves. Of course, some people never realize this and they remain stuck in pain – depression, anger, resentment, physical illness, etc.  

I teach that one of the keys to enjoying life is to accept the past and gain new understanding about our past.  

One of my favorite and prized clients is Gillian, who has dedicated herself to happiness and achieving her goals. Accordingly, she has always been willing to face her painful past even though that did involve bringing up a lot of pain and hurt. Her continued dedication and transformation has been an inspiration to me. This week, she opened my eyes when she explained to me that so many people do not understand or fully grasp what it means to accept the past.   Continue reading “Let go of the past” »