In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to about loving and respecting yourself. 

First a quick update:  

·          “Getting over it” – I have recorded a special audio program on how to get over it – breakups, betrayals and rejection with fresh new insights and revelations not yet included in my products. You can listen to the program at www.patrickwanis.com/secretsgetoverit It will be up only until Monday September 1, and after that it will become part of the package on my website. So listen to it now while it is no charge. 

Now let’s talk about loving and respecting yourself and the way that it determines how others will treat you.  

People often ask me “How does someone become an expert in human behavior?” I respond by saying that it begins with a personal interest and observation of people’s behavior before taking up formal studies. In other words, my curious nature and desire to understand people’s motivations have led me to watch and analyze people, their patterns and motivations ever since I was a kid. 

I attended an elite all-boys high school in Australia with the highest pass rate in the state. I say, “elite” because you couldn’t buy your way into the school, you had to pass specific tests. Thus, these students were supposed to be the smartest kids in the state and yet, I recall one day wondering to myself “Why do these smart guys choose to vandalize their school, their own home?” I then noticed that the vandalism was specific to certain areas. When a toilet or bathroom was broken, run down or damaged, they students would be quick to further damage and vandalize that place. In other words, when they saw that someone else didn’t care about the place – the toilet, a desk or a room, they would respond accordingly. They, too, wouldn’t care about it, and would further destroy it. 

Just this morning, I was reading that there is a vast problem around the US: there is a large glut of homes being foreclosed that are now being vandalized. In fact, it is a common trait to see that as soon as a home has a sign posted reading “Condemned”, others will also condemn it by smashing windows, drawing graffiti and throwing trash everywhere. The condemned sign which also instantly drastically devalues the house is almost inviting people to further devalue and destroy the house. Continue reading “Loving and respecting yourself” »

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal ways to overcome anxiety. 

First a quick update:  

·         “Getting over it” – I have recorded a special audio program on how to get over it – breakups, betrayals and rejection with fresh new insights and revelations not yet included in my products. Thanks to the overwhelming response of questions. You can listen to the program at www.patrickwanis.com/secretsgetoverit starting this Saturday August 23, 2008 for one week. After that it will become part of the package on my website. So listen to it now because soon you have to pay for it. 

Now let’s talk about ways to overcome anxiety and find peace.  

(From my book: “Finding God – Spiritual strategies to help you find happiness, fulfillment and inner peace” www.patrickwanis.com/GodBook.asp): 

“The dictionary defines peace as: “Inner contentment; serenity: peace of mind.” And peace of mind is “the absence of mental stress or anxiety.” Anxiety is caused by fear. As a Clinical hypnotherapist and human behavior expert, I believe that peace of mind or inner peace is when you feel OK with who you are, what you have, free of anger, hatred, bitterness, revenge, guilt, blame, shame or fear. Inner peace is that state of love and acceptance for yourself and others. Peace is also built on expressing compassion, justice and unity, promoting non-violence, tolerance and co-operation. Later in this book, I explain how to attain peace.  

Jesus taught, “Love thy neighbor as thyself.” In other words, you must first love yourself so that you can know love and then be able to express it to others, to your neighbor. But I didn’t understand that teaching at the time. I didn’t know what love is and I didn’t love myself. Later I learned that when Jesus spoke of love, he referred to brotherly love and human compassion, not romantic love. I also didn’t realize that one can’t express brotherly love and compassion when one is full of anger and bitterness or some other negative emotion.”  Continue reading “Overcoming anxiety” »

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to talk about what you need to feel loved.

First a quick update: · “The evil in all of us” – research says we all have the capacity to commit evil -atrocities, torture and abuse. Why? Listen to my hour-long discussion and debate with renowned Professor Emeritus of Psychology at Stanford University, author of “The Lucifer Effect” Philip Zimbardo. We examine: Evil and the human psyche; Stress and evil; Dangers of de-individuation; Religion and evil – evil committed in the name of God; The holocaust, anti-Semitism, Jews informing on Jews, and extraordinary behavior by Jehovah’s Witnesses; How technology and the media unknowingly encourage violence, murder and evil; Our fascination with evil and villains such as Batman’s “The Joker”; Gender differences -can women be just as violent and evil as men?; Why men cheat – the link to power; the antidote to evil and; our deepest hidden human desire. http://patrickwanis.com/RadioInterviews.asp#TheEvil

· “Getting over it” – I will be presenting a special teleseminar (phone seminar) in one week on how to get over it – breakups, betrayals and rejection. I will be offering fresh new insights and revelations not yet included in my products, and answering questions. Email me your most pressing question. Hopefully, your question will be one of a handful I’ll pick to answer during this special seminar. Email your question: overit at patrickwanis dot com

Now let’s talk about what you need to feel loved. It amazes me how many people, particularly women believe that the perfect partner exists and that he/she should automatically, innately know what the other person needs to make him or her feel loved. This is a false and dangerous belief and expectation because it sets up potential disappointment and heartache for both partners. Continue reading “Getting the love you need” »

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal the psychology of falling in love. 

First a quick update:  

·         “Getting over it” – I will be presenting a special teleseminar (phone seminar) in about two weeks on how to get over it – breakups, betrayals and rejection. I will be offering fresh new insights and revelations not yet included in my products, and answering questions. Here is your chance to ask me your most pressing question. I will answer up to 12 questions during this one hour content-rich training call. Hopefully, your question will be one of a handful I’ll pick to answer during this special seminar. Email your question: overit at patrickwanis dot com ·         “Shock Therapy – 100,000” – a new report states that about 100,000 people are using shock therapy to treat depression. Electroconvulsive Therapy (ECT) has been likened to torture with reports of brain damage, memory loss of impaired cognitive functions. Listen to my interview with renowned Psychiatrist and author Peter Breggin about the dangers of anti-depressants and electroshock therapy. www.patrickwanis.com/RadioInterviews.asp  

Now let’s talk about the psychology of love.  

I have mentioned in previous Success Newsletters that love is a state that exists within you and someone else triggers that state so that you fall in love. How does that psychological process work? 

From my audio Book and workbook: “How to get over it – breakups, betrayals and rejection” www.patrickwanis.com/HowToGetOverItBook.asp  

“Can you think of someone in your life who instantly brings a smile to your face or a warm feeling inside of you? 

One such person for me was my high school drama teacher, Mr. Niven. He was hailed as a great director because of the plays and musicals he produced. What truly made him great though were his teaching abilities. There was a magical quality about him that brought out the best in almost everyone in the class. He created the safe place for the drama students whereby we felt that we could freely express ourselves on stage. And that was the key: he brought out in us that which already existed in us. All he had to do was to tap into our talent. He didn’t make us great actors –he brought out the great actor within each of us. Thus, we had great admiration for him and a strong bond, connection, affinity and affection for him. 

This story is an analogy to explain that when you find the person who knows how to trigger within you that state or feelings which already exist within you, then you fall in love.   Continue reading “The Pyschology of falling in love” »