In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal the roots of anger and the ways to neutralize anger by removing its roots.
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Now, let’s talk about the roots of anger.
Recently, I was explaining to a reporter that the incident involving the Jetblue flight attendant (who responded to an angry passenger by expressing anger himself when he quit his job and opened the emergency parachute to escape) is a sign of rampant stress in our society. And yes, stress can lead to outbursts of anger and even rage. But anger has many more causes than stress.
The dictionary defines anger as an emotion – a feeling of strong displeasure and belligerence. But anger is much more than that. Anger is the almost immediate response to being hurt, injured or wronged; the hurt or injury can be a physical, emotional or psychological pain. Beneath that anger is a deeper pain. In other words, while the unsafe expression of anger can cause problems, anger in itself is not the problem, but rather, it is the symptom of another problem, emotion or belief.
For example, Jonathan came to me concerned because he was having sudden feelings of a desire to hurt someone. Jonathan told me that he would be walking along the street when he would be overcome with anger and wanted to lash out and hit someone – anyone and everyone. Jonathan couldn’t identify a specific reason or trigger to his anger; he could be having a great day and then be out on the street for lunch when he would experience a sudden urge to hurt someone.
Jonathan’s case reminded me of a couple of people I worked with on the Montel Williams TV show a few years ago. The episode in question dealt exclusively with explosive anger. One man, James, age 31 was married with a young baby. He called himself a ticking time bomb; he would have sudden outbursts of anger, smashing and breaking things and thus endangering his child. While on set, a guest psychiatrist asked James if he had undergone tests to examine his brain because this psychiatrist believed there was something neurologically wrong with James. I immediately intervened and said to Montel that I did not believe there was anything wrong with James’ brain but rather that his anger was triggered from the horrible experiences James had suffered as a child – he was molested and abused by a family member, and then later abused and molested by the parents who adopted him; the very people that were supposed to love and protect him, not only betrayed his trust, they physically and emotionally abused him. Thus, James’ anger was geared at the world which he felt was unsafe, had betrayed him and hurt him.
