Comments on: Angry Nagging Men

By: Sheralie

Sheralie — Wed, 27 Mar 2013 12:03:37 +0000

Looked up ‘Men nagging’ and all that came up was loads of sites about nagging women which really annoys me!! I recently got married and everything was fine until a few days before. I am now constantly being talked at with ‘put down’ comments and a bullish attitude

It was interesting to read your article as I can feel myself closing down and distancing myself as I do not want this constant nagging, it is destroying what we had and he does not even realise it

Have printed it out to show him, just hope he doesn’t have another go at me!!

By: Erol

Erol — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 19:17:53 +0000

Great exploration of male anger at home. Maybe it’s not just that “he’s an angry man” but there is actually a reason. And maybe partners co-create what’s going on, it’s not just the blame of one side?

I read a great study a few years ago that suggested men report depression less than women because the symptoms show up different in each sex. Wow, maybe we ARE different, not the same? The study suggested that in men the symptom is anger, not sadness as in women. Men work to get out emotions while women often stuff them inside. And anger is usually the surface expression of grief, which is about loss. Anger is a sign he’s still fighting it and hasn’t dropped into helplessness yet.

Also, depression in men now seems to be related to lessened testosterone, rather than serotonin as in women. Again, we’re different.

So now, if I see an angry man, I’m wondering how he’s hurting. Has he lost something? Maybe it’s that fun playful time with his wife now that he’s just a dad and provider (i.e. paycheck)? Or maybe some time with the guys regularly to build up his testosterone. Maybe he’s lost the dream he had, as in the Putt Putt Syndrome.

I’m curious Patrick what you’ve found in this area.

By: Jennifer Rodriguez

Jennifer Rodriguez — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 05:02:35 +0000

Patrick,
It’s great to see you focus on this topic. Society often focuses on the “nagging wife” stereotype but neglects the fact that men nag just as harshly too. I’m glad to see another male point this out and show how the shoe fits on the other side of the foot too!
JR

By: Irene

Irene — Thu, 04 Mar 2010 00:35:32 +0000

Perfect! Couldn’t come in my Inbox at a better time! I feel the exact same way. Trying to balance work, home and family and feel every decision I make or action I take is met with resentment or criticism. I am going to forward to my husband right away.
Thanks 🙂