Comments on: When men refuse to be a real man

By: Amy

Amy — Thu, 27 Jun 2013 02:57:33 +0000

My husband hasn’t been a real man in 45+ years of marriage. He won’t sleep, talk, have sex, or associate with me in any way. He’s live our entire marriage in the basement or out in his garage with his shop and cars. Also purposely worked midnights so he wouldn’t have to be home with me.

By: Erol

Erol — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 20:00:41 +0000

Awesome brother! Great to see men standing up for the great qualities of men and men taking responsibility for their decisions. One of my teachers suggested the simple difference between men and boys is that “boys don’t have to take responsibility for their decisions.”

Imagine if the top bankers took responsibility for what their decision to succumb to profit pressures did to the global markets. Imagine HMO CEOs taking responsibility for their decision to deny coverage costing lives (like Wendell Potter). Imagine politicians taking responsibility for their decisions to take lobby money and be influenced by cash. Would this restore the faith in masculine leadership? Is this the real loss of faith in Washington that President Obama spoke of last night.

A favorite quote of mine is from Dan Rather: “Before the Bay of Pigs, Mr. Kennedy was our president. When he took responsibility for what happened, he became our leader.

By: Misslane

Misslane — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 06:01:06 +0000

I appreciate your candor and insight on this subject.
This is not only a case for men, but for women as well.
We hopefully will all come to a place where we realize that covering up our issues only delays our growth. Its important to admit our weaknesses and embrace our faults . At some point in our lives we will hopefully come to terms with our failures and not make excuses for our behavior.

Its only natural for men to have illusions of grandeur and denial and think that they are entitled to act a certain way. It seems that both the media and our society has made it acceptable and the norm. If we would return to biblical values and morality, maybe folks would think twice about their choices and start making decisions that uplifted themselves and the people around them.

By: Dee

Dee — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 01:02:17 +0000

Patrick — I love that you tackled this subject. I saw the “power”scenario in my life as a lawyer at two of the largest law firms in the world. I also live with a man who has not stepped up and seems to have the same attitude as your client’s man — I have no emotional support, am expected to handle all the household and child rearing duties b/c he “earns the money” (no jobs for lawyers right now). I have discovered that my man is a narcissist and one can only manage men like this. I have determined that it is part of my life journey to feel goosd about myself despite the lack of support and to have compassion for his inability to step up –he is not capable and it is not his fault.
Thanks for your insightfu writing and the opportunity for me to say my peace!

By: Jennifer Rodriguez

Jennifer Rodriguez — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 17:49:34 +0000

Wow! Very insightful Patrick! I love the quotes by Ben Franklin. I really hope that people read this with open minds and hearts because it really hits home! Keep up the insightful writing! JR