Comments on: Why Don’t You Change?

By: Erika

Erika — Tue, 13 Nov 2012 11:25:14 +0000

Patrick, thank you for your blog articles.

After reading much of them, this one included, I am struck with the emotion of apathy towards men. It seems more than a little indulgent to me that men, (a significant number of them), remain so steadfast in their refusal to change.

My response to that is: then, don’t.

I am to the point in my own life where men are increasingly becoming less and less interesting. They have never added to my life or goals, only hindered them, made me exceptionally unhappy and betrayed me incessantly.

I’m sure that my relationship choices are “my fault.” I had a horrible childhood and as an adult ended up picking the wrong ones to get involved with.

I just wonder why we, as women, continue to give these yahoos any kind of attention? It is ridiculous, and sad.

And lastly, where is the personal accountability of these men? In reading your articles and blog posts, it seems that women are the ones always left holding the bag of b.s., and told, “men are just like that.” Why is that supposed to be attractive to us?

It is atrocious. Seriously.

By: miki

miki — Thu, 30 Jun 2011 11:09:33 +0000

there is absolute truth in what you say about men never wanting to change.
I have been trying for the past 50 years to teach my husband neatness and order and to become a Christian. After 50 years he is STILL the most disorganized person imaginable and STILL laughing at Christians.

why are we still married? To uphold tradition.

By: Cher

Cher — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 05:01:37 +0000

I think that people allow themselves to get way too busy in life and switch over to auto pilot. That is why we find ourselves wondering what happens to the time. Take married couples that have been married for 40 years + They sometimes make the comment that they don’t know who this old man or who this old lady is that they are married to. I find that to be a very sorry way to live ones life and a huge misuse of time. That is why life is so short, we aren’t paying attention to ourselves, to what we feel, to how we feel and to giving our significant other the same respect. Our relationships have become disposable because we aren’t taking the time to value what is precious. It isn’t the sum of your bank account, it isn’t the Lexus in the driveway, it isn’t your 2-story house, it isn’t your vacation home in Maui, and it certainly isn’t your clothes or your hairstyle, or your shoes… The time you waste on these things could be better spent on how precious your life is.

As for the men, if you keep looking on the outside of a woman and cling to superficiality, you will find yourself clinging to no one. Woman will soon turn to other women whether they are gay or NOT because they won’t find what they need in the opposite sex!

As for women, you will never find a man that truly loves you because you can’t continue to fall in love with an idea. I find that to be very superficial too.

I’m sure we are all trying to play it safe and not get too involved but you will go through life with a feeling of bitter loneliness that way.