By: Jennifer Rodriguez

Jennifer Rodriguez — Thu, 18 Sep 2014 11:52:57 +0000

Again, another excellent article Patrick. The bottom line is that violence is a reactionary response to feelings of anger, hurt, shame or fear and if we had the emotional intelligence to recognize that, we would realize that being violent is not the way to address the issue. The problem is that Society views the fact that women slapping or kicking a man is less likely to actually hurt him (which is true in a technical sense) so it can be scoffed at or downplayed. This is not an option, we need to learn to stop handling our problems with violence in our Society and what Society tells us is that different variations of violence are okay. Female violence towards men is likely to actually hurt them so that’s okay but male violence towards women is more likely to kill them so it’s a no-no. But the truth is that neither is a NO NO. Finally, women also misinterpret male boundaries with violent actions. Sometimes a woman smacks a man or hits him on the back (not forcefully) because she thinks that this is the way to get his attention or make him listen to her better but she doesn’t realize that for a man, being hit (with any kind of force) is akin to a direct assault and he instinctively feels the need to defend himself. Instead of paying more attention to her or listening better, he hits her back with ten times more force than she does. A lot of domestic violence cases result from these kinds of situations. I should know, I had to spend my whole childhood dealing with domestic violence and living in neighborhoods where domestic violence was rampant. If only people had discussed the idea of having emotional intelligence to handle conflict back then!

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By: Jennifer Rodriguez