{"id":8547,"date":"2014-04-05T12:22:35","date_gmt":"2014-04-05T17:22:35","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/patrickwanis.com\/blog\/?p=8547"},"modified":"2021-02-02T18:27:12","modified_gmt":"2021-02-02T23:27:12","slug":"celebrity-psychological-issues-no-4-5-lack-of-trust-isolation-loneliness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.patrickwanis.com\/celebrity-psychological-issues-no-4-5-lack-of-trust-isolation-loneliness\/","title":{"rendered":"Celebrity Psychological Issues No. 4 & 5 – Lack of trust, Isolation, loneliness"},"content":{"rendered":"
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\u201cI was actually crying out for help\u201d \u2013 John Lennon<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Here are issues 4 and 5 of the Top 20 issues of being a celebrity. For the previous article \u2013 celebrity psychological issues 1, 2 & 3\u00a0Click here\u00a0<\/a><\/p>\n

4. \u201cI can\u2019t trust anyone\u201d \u2013 The fake world of fame
\n<\/strong>The inability to trust is an issue facing every celebrity \u2013 even if you were a highly trusting person prior to becoming famous. As mentioned above in Parasites & Enablers, everyone is a \u2018yes man\u2019 and you soon wake up to realize everyone \u2018loves\u2019 you for a reason \u2013 the huge benefits they derive from you. I refer to this as \u2018Hello. What can you do for me?\u2019<\/em> It\u2019s unspoken but definitely communicated as soon as someone realizes who you are and how you can help them. You constantly feel people are using you and taking advantage of you.<\/p>\n

Further, you will never receive an honest opinion or appraisal from the people around you because they are always dependent on you for their subsistence or the many ways you benefit and profit them. There is a powerful story of Mick Jagger working with a new recruit for his tours. On the second day, the new employee approached Mick and asked for his autograph stating that he is a big fan of Mick\u2019s.<\/p>\n

Mick kindly obliged, and on the third day, he fired the employee.<\/p>\n

Mick Jagger was astute enough to recognize that a fan can never, and would never, give him an honest critique of his work and performances.<\/p>\n

5. “I have no friends; I am all alone\u201d \u00a0\u2013 Isolation & loneliness<\/strong><\/p>\n

Isolation is one of the greatest problems and issues for every celebrity. As you become aware of the fakeness of fame, you wake up and start thinking \u201cEveryone just wants me for my money, power or fame.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

You question whether they like you for who you really are or just what you do. At the same time, you quickly see that even your old friends (the real ones) begin to desert you. They were close to you but the more you hang out with them, particularly in public, the more they feel left out. Also, some of them simply can\u2019t handle the overwhelming amount of attention you are getting when you are together. They also feel you have changed. They stop calling. You feel isolated, you begin isolating yourself, and worse, you turn to substances to escape the pain.<\/p>\n

It truly can be lonely at the top.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen “Help!” came out in ’65, I was actually crying out for help. Most people think it’s just a fast rock-‘n’-roll song. I didn’t realize it at the time; I just wrote the song because I was commissioned to write it for the movie. But later, I knew I really was crying out for help. It was my fat Elvis period. You see the movie: He – I – is very fat, very insecure, and he’s completely lost himself. And I am singing about when I was so much younger and all the rest, looking back at how easy it was. Now I may be very positive – yes, yes – but I also go through deep depressions where I would like to jump out the window, you know. It becomes easier to deal with as I get older; I don’t know whether you learn control or, when you grow up, you calm down a little. Anyway, I was fat and depressed and I was crying out for help.\u201d<\/em> \u2013 John Lennon – interview with Playboy magazine, January 1981 https:\/\/www.recmusicbeatles.com\/public\/files\/bbs\/jl_yo.playboy\/lennon4.html<\/p>\n

For issues 6 & 7 of the top 20 celebrity issues, click here<\/strong><\/a><\/h2>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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