A child being sexually abused is bad; a child suffering and dying from terminal cancer is bad; genocide is bad. Distinguish between the life events that are truly bad and cause suffering; and beware of making yourself suffer over things that don’t warrant suffering.
Did you know that Tylenol works as effectively on emotional pain such as heartache as it does on physical pain?
Why?
Your brain reacts to social pain and pleasure in the same way as it does to physical pain and pleasure. It processes emotional pain and physical pain in the same parts of the brain.
Your friends are divorcing – to whom do you be loyal? “Blind loyalty is wrong”, says Dr. Wanis. He argues you should be loyal to what is right.
In every case I have ever worked with people who were sexually abused, each, and every one of them blames themselves for the abuse (often it is subconscious self-blame.) And the sexual arousal worsens the deep shame.
Healthy shame is the acceptance that you are human. Healthy shame is acceptance that you are capable but also limited; worthy and influential (able to make a difference), worthy of love and connection.
Isn’t it true, even for you, that we often escape being punished for the wrong things we did – and yet sometimes punished for things we didn’t do? When we focus on the things that were unfair – being punished when it wasn’t our fault, or we were being human and made mistakes, then we scream that life is never fair! And yet we forget about the times we got away with other mistakes or wrongdoings, perhaps some serious.
Phubbing is rarely a deliberate act. Phubbing is a habit or an impulse; for others, such as Susan, it is actually a way to deal with social anxiety or with general anxiety by distracting herself and disconnecting from the person with her.
The first is “forced togetherness.” ‘Oh, now that I really know my partner, I don’t like them.’ The second is the existential crisis: “Who am I? Why am I here? What am I doing? How much time do I have left? What do I want to do with it?”
Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique The therapeutic technique that guarantees bigger, better, and faster results for your clients https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bSftonNsFjU&feature=emb_logoListen to actual live recorded sessions by Patrick…
Your narrative identity or the story you created about yourself originates in conversations between you and your parents, the events that occurred, and the way that you interpreted those events.