In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal the pain of hiding yourself in relationships by being fake and inauthentic because you fear
I now perceive life very differently as a result of Covid-19. I realize more than ever that we are not just human beings – we also need to be doing, to live with purpose, to love and believe in others and above all to shape and sculpt our future from a place of hope and optimism!
You are not actually thinking about love, compatibility, shared values, shared goals and dreams or emotional intimacy. You are only thinking about the commitment – to build a life together but the commitment is not authentic because you are doing it to please other people, to get approval or to avoid criticism and rebuke.
In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal what it means to be authentic and the 2 keys to being authentic. First a
In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal the 20 principals that demonstrate real care – at home and at work. First a
Finding closure in a relationship simply means bringing the relationship to an end – and on all levels – mental, physical and emotional. It is about closing the door and feeling at ease; not turning back each time to try to reopen the door and looking or hoping either to find something that is not there or for something that no longer exists or perhaps never existed.
Everyone is self-centered. Even the people who give to charities or serve others or preach to ‘save’ others or pray for others or meditate for world healing are still being self-centered. How so?
Hopelessness does not sustain life!
So, what is hope to you? Is it a desire; wishful thinking; probability, possibility or just an emotion of expecting something good or better?
You will also experience sadness when there is a change in your life, particularly a dramatic change or end – again, even if you wanted or made that change yourself. You will also feel sad because your identity has been shattered due to the breakup, as well as the shattering or sudden end of routines, habits, and family and friend connections.
“Ceaseless optimism about the future only makes for a greater shock when things go wrong; by fighting to maintain only positive beliefs about the future, the positive thinker ends up being less prepared, and more acutely distressed, when things eventually happen that he can’t persuade himself to believe are good.”
People with a fixed mindset tend to ignore useful negative feedback – ‘I am my mistakes, I am my failures, I am innately bad; they are attacking me personally.’
The thoughts that create suffering are the thoughts whereby you refuse to accept change, or you resist or struggle against people and things over which you have no control. You cannot change or control the people in your life, and nothing remains the same, nothing lasts forever: Impermanence is a fact of life.
One form of happiness leads to health via an anti-inflammatory and anti-viral response in the body, while the other leads to a decrease in the anti-viral response and an high increase in inflammation implicated in stress and a wide spectrum of diseases such as arthritis and heart disease.
When you decide that it is your role to please everyone or to make everyone else around you happy, then you will never be able to be you, you will never be able to be authentic or true to yourself, and you will be confused about who you really are because you are constantly changing yourself to be what others expect of you, or, what you think they expect of or need from you.
How many times per minute do you breathe? Without being consciously aware, you are probably breathing 12 -18 times per minute, and that is very unhealthy, triggering more stress and anxiety, disrupting sleep, and damaging your body.
What happens, though, when the roles are reversed, and the child is expected to give – to give in the form of taking care of, protecting or meeting the emotional needs of the parent or a sibling – even financially?
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Which traumas lead to Social Defeat Stress? Any trauma you experienced where you felt powerless, hopeless or helpless will lead to feeling defeated. Experiencing abuse and/or being bullied are common example of social defeat stress.