emotional control; rules to control your emotions

How To Control Your Emotions Before They Control You

Controlling your emotions is not equivalent to preventing, denying or escaping an emotion...You are not the emotion; you are experiencing the emotion...As soon as you feel the emotion, say aloud...
doomscrolling, doomsurfing, If it's outrageous, it's contagious, anxiety, covid-19, Dr. George Gerbner, rumination

How To End Doomscrolling and Take Your Life Back Now! 10 Ways

The media focuses on creating fear and pain because we automatically and neurologically respond more to the fear of pain than to the enticement or announcement of pleasure. We scan for danger, to avoid threats and to try to allay our deeper unconscious fears of death and dying.
covid-19 uncertainty, instability, the unknown, “Doubt is an uncomfortable condition, but certainty is a ridiculous one.” - Voltaire, Psychologist and economist, Daniel Kahneman

7 Ways To Embrace This Uncertainty & Become Empowered

Think of your own life prior to the pandemic; what did you believe was guaranteed or certain? Your marriage, relationship, job, career, health, or investments?...Most people choose predictability, the known and even routine over the unknown because it gives a sense of safety, security, and stability. However, life is not experienced in a linear fashion.
The Harvard Study of Adult Development; “The good life is built with good relationships"; Mark Twain, Robert Waldinger; memory decline, loneliness kills

Don’t Distance, Get Closer Now!

3. Bickering doesn’t matter; having someone to count on is what protects your brain and health. “Good relationships don't just protect our bodies, they protect our brains.

How to Survive And Strengthen Your Relationships During Covid-19 – 7 Tips

Covid-19 and forced togetherness easily bring out the worst in relationships (i.e. the truth is being presented and people are exposed for who they really are because there are less distractions, and less escaping each other and oneself.) Also, the expectations you set for each other changes dramatically in the context of Covid-19.

We Are In The Butterfly Effect – 7 Tips to Conquer Uncertainty, Anxiety & Fear

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The Butterfly Effect - part of the Chaos Theory – states that one very small change may result in massive and unpredictable consequences: one seemingly insignificant moment may alter history and shape multiple destinies. The term comes from Edward Lorenz who in 1961 created an early computer program to simulate weather.
Bill Campbell; trillion dollar coach;

Are You Coachable? And Why That Matters In Every Relationship

“A coach is someone who tells you what you don’t want to hear, who has you see what you don’t want to see, so you can be who you have always known you could be.”

How One Policeman’s Humility Transformed A Protest And Ended In Everyone Praying Together

Moments passed when a policeman walked out in the divide, toward the protesters. He stopped halfway, and then he suddenly got down on one knee. Within a second, there were so many loud screams ringing out as the protesters went running to him, and they, too, got down on their knees and hugged the policeman.
character and characteristics of a hero

"Batman and Superman are not coming to save the world. It will be up to you." Admiral McRaven MIT Speech

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Speaking the truth can be dangerous at times...If you are going to save the world, you will need courage...If you are going to save the world, you will need to be humble...If you do not approach the world with humility, it will find a way to humble you quickly. 

How To Overcome The Grief and Loss From Covid-19. Grief Recovery Process

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7. Reality Check. If you pause, you will realize that the majority of your pain stems from wanting things to be different – the inability (refusal to accept) that things are not the way you want them to be. Perhaps you want the past to be better, different or to never end. We often fall into the misconception and expectation that things, relationships, and people will last forever and never change or, worse, that they will change the way we want.
grieving process; 5 stages of grief; grief recovery method

We Are All Grieving - Beware of These 7 Dangerous Myths

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The pandemic has resulted in huge losses and major changes for all of us – lifestyle, work, job, career, finances, routine, stability, security, the former sense of safety & control, freedom, independence, human interactions, human connection & touch, meaning and purpose, dreams, ambitions, and life goals. We all are experiencing some form of grief and at various intensities. Grief can include feelings of being alone & unsupported, numbness, heaviness, guilt, sadness, confusion, anger, loneliness, relief, disconnection, hopelessness, and meaninglessness.
resiliency, self-doubt, agency, why, meaning, identity, Psychological Capital

How To Become Resilient In Spite Of Everything

Resiliency is your ability to bounce back from setbacks, disappointments and failures, and to do so with new wisdom, new insights and with added motivation. Resiliency can be developed and enhanced. Most people simply doubt themselves and their ability to bounce back!
Viktor Frankl

Can You Still Find Hope & Meaning Now? Here Is How

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You have the ability, power and capacity to decide in every single moment who and what you will be; you get to decide what meaning you are going to give to your life. You and only you, decide what is meaningful & consequential and what is meaningless and of no importance.
12 Questions To Ask Yourself That Will Help You Through The Crisis And Help You To Bounce Back and Become Resilient

12 Questions To Ask Yourself That Will Help You Through The Crisis And Help You To Bounce Back and Become Resilient

Around 600 BC, one of the 7 sages of Greece inscribed on…
arguments, responsibility, defensiveness, relationships, advice

One Strategy To Disarm Arguments

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal…

Coronavirus & The Psychological Effects of Isolation - interview

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Covid-19 (Coronavirus) has impacted mental health in an extraordinary…

How To Overcome Loneliness – In 4 Steps

Loneliness is the feeling of being disconnected, separate, isolated, or even feeling like you're an outsider. Loneliness is different to feeling alone. You could be physically alone in a room and not feel lonely, or you could be in a room full of people and still feel lonely.
Vagus nerve, rejection, parasympathetic nervous system, social rejection, heartache,

How Rejection Causes Pain In Your Body - The Physiological Impact Of Rejection

However, stress and over-stimulation of the vagus nerve can create neck pain, tension headaches, chest pain, stomach pain, nausea, etc. Further, shallow breathing, fear, stress and anxiety all negatively impact the vagus nerve and, in turn, result in all sorts of bodily imbalances – pains, indigestion, bladder problems, low or high blood pressure, fainting, and so forth.

Coronavirus - Fight, Flight Or Freeze - How Are You Responding?

If you respond with fear, then you will potentially be panicking and hallucinating about all of the worst possible scenarios and outcomes. You might be in an emotional state of anxiety. That might be manifested with you becoming obsessive, ruminating and constantly consumed and controlled by the desperate urge to read and watch everything on the news about the virus and pandemic.

Coronavirus –The Psychological Impact Of Isolation And The Impact on Human Rights

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Each day, the trauma seems to intensify because we’re told more and more about what we need to be afraid of or where we’ve got more and more freedom being removed from each one of us. Thus, because there’s no specific end in sight it becomes much more frightening, much more traumatic for each of us while we also face major challenges to adapt to such rapid change.