How To Overcome The Grief and Loss From Covid-19. Grief Recovery Process

7. Reality Check. If you pause, you will realize that the majority of your pain stems from wanting things to be different – the inability (refusal to accept) that things are not the way you want them to be. Perhaps you want the past to be better, different or to never end. We often fall into the misconception and expectation that things, relationships, and people will last forever and never change or, worse, that they will change the way we want.
grieving process; 5 stages of grief; grief recovery method

We Are All Grieving - Beware of These 7 Dangerous Myths

The pandemic has resulted in huge losses and major changes for all of us – lifestyle, work, job, career, finances, routine, stability, security, the former sense of safety & control, freedom, independence, human interactions, human connection & touch, meaning and purpose, dreams, ambitions, and life goals. We all are experiencing some form of grief and at various intensities. Grief can include feelings of being alone & unsupported, numbness, heaviness, guilt, sadness, confusion, anger, loneliness, relief, disconnection, hopelessness, and meaninglessness.
resiliency, self-doubt, agency, why, meaning, identity, Psychological Capital

How To Become Resilient In Spite Of Everything

Resiliency is your ability to bounce back from setbacks, disappointments and failures, and to do so with new wisdom, new insights and with added motivation. Resiliency can be developed and enhanced. Most people simply doubt themselves and their ability to bounce back!
Viktor Frankl

Can You Still Find Hope & Meaning Now? Here Is How

You have the ability, power and capacity to decide in every single moment who and what you will be; you get to decide what meaning you are going to give to your life. You and only you, decide what is meaningful & consequential and what is meaningless and of no importance.
arguments, responsibility, defensiveness, relationships, advice

One Strategy To Disarm Arguments

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal…

How To Overcome Loneliness – In 4 Steps

Loneliness is the feeling of being disconnected, separate, isolated, or even feeling like you're an outsider. Loneliness is different to feeling alone. You could be physically alone in a room and not feel lonely, or you could be in a room full of people and still feel lonely.
Vagus nerve, rejection, parasympathetic nervous system, social rejection, heartache,

How Rejection Causes Pain In Your Body - The Physiological Impact Of Rejection

However, stress and over-stimulation of the vagus nerve can create neck pain, tension headaches, chest pain, stomach pain, nausea, etc. Further, shallow breathing, fear, stress and anxiety all negatively impact the vagus nerve and, in turn, result in all sorts of bodily imbalances – pains, indigestion, bladder problems, low or high blood pressure, fainting, and so forth.

Coronavirus - Fight, Flight Or Freeze - How Are You Responding?

If you respond with fear, then you will potentially be panicking and hallucinating about all of the worst possible scenarios and outcomes. You might be in an emotional state of anxiety. That might be manifested with you becoming obsessive, ruminating and constantly consumed and controlled by the desperate urge to read and watch everything on the news about the virus and pandemic.
pandemic; life lessons

When All Of This Is Over, How Will We Have Changed?

Many of us identify with our possessions, and we are often clamoring to be somewhere else rather than where we are at this present moment. Now, though, we are forced to face ourselves. The question arises, who are you and what is really important to you in life? Every one of us is experiencing some form of loss.
This, too, shall pass. Every moment of your life is temporary or transient; both good and bad things will happen, many over which you have no control.

Coronavirus: How To Stay Calm and Overcome Fear, Loneliness & Panic

Imagine now a time in the future when the pandemic is over and someone asks you, “How did you handle and survive the Coronavirus pandemic”? What would you say to them? This is a powerful exercise to help you to identify and articulate what qualities and character traits you need to draw upon now to formulate a healthy response to the crisis and pandemic.
“Men are disturbed, not by things, but by the principles and notions which they form concerning things.” – Epictetus; irrational beliefs; REBT; Must, Should, Ought

If He Doesn’t Love Me, Then I Am Worthless

You created a belief that includes ‘should’ or ‘must’: He should love me (in this way) or I am no good; he must love me for me to believe and feel and experience that I am valuable, special and good enough. And if he doesn’t love me in the way I want and demand, then I know he is awful, life is awful, and I am nothing.
meditation technique; Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche; ‘monkey-like mind’ (kapicitta); breathe in, breathe out

Can You Tame Your Monkey Mind? Here’s A Simple Technique

Your 65,000 daily thoughts, ramblings, rumination, restlessness, agitation, distraction, obsessiveness, prophecies of doom, and the incessant desire to keep moving are all the work of the monkey mind. So, who is in charge? Is it you or your monkey mind? Here’s a technique to help you tame the monkey mind.
defense mechanisms Identification with the Aggressor Repression Projection Displacement Sublimation Denial Regression Rationalization Reaction Formation ego anna freud relationship breakups loss

Are You Feeling Sad After a Breakup? You’re Not Alone. 7 Steps To Overcome Sadness

The worst advice that anyone can give you when you are feeling sad is to tell you to stop feeling sad and instead be happy. You are not a robot, and the experience of intense emotions, both positive and negative, is part of being human. You cannot expect or long to experience ecstasy, joy, love and excitement without also recognizing that you will also experience pain and suffering.
extreme ownership; accountability, responsibility, internal blame (self-loathing), external blame (victimhood, excuses, blaming others) or drama and negative emotions (incessant anger, bitterness, negative energy and loss of impulse control)

Do You Own Your Decisions Or Do You Make These 3 Crippling Mistakes?

The 3 mistakes of internal blame (self-loathing), external blame (victimhood, excuses, blaming others) or drama and negative emotions (incessant anger, bitterness, negative energy and loss of impulse control) or, we can take extreme ownership (accept responsibility for everything in our world and focus on a solution and learn from the experience.)
We learn more from setbacks and penalties than we do from successes and rewards: we respond to the painful more than to the joyful experiences.

Focusing On The Bad Destroys Relationships

the destructive responses are much more powerful than the constructive responses in relationships. We learn more from setbacks and penalties than we do from successes and rewards: we respond to the painful more than to the joyful experiences.
relationship ready; date ready

Was It Really Bad Timing Or The Wrong Person?

Don’t confuse personality, character and values with timing – being relationship ready
Hope for that which is utterly just, and prepare yourself for that which is utterly unjust - Seneca

Neutralize Your Anxiety - Face Your Greatest Fear & Worst Outcome

.Why would you think that ‘this could never happen’ when it has already happened to others? "Hope for that which is utterly just, and prepare yourself for that which is utterly unjust.”

8 Blind Spots Between Men and Women

4. Men feel they are walking on eggshells with women "Men say they often feel they can't express their ideas or be their natural, casual selves without the fear of inadvertently saying or doing something that may upset a woman."

12 Life Lessons From Children With Terminal Illnesses

11. Family is everything. Finally, they ALL valued time with their family. Nothing was more important.

Regret Is a Poison - You’re Not Your Mistakes

When you steep yourself in the tea of regret, you begin to drown because you cannot think of anything else except that which you have no control over, namely the past. Instead of taking control of your life, you become chained to the past, longing to have done things differently and no longer focusing on what you can now control, and the way you can shape and mold your life.