Soul Mates – Find Your Perfect Match Now!
See also Patrick’s first Soul Mates book: “Soul Mates –Discovering, Sharing & Loving”
Whether we consciously recognize it or not, our deepest desire is to love and be loved. Love nourishes the heart, mind, body and soul. It is the expression and experience of love for another human being that makes us feel truly alive, ecstatic, joyful and elated. It is love that awakens all of our senses and gives us the feeling of being complete.
Thus, many of us spend most of our lives looking for that love that we believe will complete us. Some of us become despondent even desperate because we have not yet found that one person that we believe was destined to be with us, the one person who we expect will fill our every need, complete us and make us eternally happy –our soul mate and perfect match.
There is a soul mate, a perfect match for every one of us, and in this book I reveal the secrets to recognizing and finding your soul mate, your perfect match. I reveal that the only thing stopping you from finding your soul mate has been you and what you can do right now to find your perfect match and with it love and happiness.
SOUL MATES ©
Find Your Perfect Match Now.”
-By Patrick Wanis
WOW Media, 2005
Table of contents
What is a Soul Mate?………………………..….8
Why Haven’t I Found my Soul Mate?…..…..13
Who Are You?……..…………………………………..21
Who is Your Soul Mate?…………………..…..30
Preparing for Your Soul Mate…….…….………37
You Are Worthy of Love………………………..47
Attracting Your Soul Mate…………….…..…….64
Questions and Answers………………………….67
Love Begins with Us ……………………….……..73
About The Author………………………..….…….77
WHAT IS A SOUL MATE?
What is the soul? What is the spirit?
There are three main definitions of soul mates:
TWIN SOULS – TWIN FLAMES
ONE TRUE LOVE
All of the soul mate concepts have one thing in common…
In this book, we are dealing only with the romantic soul mate.
WHY HAVEN’T I YET FOUND MY SOUL MATE?
Why is it that some people so easily find their soul mate while others search desperately for theirs?
Do you believe that we create our own reality or that we are complete victims?
The power of beliefs. How to take charge of your world and reality.
The story of two inspirational people who changed their world by their choices, responses and beliefs.
PATTERNS IN RELATIONSHIPS
Do you believe your present partner or past partners were chance relationships or did you somehow subconsciously attract them into your life? Is it possible that the people you have attracted into your life –romantic or other are a reflection of what you believe about yourself and the world around you?
Here is the powerful exercise that I created that helped me to identify my pattern and faulty beliefs and which I have used with many of my clients:
From your answers, can you see now what has been holding you back from finding your perfect match, your soul mate?
If you take a careful look, you will notice that we have been attracting into our life all those things and people that fit in with our beliefs.
The 3-Step Process for Behavioral Change
Later in this book, I show you how to change your beliefs. Now let’s continue the journey of discovery and awareness, unmasking what we want and who we truly are.
WHO ARE YOU?
Ultimately we want to find our soul mate and perfect match so that we can experience, express love, grow and feel special. What makes each one of us feel special varies for each one of us based on our individual value system.
Your Core Values
Establishing your core values: what is important in your life. Values vary from one person to another.
Below is a sample list of potential values. Write a list of your top ten values and prioritize them in order of importance.
The reason why so many people fail in relationships…
Most people are fooled into thinking all they need to do is to fall in love and the love or physical, chemical attraction will be enough to guarantee a successful relationship. False!
Let’s consider a few examples of people whose values clash…
It’s important to notice that the success index and values may change according to the age and life experiences of each person
YOUR DEFINITION OF SUCCESS
Therefore each person’s individual values will determine his or her definition of success and what he or she looks for in a partner and relationship.
Always be on the lookout for a partner who has the same values and ideas of success as you do.
WHO IS YOUR SOUL MATE?
We can only begin to get what we want when we know what we want.
So let’s begin by getting a clear picture of whom your soul mate is. Let’s identify what traits your soul mate has (mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual.)
YOUR PERFECT MATCH
An exercise that helps you to clearly identify everything you would like in your partner –all of his or her qualities.
Here is a sample list of the top ten traits one man wants in his Soul Mate:
KEEP YOUR MIND ON YOUR PERFECT MATE
Now that you have your top ten list of what you want in a partner, read it daily, and memorize it. By focusing on the man (or woman) you want, you will attract him into your life. Remember, what you focus on expands.
Dominant thoughts are those that take up most of your time and energy; and they might be obsessive thoughts.
What are you thinking most of the day? Fearful thoughts? Loving thoughts? Empowering thoughts?
You might not even be aware of exactly what your dominant thoughts are. Most of our thoughts bypass our radar; we are on autopilot. Only when we stop and become consciously aware do we realize exactly what we are thinking.
PREPARING FOR YOUR SOUL MATE
Now there is one key piece missing from the puzzle: will your soul mate be attracted to you?
ARE YOU READY?
If you are not ready, even if you do meet your soul mate the relationship will quickly fail. For me it was never about meeting the right woman, it was about me becoming the right man.
Therefore to be ready for your soul mate or perfect match means to develop your self-worth, self-esteem and those qualities that will attract your soul mate to you.
Becoming aware of false expectations and playing roles that are disempowering or self-sabotaging…
THE IMPORTANCE OF SELF-ESTEEM
The higher you raise your self-esteem and self-worth, the more you will attract your soul mate, your perfect match. Here are a couple of exercises designed to make you feel better about yourself, about who you are.
YOUR GRATITUDE LIST
I teach my clients that the most positive emotion is that of gratitude. The most negative is revenge. Be also careful not to focus on what other people have and in turn, resent it. Allow yourself to express joy for other people’s success, love, wealth and happiness. Bless them and what they have. Your blessings of them will return to you.
Learn to allow yourself to accept and acknowledge your talents, gifts and successes. We all need to be appreciated. Begin with yourself.
YOU ARE WORTHY OF LOVE
Are you worthy? Do you believe you are worthy? And of what are you worthy? Do you deserve the best? Everything that we have in our lives, we have because we believe at a deep level that is what we deserve. We will not pursue something that we deep down believe we are not worthy of or, if we do achieve it, we will subconsciously sabotage it.
Many of us are so harsh, overcritical and highly judgmental of ourselves, believing that nothing we will ever do will ever be good enough.
The key is to become aware of what you say and think about yourself, all day long.
ORIGINS OF SELF-WORTH -OR LACK OF IT
Our beliefs about ourselves, our worth, our perceptions and conclusions about the world and life come from our programming as children. We form conclusions about life based on what we learned and experienced as children. We learned three ways:
Our beliefs become self-fulfilling prophecies and we always act in accordance with our predominant beliefs.
Are you even aware of your motivations or beliefs?
IMPERFECTION IS OK
The Enlightened Warrior Training Camp is an intense program of…
“Do you need to be better?” I suddenly realized how almost all of my life I had been driven by the need to be better.
The key to happiness is to learn to love and accept ourselves, forgive ourselves and realize we are worthy. We do deserve the very best of everything.
FINDING UNDERSTANDING AND SELF-ACCEPTANCE
Once we become aware of what we are doing and why we are doing it, we can begin to change it. This second step is to seek understanding.
SEEK YOUR OWN APPROVAL
As adults we have the power to choose: to choose our friends, our life and our beliefs about ourselves.
A belief is just a thought pattern and it can be changed. How to change your beliefs:
YOU DESERVE THE BEST
The third step to permanent change is to change your beliefs, to reprogram your mind. With my clients I often incorporate hypnosis as a way to access the subconscious mind where the beliefs are held and stored. You can achieve the same result using a simple three-step process.
ATTRACTING YOUR SOUL MATE
Now you know what values are important to you, what qualities you want in your perfect match and you are working on building your self-worth to attract your soul mate. There is only one step left that will bring you the powerful results you are seeking.
Remember: What you focus on expands. It becomes your dominant thought. The same applies to finding your soul mate.
Emotionalize What You Visualize.
A unique exercise that will make you an instant magnet for your soul mate!
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS
Q: Will my soul mate and I have identical interests? Q: Will our relationship be trouble-free?
Q: How can a couple that doesn’t meet until they are older, grow together? Haven’t they already created their values in life?
Q: Can I love someone who is not my soul mate?
Q: What if my soul mate and I grow in different directions?
LOVE BEGINS WITH US
Love is the most important thing in life. Love nourishes the heart, mind, body and soul. And when we are able to freely express and receive love we truly feel alive and joyful. To allow ourselves to be loved only occurs when we first love and accept ourselves.
Love begins with us. As we learn to love ourselves we automatically send out the signal and call to our soul mate. Only when we truly know what we want and believe we are worthy of it can we reach for it. And when we learn to love ourselves then we will notice our soul mate and perfect match and he or she will also notice us and be attracted to us.
Remember, be gentle on yourself, be patient, keep working on you and you will attract your soul mate, your perfect match at exactly the right time and then you will be truly ready to experience and express love in all its glory and be able to be happy in love.
See also Patrick’s first Soul Mates book: “Soul Mates –Discovering, Sharing & Loving” Copyright WOW Media 2004
Anointed “The Woman Expert” by WGN Chicago, Patrick Wanis PhD is a renowned Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert who developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and is teaching it to other practitioners. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. CNN, BBC, FOX News, MSNBC & major news outlets worldwide consult Wanis for his expert insights and analysis on sexuality, human behavior and women’s issues. Wanis is the first person ever to do hypnotherapy on national TV – on the Montel Williams show.