You’re either growing or you’re dying. The tree’s either growing or it’s dying. So’s grass. So’s a marriage. So’s a business. So’s a person.
What is the greatest predictor of your success? Is it social intelligence, good looks, physical health, luck, opportunity, IQ, EQ or natural talent? Grit is influenced by genes, but it is also influenced by experience. 4 keys are required to build grit.
Self-handicapping is a term in psychology that refers to self-sabotage – behavior designed to strategically protect your self-esteem, self-image, ego or perceived competence and image by others. Surprisingly men do it much more than women.
When you experience negative emotions (anger, fear, anxiety) your brain works immediately to help you to survive by engaging the fight-or-flight response….However, positive emotions have the opposite effect,
I had a moment of mixed joy and anguish when my mind took over. It raced well ahead of my body, and drew me compellingly forward. I felt that the moment of a lifetime had come…it wasn’t a physical barrier, but I think it had become a psychological barrier
‘Learned helplessness’ is the belief that you have no power, no control and no ability to construct your life.
I also think about my mother who experienced breast cancer and overcame it but later got Alzheimer’s and dementia. And so, I believe that women experience a lot more suffering than men
When you are in love, your brain experiences the same high as if you were on the drug cocaine. Psychological factors such as values, education, intelligence, socioeconomic background, interests, hobbies and faith account for reasons that people fall in love but fails to explain chemistry.
The only thing within your control is your mind: Control your perceptions. Direct your actions properly. Willingly accept what’s outside your control.
Kang who prided herself on ‘no apologies, no excuses’, is actually apologizing now, and confessing she did it all for the wrong reasons: driven by insecurity and not feeling good enough, she battled depression, bulimia and body dysmorphia and, she got breast implants in the hope she would have the perfect body and be validated by others.