What happens, though, when the roles are reversed, and the child is expected to give – to give in the form of taking care of, protecting or meeting the emotional needs of the parent or a sibling – even financially?
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Which traumas lead to Social Defeat Stress? Any trauma you experienced where you felt powerless, hopeless or helpless will lead to feeling defeated. Experiencing abuse and/or being bullied are common example of social defeat stress.
Imagine a little girl who has extreme attacks of asthma every time her dad gets angry and punches the wall, or children who are diagnosed with ADHD and yet have a long history of childhood trauma. These are all actual cases.
When you coach yourself using third-person self-talk, you immediately lower resistance and you uncover things that you didn’t consciously know about yourself.
“Why Me?”
That’s the question that plagues almost every victim of a bad experience – an illness, a loss, an accident, abuse, molestation, betrayal, a death of a loved one, and so forth.
Communicate with your friends and express everything you are feeling; go deeper than the anger and frustration. If you want to “be real”, and to “keep it real”, then be open and vulnerable. You will learn that you are not alone in experiencing problems, and you can receive support and give support to your friends.
“The Fertile Void” is a space or phase when you can’t make sense of what is happening, you cannot attribute real meaning to it; you are unsure about who you are, where you are, where you’re heading and what life is about, and so it feels empty, completely empty.
Most couples ignore such clashes in values until they become deal breakers, not realizing they were always unspoken deal breakers.
Thus, it makes sense that “bad timing” is also one of the top 5 causes of breakups cited by both men and women.
Controlling your emotions is not equivalent to preventing, denying or escaping an emotion…You are not the emotion; you are experiencing the emotion…As soon as you feel the emotion, say aloud…