The media focuses on creating fear and pain because we automatically and neurologically respond more to the fear of pain than to the enticement or announcement of pleasure. We scan for danger, to avoid threats and to try to allay our deeper unconscious fears of death and dying.
Think of your own life prior to the pandemic; what did you believe was guaranteed or certain? Your marriage, relationship, job, career, health, or investments?…Most people choose predictability, the known and even routine over the unknown because it gives a sense of safety, security, and stability. However, life is not experienced in a linear fashion.
3. Bickering doesn’t matter; having someone to count on is what protects your brain and health. “Good relationships don’t just protect our bodies, they protect our brains.
Covid-19 and forced togetherness easily bring out the worst in relationships (i.e. the truth is being presented and people are exposed for who they really are because there are less distractions, and less escaping each other and oneself.) Also, the expectations you set for each other changes dramatically in the context of Covid-19.
The Butterfly Effect – part of the Chaos Theory – states that one very small change may result in massive and unpredictable consequences: one seemingly insignificant moment may alter history and shape multiple destinies. The term comes from Edward Lorenz who in 1961 created an early computer program to simulate weather.
“A coach is someone who tells you what you don’t want to hear, who has you see what you don’t want to see, so you can be who you have always known you could be.”
Moments passed when a policeman walked out in the divide, toward the protesters. He stopped halfway, and then he suddenly got down on one knee. Within a second, there were so many loud screams ringing out as the protesters went running to him, and they, too, got down on their knees and hugged the policeman.
Speaking the truth can be dangerous at times…If you are going to save the world, you will need courage…If you are going to save the world, you will need to be humble…If you do not approach the world with humility, it will find a way to humble you quickly.
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7. Reality Check. If you pause, you will realize that the majority of your pain stems from wanting things to be different – the inability (refusal to accept) that things are not the way you want them to be. Perhaps you want the past to be better, different or to never end. We often fall into the misconception and expectation that things, relationships, and people will last forever and never change or, worse, that they will change the way we want.