Is He Serious or Is He Just Using You? 10 Signs He Just Wants Sex and No Commitment

Is He Serious or Is He Just Using You? 10 Signs He Just Wants Sex and No Commitment

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal the 10 signs that say he/she is manipulating & using you and is not seeking a serious commitment or long-term relationship.

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Now, let’s talk about the 10 signs that say he/she is manipulating & using you and is not seeking a serious commitment or long-term relationship.

Very few men or women will boldly profess to you from the outset, “I’m not looking for a long-term relationship; I’m just looking for a casual fling.” So how do you know if someone is being serious about romantic love or is just playing you for a casual fling? Here are 10 signs that say, ‘You’re being manipulated and fooled: This person’s only interested in sex and not a long-term commitment.’

These 10 signs gleamed from a 2012 study can also be summed up as strategies to prevent short-term encounters or mating from turning into unwanted long-term relationships/commitments.

The study reveals that the manipulator will fool you into having sex and will then keep the relationship in the “sex zone” while also keeping you out of the “commitment zone.”

The self-centered manipulator will:

1. Use verbal or physical abuse to deter you from pushing for a commitment or pursuing a long term relationship; (physical abuse was a predominantly male response/behavior/profile)
Motivation: keep you out of the “commitment zone”

2. Be sexually intimate but will avoid physical intimacy such as hugging, cuddling or other acts of physical & emotional tenderness (predominantly male response/behavior/profile)
Motivation: keep the relationship in the “sex zone”

3. Maintain superficial conversations with you to avoid emotional intimacy, bonding and attachment; keeping the conversation sexual in nature (latter – predominantly male response/behavior/profile)
Motivation: keep the relationship in the “sex zone”

4. Avoid social integration and will keep you hidden and won’t introduce you to his/her friends or family (male and female response/behavior/profile)
Motivation: keep you out of the “commitment zone”

5. Openly flirt with others in front of you or tell you about their attraction and interest in others (predominantly male response/behavior/profile)
Motivation: keep the relationship in the “sex zone”

6. Ignore your emails, text messages and phone calls; avoid places where you might bump into them, avoid the word “love” and, will refuse to respond to your attempts to contact them (predominantly female response/behavior/profile)
Motivation: keep you out of the “commitment zone”

7. Display narcissistic behaviors – selfishness, self-centeredness, not interested in helping you as much as how you can help them (predominantly male response/behavior/profile)
Significance: revealing narcissism – dysfunctional relationship indicator

8. Display low emotional stability – neuroticism, worry, anxiety, or insecurity (predominantly female response/behavior/profile)
Significance: revealing neuroticism & poor emotional health – dysfunctional relationship indicator

9. Display superficiality via preoccupation with their own appearance, and express entitlement (male and female response/behavior/profile)
Significance: revealing narcissism & psychopathy – dysfunctional relationship indicators

10. Express lack of empathy or compassion for people in general; lack of remorse for their actions which caused harm or pain to others
Significance: revealing psychopathy & narcissism – dysfunctional relationship indicators

This study and other similar studies also reveal a link between the above mentioned behaviors and the dark triad known as psychopathy, narcissism and Machiavellianism – all danger signs of extremely unhealthy people – often con artists, and consequently, unhealthy relationships.

If you need personal help to overcome the past or break free from an unhealthy relationship – book a one-on-one session with me.

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Patrick Wanis Ph.D.
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & SRTT Therapist
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