Entries by Patrick Wanis Ph.D.

Protected: Neutralize The 7 Emotions Holding You Hostage + Guided Meditation

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The Link Between Stress From Defeat & Trauma And Obesity

Which traumas lead to Social Defeat Stress? Any trauma you experienced where you felt powerless, hopeless or helpless will lead to feeling defeated.  Experiencing abuse and/or being bullied are common example of social defeat stress. 

Trauma’s Lifelong Impact On Health and How To Heal Trauma

Imagine a little girl who has extreme attacks of asthma every time her dad gets angry and punches the wall, or children who are diagnosed with ADHD and yet have a long history of childhood trauma. These are all actual cases.

Coaching Yourself Through This Tough Time

When you coach yourself using third-person self-talk, you immediately lower resistance and you uncover things that you didn’t consciously know about yourself.

Why Me? – How To End Self-Pity!

“Why Me?”
That’s the question that plagues almost every victim of a bad experience – an illness, a loss, an accident, abuse, molestation, betrayal, a death of a loved one, and so forth.

Loneliness Is Deadlier Than Chain Smoking – Here Are 12 Ways To Overcome Loneliness

Communicate with your friends and express everything you are feeling; go deeper than the anger and frustration. If you want to “be real”, and to “keep it real”, then be open and vulnerable. You will learn that you are not alone in experiencing problems, and you can receive support and give support to your friends.

Finding Yourself In The Fertile Void of Now

“The Fertile Void” is a space or phase when you can’t make sense of what is happening, you cannot attribute real meaning to it; you are unsure about who you are, where you are, where you’re heading and what life is about, and so it feels empty, completely empty.

How To Prevent The Top 2 Causes Of Breakups

Most couples ignore such clashes in values until they become deal breakers, not realizing they were always unspoken deal breakers.
Thus, it makes sense that “bad timing” is also one of the top 5 causes of breakups cited by both men and women.

How To Control Your Emotions Before They Control You

Controlling your emotions is not equivalent to preventing, denying or escaping an emotion…You are not the emotion; you are experiencing the emotion…As soon as you feel the emotion, say aloud…

How To End Doomscrolling and Take Your Life Back Now! 10 Ways

The media focuses on creating fear and pain because we automatically and neurologically respond more to the fear of pain than to the enticement or announcement of pleasure. We scan for danger, to avoid threats and to try to allay our deeper unconscious fears of death and dying.

7 Ways To Embrace This Uncertainty & Become Empowered

Think of your own life prior to the pandemic; what did you believe was guaranteed or certain? Your marriage, relationship, job, career, health, or investments?…Most people choose predictability, the known and even routine over the unknown because it gives a sense of safety, security, and stability. However, life is not experienced in a linear fashion.

Don’t Distance, Get Closer Now!

3. Bickering doesn’t matter; having someone to count on is what protects your brain and health. “Good relationships don’t just protect our bodies, they protect our brains.

How to Survive And Strengthen Your Relationships During Covid-19 – 7 Tips

Covid-19 and forced togetherness easily bring out the worst in relationships (i.e. the truth is being presented and people are exposed for who they really are because there are less distractions, and less escaping each other and oneself.) Also, the expectations you set for each other changes dramatically in the context of Covid-19.

We Are In The Butterfly Effect – 7 Tips to Conquer Uncertainty, Anxiety & Fear

The Butterfly Effect – part of the Chaos Theory – states that one very small change may result in massive and unpredictable consequences: one seemingly insignificant moment may alter history and shape multiple destinies. The term comes from Edward Lorenz who in 1961 created an early computer program to simulate weather.

Are You Coachable? And Why That Matters In Every Relationship

“A coach is someone who tells you what you don’t want to hear, who has you see what you don’t want to see, so you can be who you have always known you could be.”

How One Policeman’s Humility Transformed A Protest And Ended In Everyone Praying Together

Moments passed when a policeman walked out in the divide, toward the protesters. He stopped halfway, and then he suddenly got down on one knee. Within a second, there were so many loud screams ringing out as the protesters went running to him, and they, too, got down on their knees and hugged the policeman.

“Batman and Superman are not coming to save the world. It will be up to you.” Admiral McRaven MIT Speech

Speaking the truth can be dangerous at times…If you are going to save the world, you will need courage…If you are going to save the world, you will need to be humble…If you do not approach the world with humility, it will find a way to humble you quickly. 

How To Overcome The Grief and Loss From Covid-19. Grief Recovery Process

7. Reality Check. If you pause, you will realize that the majority of your pain stems from wanting things to be different – the inability (refusal to accept) that things are not the way you want them to be. Perhaps you want the past to be better, different or to never end. We often fall into the misconception and expectation that things, relationships, and people will last forever and never change or, worse, that they will change the way we want.

We Are All Grieving – Beware of These 7 Dangerous Myths

The pandemic has resulted in huge losses and major changes for all of us – lifestyle, work, job, career, finances, routine, stability, security, the former sense of safety & control, freedom, independence, human interactions, human connection & touch, meaning and purpose, dreams, ambitions, and life goals. We all are experiencing some form of grief and at various intensities. Grief can include feelings of being alone & unsupported, numbness, heaviness, guilt, sadness, confusion, anger, loneliness, relief, disconnection, hopelessness, and meaninglessness.

How To Become Resilient In Spite Of Everything

Resiliency is your ability to bounce back from setbacks, disappointments and failures, and to do so with new wisdom, new insights and with added motivation. Resiliency can be developed and enhanced. Most people simply doubt themselves and their ability to bounce back!