Entries by Patrick Wanis Ph.D.

Whats Your Chemistry? The Four Love Types: Builder, Explorer, Director, Negotiator

When you are in love, your brain experiences the same high as if you were on the drug cocaine. Psychological factors such as values, education, intelligence, socioeconomic background, interests, hobbies and faith account for reasons that people fall in love but fails to explain chemistry.

Control, Direct & Accept Things In Your Life

The only thing within your control is your mind: Control your perceptions. Direct your actions properly. Willingly accept what’s outside your control.

What Do You Do To Reinforce That You Are Not Good Enough?

Kang who prided herself on ‘no apologies, no excuses’, is actually apologizing now, and confessing she did it all for the wrong reasons: driven by insecurity and not feeling good enough, she battled depression, bulimia and body dysmorphia and, she got breast implants in the hope she would have the perfect body and be validated by others.

Cheat At Work, Cheat At Home

Would you hire someone who has cheated on his or her partner? Conversely, would you date or marry someone who has cheated or committed fraud at his or her business?

Deal Breakers – Insults, Lack of Appreciation & Being Heard

What does it take for you to quit your job? What does it take for you to quit your relationship? The answer to both of those questions maybe the same thing.

Do You Really Care? How To Demonstrate Care

Care can only be achieved and realized when you are willing to demonstrate it in the language/form that the other person can recognize and feel. Accordingly, to truly care for someone infers that you know and understand the other person as well as their needs.

You Will Do Better At Everything If You Are Happier

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal the ways that happiness makes you smarter, more creative and even more productive than when you are in a neutral, negative or stressed state. First a quick update: The Breakup Test Are you heartbroken, angry, lost, lonely, confused, depressed, hung up, or pining over your […]

Where Will You Find Validation and Happiness?

If you believe that your happiness will come from the stamp of validation by society then you will be deeply disappointed and shattered when you fail to achieve it. It is up to you and each individual to decide what you believe is the purpose and intention of your life.

When You Miss Someone Who Has Gone – 7 Steps To Set You Free

Every one of us will experience the loss of someone important in our life. Perhaps, it will be through death, a breakup, growing apart or even just moving somewhere far away. Here are 7 steps to help you to overcome the loss and renew your life.

Who Are Your Friends And Why Are They In Your Life?

And when you understand this concept and the 3 categories of friendships, you will also become clear about which friendships to pursue and you will gain insight into why some friendships naturally end, and others you should end.

No Madonna, Rape Is Not Just A Feeling

Rape is not just a feeling of being “disappointed”, slighted or wronged…Finally, being offended doesn’t make you right, and being offended by an article definitely doesn’t make you a victim of rape!

When A Mother Refuses To Believe Her Own Daughter Who Has Been Sexually Abused

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal insights into why a mother goes into denial when her own daughter speaks up and tells her that her stepfather, father or someone else has sexually abused her. First a quick update: The Breakup Test Are you heartbroken, angry, lost, lonely, confused, depressed, hung up, […]

The Cookie Thief – Twisted Assumptions, Judgments & Perception

The poem/story by Valerie Cox reveals what happens to one woman when she makes false assumptions leading to wrong judgments, twisted perceptions and ultimately deep embarrassment.

The Psychology Of Identifying & Bonding With Movie Characters – Fandom

There are 5 key elements that explain why and how we identify and bond with fictional characters in movies and TV shows:

Why Bullies Do It – Top 10 Motives For Bullying

There are 3 key misconceptions surrounding bullies and the motives for bullying.1. ‘The bully himself has been bullied or he suffers from low self-esteem.’ False. There are many other motives for bullying as I will reveal further below.

It’s Over – Let The Dead Leaves Drop

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal how to recognize when something is over, and it’s time to let those dead leaves drop and allow for a rebirth in your life. First a quick update: The Breakup Test Are you heartbroken, angry, lost, lonely, confused, depressed, hung up, or pining over your […]

Are You A Narcissist Or A Victim Of Culture?

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal one way that people are transforming into narcissists. First a quick update: The Breakup Test Are you heartbroken, angry, lost, lonely, confused, depressed, hung up, or pining over your ex? Do you know how your ex is truly affecting you and do you want to […]

Accelerated Intimacy – 36 Questions and You Will Both Fall In Love

Did you know there is a process to falling in love? With just 36 questions, 2 people can fall in love!

Overprotective Mothers Create Anxious Children/Adults

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal the impact that an overprotective parent has on a child, specifically the overprotective mother. First a quick update: The Breakup Test Are you heartbroken, angry, lost, lonely, confused, depressed, hung up, or pining over your ex? Do you know how your ex is truly affecting […]

Are You A Pessimist, Optimist or Realist?

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal the difference between an optimist, pessimist, realist and someone who is resourceful. First a quick update: The Breakup Test Are you heartbroken, angry, lost, lonely, confused, depressed, hung up, or pining over your ex? Do you know how your ex is truly affecting you and […]