Entries by Patrick Wanis Ph.D.

Do You Have The Grit To Succeed?

Oct 16, 2019 in /by

What is the greatest predictor of your success? Is it social intelligence, good looks, physical health, luck, opportunity, IQ, EQ or natural talent? Grit is influenced by genes, but it is also influenced by experience. 4 keys are required to build grit.

Do You Handicap Yourself? You Probably Do If You Are A Male!

Oct 2, 2019 in /by

Self-handicapping is a term in psychology that refers to self-sabotage – behavior designed to strategically protect your self-esteem, self-image, ego or perceived competence and image by others. Surprisingly men do it much more than women.

Negative Emotions Scream But Positive Emotions Heal & Help You Flourish

Sep 26, 2019 in /by

When you experience negative emotions (anger, fear, anxiety) your brain works immediately to help you to survive by engaging the fight-or-flight response….However, positive emotions have the opposite effect,

Can Humans Run 1 Mile In Less Than 4 Minutes?

Sep 19, 2019 in /by

I had a moment of mixed joy and anguish when my mind took over. It raced well ahead of my body, and drew me compellingly forward. I felt that the moment of a lifetime had come…it wasn’t a physical barrier, but I think it had become a psychological barrier

Did You Learn Helplessness or Optimism – Victimhood or Empowerment?

Sep 4, 2019 in /by

‘Learned helplessness’ is the belief that you have no power, no control and no ability to construct your life.

Appreciation For Women – And Their Suffering

Aug 28, 2019 in /by

I also think about my mother who experienced breast cancer and overcame it but later got Alzheimer’s and dementia. And so, I believe that women experience a lot more suffering than men

Whats Your Chemistry? The Four Love Types: Builder, Explorer, Director, Negotiator

Aug 21, 2019 in /by

When you are in love, your brain experiences the same high as if you were on the drug cocaine. Psychological factors such as values, education, intelligence, socioeconomic background, interests, hobbies and faith account for reasons that people fall in love but fails to explain chemistry.

Control, Direct & Accept Things In Your Life

Aug 14, 2019 /1 Comment/in /by

The only thing within your control is your mind: Control your perceptions. Direct your actions properly. Willingly accept what’s outside your control.

What Do You Do To Reinforce That You Are Not Good Enough?

Aug 7, 2019 in /by

Kang who prided herself on ‘no apologies, no excuses’, is actually apologizing now, and confessing she did it all for the wrong reasons: driven by insecurity and not feeling good enough, she battled depression, bulimia and body dysmorphia and, she got breast implants in the hope she would have the perfect body and be validated by others.

Cheat At Work, Cheat At Home

Aug 1, 2019 in /by

Would you hire someone who has cheated on his or her partner? Conversely, would you date or marry someone who has cheated or committed fraud at his or her business?

Deal Breakers – Insults, Lack of Appreciation & Being Heard

Jul 24, 2019 in /by

What does it take for you to quit your job? What does it take for you to quit your relationship? The answer to both of those questions maybe the same thing.

Do You Really Care? How To Demonstrate Care

Jul 18, 2019 in /by

Care can only be achieved and realized when you are willing to demonstrate it in the language/form that the other person can recognize and feel. Accordingly, to truly care for someone infers that you know and understand the other person as well as their needs.

You Will Do Better At Everything If You Are Happier

Jul 10, 2019 in /by

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal the ways that happiness makes you smarter, more creative and even more productive than when you are in a neutral, negative or stressed state. First a quick update: The Breakup Test Are you heartbroken, angry, lost, lonely, confused, depressed, hung up, or pining over your […]

Where Will You Find Validation and Happiness?

Jul 3, 2019 in /by

If you believe that your happiness will come from the stamp of validation by society then you will be deeply disappointed and shattered when you fail to achieve it. It is up to you and each individual to decide what you believe is the purpose and intention of your life.

When You Miss Someone Who Has Gone – 7 Steps To Set You Free

Jun 19, 2019 in /by

Every one of us will experience the loss of someone important in our life. Perhaps, it will be through death, a breakup, growing apart or even just moving somewhere far away. Here are 7 steps to help you to overcome the loss and renew your life.

Who Are Your Friends And Why Are They In Your Life?

Jun 13, 2019 in /by

And when you understand this concept and the 3 categories of friendships, you will also become clear about which friendships to pursue and you will gain insight into why some friendships naturally end, and others you should end.

No Madonna, Rape Is Not Just A Feeling

Jun 12, 2019 in /by

Rape is not just a feeling of being “disappointed”, slighted or wronged…Finally, being offended doesn’t make you right, and being offended by an article definitely doesn’t make you a victim of rape!

When A Mother Refuses To Believe Her Own Daughter Who Has Been Sexually Abused

Jun 5, 2019 in /by

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal insights into why a mother goes into denial when her own daughter speaks up and tells her that her stepfather, father or someone else has sexually abused her. First a quick update: The Breakup Test Are you heartbroken, angry, lost, lonely, confused, depressed, hung up, […]

The Cookie Thief – Twisted Assumptions, Judgments & Perception

Jun 4, 2019 in /by

The poem/story by Valerie Cox reveals what happens to one woman when she makes false assumptions leading to wrong judgments, twisted perceptions and ultimately deep embarrassment.

The Psychology Of Identifying & Bonding With Movie Characters – Fandom

May 30, 2019 in /by

There are 5 key elements that explain why and how we identify and bond with fictional characters in movies and TV shows: