Entries by Patrick Wanis Ph.D.

How To Overcome Sadness/Depression Following A Breakup – 6 Keys

You will also experience sadness when there is a change in your life, particularly a dramatic change or end – again, even if you wanted or made that change yourself. You will also feel sad because your identity has been shattered due to the breakup, as well as the shattering or sudden end of routines, habits, and family and friend connections.

Dreaming Doesn’t Work – You’ve Got To Think Of The Negative!

“Ceaseless optimism about the future only makes for a greater shock when things go wrong; by fighting to maintain only positive beliefs about the future, the positive thinker ends up being less prepared, and more acutely distressed, when things eventually happen that he can’t persuade himself to believe are good.”

That’s Just The Way I Am – Fixed VS Growth Mindset

People with a fixed mindset tend to ignore useful negative feedback – ‘I am my mistakes, I am my failures, I am innately bad; they are attacking me personally.’

Suffering Begins When You Think Things Should Be Different – The Way To Reduce Suffering

The thoughts that create suffering are the thoughts whereby you refuse to accept change, or you resist or struggle against people and things over which you have no control. You cannot change or control the people in your life, and nothing remains the same, nothing lasts forever: Impermanence is a fact of life.

Purpose Helps You Live Longer And Healthier! It Even Boosts Your Immune System

One form of happiness leads to health via an anti-inflammatory and anti-viral response in the body, while the other leads to a decrease in the anti-viral response and an high increase in inflammation implicated in stress and a wide spectrum of diseases such as arthritis and heart disease.

How To Become The Best Version Of Yourself

When you decide that it is your role to please everyone or to make everyone else around you happy, then you will never be able to be you, you will never be able to be authentic or true to yourself, and you will be confused about who you really are because you are constantly changing yourself to be what others expect of you, or, what you think they expect of or need from you.

Reduce Your Stress and Sleep Better With Deep Breathing

How many times per minute do you breathe? Without being consciously aware, you are probably breathing 12 -18 times per minute, and that is very unhealthy, triggering more stress and anxiety, disrupting sleep, and damaging your body.

When The Child Becomes The Parent – 5 Negative Effects of Parentification

What happens, though, when the roles are reversed, and the child is expected to give – to give in the form of taking care of, protecting or meeting the emotional needs of the parent or a sibling – even financially?

Protected: Neutralize The 7 Emotions Holding You Hostage + Guided Meditation

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The Link Between Stress From Defeat & Trauma And Obesity

Which traumas lead to Social Defeat Stress? Any trauma you experienced where you felt powerless, hopeless or helpless will lead to feeling defeated.  Experiencing abuse and/or being bullied are common example of social defeat stress. 

Trauma’s Lifelong Impact On Health and How To Heal Trauma

Imagine a little girl who has extreme attacks of asthma every time her dad gets angry and punches the wall, or children who are diagnosed with ADHD and yet have a long history of childhood trauma. These are all actual cases.

Coaching Yourself Through This Tough Time

When you coach yourself using third-person self-talk, you immediately lower resistance and you uncover things that you didn’t consciously know about yourself.

Why Me? – How To End Self-Pity!

“Why Me?”
That’s the question that plagues almost every victim of a bad experience – an illness, a loss, an accident, abuse, molestation, betrayal, a death of a loved one, and so forth.

Loneliness Is Deadlier Than Chain Smoking – Here Are 12 Ways To Overcome Loneliness

Communicate with your friends and express everything you are feeling; go deeper than the anger and frustration. If you want to “be real”, and to “keep it real”, then be open and vulnerable. You will learn that you are not alone in experiencing problems, and you can receive support and give support to your friends.

Finding Yourself In The Fertile Void of Now

“The Fertile Void” is a space or phase when you can’t make sense of what is happening, you cannot attribute real meaning to it; you are unsure about who you are, where you are, where you’re heading and what life is about, and so it feels empty, completely empty.

How To Prevent The Top 2 Causes Of Breakups

Most couples ignore such clashes in values until they become deal breakers, not realizing they were always unspoken deal breakers.
Thus, it makes sense that “bad timing” is also one of the top 5 causes of breakups cited by both men and women.

How To Control Your Emotions Before They Control You

Controlling your emotions is not equivalent to preventing, denying or escaping an emotion…You are not the emotion; you are experiencing the emotion…As soon as you feel the emotion, say aloud…

How To End Doomscrolling and Take Your Life Back Now! 10 Ways

The media focuses on creating fear and pain because we automatically and neurologically respond more to the fear of pain than to the enticement or announcement of pleasure. We scan for danger, to avoid threats and to try to allay our deeper unconscious fears of death and dying.

7 Ways To Embrace This Uncertainty & Become Empowered

Think of your own life prior to the pandemic; what did you believe was guaranteed or certain? Your marriage, relationship, job, career, health, or investments?…Most people choose predictability, the known and even routine over the unknown because it gives a sense of safety, security, and stability. However, life is not experienced in a linear fashion.

Don’t Distance, Get Closer Now!

3. Bickering doesn’t matter; having someone to count on is what protects your brain and health. “Good relationships don’t just protect our bodies, they protect our brains.