Entries by Patrick Wanis Ph.D.

Focusing On The Bad Destroys Relationships

the destructive responses are much more powerful than the constructive responses in relationships. We learn more from setbacks and penalties than we do from successes and rewards: we respond to the painful more than to the joyful experiences.

Was It Really Bad Timing Or The Wrong Person?

Don’t confuse personality, character and values with timing – being relationship ready

Neutralize Your Anxiety – Face Your Greatest Fear & Worst Outcome

.Why would you think that ‘this could never happen’ when it has already happened to others? “Hope for that which is utterly just, and prepare yourself for that which is utterly unjust.”

8 Blind Spots Between Men and Women

4. Men feel they are walking on eggshells with women
“Men say they often feel they can’t express their ideas or be their natural, casual selves without the fear of inadvertently saying or doing something that may upset a woman.”

12 Life Lessons From Children With Terminal Illnesses

11. Family is everything. Finally, they ALL valued time with their family. Nothing was more important.

Regret Is a Poison – You’re Not Your Mistakes

When you steep yourself in the tea of regret, you begin to drown because you cannot think of anything else except that which you have no control over, namely the past. Instead of taking control of your life, you become chained to the past, longing to have done things differently and no longer focusing on what you can now control, and the way you can shape and mold your life.

Did Your Ex Fool You? Do You Feel Stupid Over The Relationship?

When you look at the victims of online romance scams or of James Arthur Ray, you find that there is always one thing in common: the victims were in a state of deep vulnerability and were also looking to fill emotional needs or an emotional void.

I’ll Sleep When I’m Dead

After 24 hours without sleep, your performance is impaired to the same degree as a legally drunk person of blood alcohol content of 0.10%. Would you let or a drunk Uber driver drive you home, or a drunk doctor operate on you?

Here Is How You Can Sleep Better – 17 Critical Tips

Did you know that many people think sleeping pills help you to sleep? They don’t; they make you unconscious. Here are 17 tips to help you sleep.

You’re Either Growing Or You’re Dying!

You’re either growing or you’re dying. The tree’s either growing or it’s dying. So’s grass. So’s a marriage. So’s a business. So’s a person.

Do You Have The Grit To Succeed?

What is the greatest predictor of your success? Is it social intelligence, good looks, physical health, luck, opportunity, IQ, EQ or natural talent? Grit is influenced by genes, but it is also influenced by experience. 4 keys are required to build grit.

Do You Handicap Yourself? You Probably Do If You Are A Male!

Self-handicapping is a term in psychology that refers to self-sabotage – behavior designed to strategically protect your self-esteem, self-image, ego or perceived competence and image by others. Surprisingly men do it much more than women.

Negative Emotions Scream But Positive Emotions Heal & Help You Flourish

When you experience negative emotions (anger, fear, anxiety) your brain works immediately to help you to survive by engaging the fight-or-flight response….However, positive emotions have the opposite effect,

Can Humans Run 1 Mile In Less Than 4 Minutes?

I had a moment of mixed joy and anguish when my mind took over. It raced well ahead of my body, and drew me compellingly forward. I felt that the moment of a lifetime had come…it wasn’t a physical barrier, but I think it had become a psychological barrier

Did You Learn Helplessness or Optimism – Victimhood or Empowerment?

‘Learned helplessness’ is the belief that you have no power, no control and no ability to construct your life.

Appreciation For Women – And Their Suffering

I also think about my mother who experienced breast cancer and overcame it but later got Alzheimer’s and dementia. And so, I believe that women experience a lot more suffering than men

Whats Your Chemistry? The Four Love Types: Builder, Explorer, Director, Negotiator

When you are in love, your brain experiences the same high as if you were on the drug cocaine. Psychological factors such as values, education, intelligence, socioeconomic background, interests, hobbies and faith account for reasons that people fall in love but fails to explain chemistry.

Control, Direct & Accept Things In Your Life

The only thing within your control is your mind: Control your perceptions. Direct your actions properly. Willingly accept what’s outside your control.

What Do You Do To Reinforce That You Are Not Good Enough?

Kang who prided herself on ‘no apologies, no excuses’, is actually apologizing now, and confessing she did it all for the wrong reasons: driven by insecurity and not feeling good enough, she battled depression, bulimia and body dysmorphia and, she got breast implants in the hope she would have the perfect body and be validated by others.

Cheat At Work, Cheat At Home

Would you hire someone who has cheated on his or her partner? Conversely, would you date or marry someone who has cheated or committed fraud at his or her business?