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The characteristics of a high-hope person and its real-world application
How have you gotten thru life?
How have you handled the pandemic?
Here are 4 questions to consider:
1. Do you believe that the future will be better than the present?
2. Do you believe that you can make your future better; that you have the power to do so?
3. Do you believe that there are many ways, many paths to achieve your goals?
4. Do you believe (accept) that no matter what, there will be obstacles and challenges?
If you answered yes to all 4 questions above, then you possess the core beliefs of high-hope people.
When I reflect on my life and the one thing that has not only gotten me thru the challenges, the hardships and the disappointments, but which has also truly helped me to succeed and to remain joyful, I realize that it is hope!
Hope that even when I was in a foreign country and robbed of all of my money, that somehow, I would find a way, a way to not only survive but to get back up.
High-Hope People Are Not Dreamers
The word hope confuses people because they define it as wishful thinking, a dream, a desire or a preference.
The roots of the word “hope” reveal it to be a confident expectation that a desirable change is likely to happen.
“Simply put, hope reflects a mental set in which we have the perceived willpower and the waypower to get to our destination.”
― C.R. Snyder, Psychology of Hope: You Can Get Here from There
I had often thought of hope as an emotion, but it is actually much more: Here I was in a foreign country, deported because I did not have a transit visa, even though I had traveled through that same country just 3 days earlier without a transit visa. And, then while being in a detention room, someone had stolen my money from my bag.
Wishful thinking wasn’t going to solve my problem, but hope would.
Hope is a thought process that says, ‘I can set goals because with the right beliefs and efforts, I can make these goals a reality.’
Hope Involves 3 Key Components:
1. The Goal -Establishing or setting goals
2. The Way – Developing strategies and pathways to achieve those goals
3. The Willpower – Motivation to take the action to achieve your goals
I had set a simple goal – to somehow get back to the country where I was working – Spain at the time.
I needed money but didn’t have any – and I had no credit cards. I didn’t even have a place to stay for the night.
What would the pathway or strategy be to get that money and to find somewhere to sleep?
I thought and then realized that when they deported me, they had not cancelled my train ticket. It was stamped as unused.
I was able to get a refund on the ticket and use that to buy another ticket back to Spain. But I still had to find a place to sleep.
High-hope people acknowledge reality but also draw upon belief in themselves – their power or ability to influence or change their world again.
But high-hope people are also bias.
I was bias:
I saw, and still see the world with rose-colored glasses while embracing reality; I see and look for the opportunities; I believe in my own capabilities and refuse to be a victim (which would otherwise render me weak, powerless and hopeless.)
High-hope people experience greater levels of emotional wellness
When I lead workshops for Shell Oil executives and other corporations, I teach that Emotional Wellness is measured by the extent to which you believe you have control over yourself and the world around you.
If you choose to believe you are stuck or paralyzed like a victim, then you lose hope, you refuse to set goals or take action, and therefore negative emotions overpower you.
Yes, bad things will happen which are outside of your control; but what will you do that is within your control to make things better?
High-Hope People Draw Upon The Help Of Others
You have to draw upon the help of others; you have to turn to your social support network. That helps to build hope.
In this foreign country, I had no one. But I met another Aussie who was also being deported for the same reason – no transit visa. We encouraged each other, pooled our resources, and I crashed on the floor of his hotel room for one night.
“Hope gives people a reason to continue fighting and believing that their current circumstances will improve, despite the unpredictable nature of human existence.” – PositivePsychology.com
It is up to you to build a general belief about the hopefulness of life. You have to believe in what you are doing and why you are doing it while being willing to listen and respond to the challenges, changes and obstacles.
Remember, as a parent or just as a friend, one of the greatest lasting gifts you can give to your children or to your friends is hope! Encourage the people in your world to believe in themselves and their capacity to create a better life.
If you or a friend need help to overcome a pain from a past event or to build hope, do what others have done: Resolve it rapidly and be set free of the pain by experiencing my SRTT process. Book a one-on-one session with me.
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I wish you the best and remind you “Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!”
Patrick Wanis Ph.D.
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & SRTT Therapist
Anointed “The Woman Expert” by WGN Chicago, Patrick Wanis PhD is a renowned Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert who developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and is teaching it to other practitioners. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. CNN, BBC, FOX News, MSNBC & major news outlets worldwide consult Wanis for his expert insights and analysis on sexuality, human behavior and women’s issues. Wanis is the first person ever to do hypnotherapy on national TV – on the Montel Williams show.