In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal a simple yet powerful choice for the New Year.
First a quick update:
“6 Steps to breaking bad habits”
The key to ending, breaking or stopping any habit is to use the same technique that you used to learn the habit in the first place. And no, I don’t mean you need to call up mom or dad to show you how to tie your shoe laces or to start a regular exercise program! Discover the 6 steps to breaking bad habits: https://patrickwanis.com/blog/6-steps-breaking-bad-habits/
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“Stop Being A Perfectionist”
It is empowering to choose to improve and to do your best; it is disempowering when you become a perfectionist and can never feel happy or complete. Being a perfectionist also destroys relationships and prevents you from experiencing love. Watch the video and learn how to love yourself as you are: https://youtu.be/b9mDAZl2iEc
Now, let’s talk about a simple yet powerful choice for the New Year.
At the beginning of every New Year, we make resolutions or set goals, many of which we never complete.
Here are the top 10 resolutions people make every year; and I am sure you know which is the number 1 resolution!
As you stop to ponder the goals you want to set for this year, consider the most important choice you will make – to live for yourself, to live your passion.
“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” – Steve Jobs
Live for yourself
This is a recurring theme in my work & teachings: Live your passion and beware of living for other people i.e. do what you love not what other people would love for you to do.
This principle applies to the big choices in life – career, family, etc. and to the small choices made on a daily basis.
Decide that you will make decisions for you and not the other way around.
Decide what is truly important to you – your values – and then decide to live according to your values on a daily basis!
For example, while working with a client, he was able to determine that his primary value was health, and yet he was plagued by frustration and unhappiness in spite of his career success. Why? He had career success but wasn’t living according to his values! Solution: he made the new conscious choice to make the necessary changes to live in alignment with his primary value of health each day.
Live your passion & values
“Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith….You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep looking. Don’t settle.” Steve Jobs, Stanford University Speech, 2005
Steve Jobs stated that doing great work was more important to him than being the richest man in the world. In other words, one of his primary values was pride in doing great work. And it is true that when you are living your passion, you will naturally do great work. Productivity, satisfaction and fulfillment are all directly related to living your passion.
Are you living your passion?
Finally, at the beginning of each New Year, we feel confident and empowered because we believe we have a lot of time. Although that is true in terms of the calendar year, it is not true in terms of our life: life is short and time is always running out.
For me, time is the most precious thing in life.
No matter what your value is, you cannot live it fully unless you have time – time to love, time to enjoy or create a family, time to travel, time to become successful in your career, time to be healthy, and so forth.
Time is running out
“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure — these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.” – Steve Jobs, Stanford University Speech, 2005
There is only one life and you make the choices – choose wisely – live from your heart with passion and enjoy every moment.
Happy New Year and may your life be filled with all the blessings possible!
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I wish you the best and remind you “Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!”
Patrick Wanis Ph.D.
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & SRTT Therapist
Anointed “The Woman Expert” by WGN Chicago, Patrick Wanis PhD is a renowned Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert who developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and is teaching it to other practitioners. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. CNN, BBC, FOX News, MSNBC & major news outlets worldwide consult Wanis for his expert insights and analysis on sexuality, human behavior and women’s issues. Wanis is the first person ever to do hypnotherapy on national TV – on the Montel Williams show.