In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to explore a teaching that states that everything occurs within you and if you allow other people to determine your thoughts, your feelings and your responses, then you are a slave.
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Now, let’s talk about a teaching that states that everything occurs within you and if you allow other people to determine your thoughts, your feelings and your responses, then you are a slave.
“Is this not slavery? Somebody can decide whether you are happy or unhappy? Is this not slavery? Somebody can decide whether you will be a pleasant human being or unpleasant human being. Is this not slavery? What happens within you somebody else determines. This is the worst form of slavery, isn’t it? Isn’t it so?
“It is just that, because everybody is like that, it seems to be normal. It is not. Can you see me right now, all of you? Can you see me? Just point out where I am. Use your hands and point out. Can you see me? All you got it wrong. Now, this light is falling upon me, reflecting, going through your lenses, inverted image in your retina, now you know the whole story right? Where do you see me, right now? Within yourself. Where do you hear me, right now? Within yourself. Where have you seen the whole world? Within yourself.
“Have you ever experienced anything outside of yourself? Everything that ever happened to you. Darkness and light happen within you. Pain and pleasure happen within you. Joy and misery happen within you. Have you ever experienced anything outside of yourself? No. So what I am asking you is: what happens within you? Who should determine how it should happen? Somebody else? Definitely, you should determine what should happen within this, isn’t it? So if you determine what’s happening within this, your whole experience of life will be determined by you, nobody else but you, isn’t it? The events around you may not be determined by you, but how your experience of life is on this planet is 100% determined by you.”
Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev – Indian yogi, mystic, poet and New York Times bestselling author.
This is not a new teaching – we live life inside out – things happen outside of us and the way we think, feel and respond is still determined by us and not by the external events. Thus, when we let the external determine and control how we think and feel, then we become the slave of the external (events and people.)
Many people on social media have reacted harshly to this teaching, saying that external forces and events determine how we feel inside.
This is false and inaccurate.
There are predictable responses to external events such as death, loss, physical pain, relationship breakups, and so forth.
However, those events do not determine the exact way we will respond. For example, Victor Frankl (1905 – 1997) was an Austrian neurologist and psychiatrist as well as a Holocaust survivor. He spent 3 years in a concentration camp and he discovered that the ability to find meaning in one’s life enables people to overcome painful experiences. “Frankl concluded that even in the most absurd, painful, and dehumanized situation, life has potential meaning and that, therefore, even suffering is meaningful.”
He proved that by changing the way he responded to the external events he could determine how he would feel and respond to the suffering.
In 1903, James Allen wrote “As a Man Thinketh” which is probably the first self-help book. Allen described it as “A book that will help you to help yourself.” Its key teaching is the same as Sadhguru Jaggi Vasudev’s teaching: the mind is the master power, and by thought, one will experience a thousand joys or a thousand ills; the environment is just a looking glass.
“The nature and basis of your experience is within you. Pain and pleasure, joy and misery, agony and ecstasy happen only within you. The very seat of your experience is within you. So why try to extract joy from outside? At best, the outside can provide a stimulus.” – Sadhguru – Isha Foundation
The Ancient Greek Philosophers taught the same thing – the good life is determined by the way we approach life along with our ability to master our passions such as fear, anger, grief and lust.
“Men are disturbed not by things, but by the view which they take of them… It is not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.” – Epictetus (55 – 135 AD)
Yet, here we are in the 21st century still struggling to understand the most basic concept – the way we internally view and respond to the world around us will determine our enjoyment of it and our total experience; the way we respond to the people around us will determine whether or not we are the masters of our own lives or slaves to the masters around us.
Of course, no matter how much we learn to master our own mind and emotions, the human experience will include every emotion from joy to suffering; we cannot escape the human experience of imperfection. However, we can learn to minimize the depth and duration of our suffering based purely on our personal power of choice – the way we choose to respond to life’s external events. It is your choice about how you will live and experience life!
If you would like personal help to change your thoughts and release emotions as well as be set free from your own chains, book a one-on-one session with me.
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Patrick Wanis Ph.D.
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & SRTT Therapist