Men Who Marry Up But Cheat Down

Men who marry up but cheat down - Jesse James "married up" with Sandra Bullock but cheated down with a tattoo model

Men who marry up but cheat down – Jesse James “married up” with Sandra Bullock but cheated down with a tattoo model

“Why do powerful men cheat with powerless women?  To compensate for a lack of power in their romantic relationships”, says Los Angeles based Human Behavior Expert, Therapist and author of “Get Over It – breakups, betrayals and rejection!”, Patrick Wanis PhD.

“Power in the boardroom is meaningless to men – their real power comes from their relationship with their woman. Men emasculate themselves by marrying powerful sucessful women then choose to cheat with powerless, submissive women”, says Dr. Wanis.  “This is the new phenomenon of men marrying up but cheating down.”

“Rock stars and athletes choose women like food off a buffet, but when a highly successful man is coupled with an equally successful woman and he possibly feels powerless in his personal life, overshadowed or even ignored in his own relationship, he then turns to women whom he can control and lord it over:

  • Jesse James cheated on famous actress Sandra Bullock with a tattoo model
  • Arnold Schwarzenegger with his housekeeper
  • Charlie Sheen used prostitutes
  • Kobe Bryant cheated with a hotel employee in Colorado
  • President Bill Clinton with an intern
  • IMF chief Dominique Strauss-Kahn (married to a famous TV host and heiress) allegedly tried to rape a hotel maid
  • Robert Moffat Senior VP of IBM cheated with a hedge fund analyst
  • Christopher Lee, a congressman from New York tried to cheat on his wife by advertising himself on a Craigslist dating ad

“Yes, Power leads to cheating because it can lead to delusions of invincibility, entitlement and the male ego-drive to win, conquer and dominate but, when an externally powerful man cheats with a submissive woman, one whom he can control, he is trying to feel the power and masculinity that he lacks in his relationship with his often very powerful or famous wife. Men unconsciously seek the approval and validation of their wife and without it they look for another woman to compensate.” says Dr. Wanis.

“This, in no way justifies cheating nor does it lay blame on the wife, but the women engaging in the betrayal are giving into the greatest aphrodisiac of all – the power that these men offer” concludes Wanis.

Originally from Australia, Patrick Wanis Ph.D., is a Celebrity Life-Coach, Author, Expert in Human Behavior & Relationships and creator of SRTT Therapy with a PhD in Health Psychology. Wanis has appeared on FOX News, MSNBC, Extra, Issues with Jane Velez Mitchell, TruTV’s In Session, the Montel Williams Show, Mike and Juliet, Cosmo, Rolling Stone, InTouch Weekly, Women’s Health, Men’s Health, Dating on Demand, E! TV, Vh1,,,,, NY Daily Mail, NY Post, Vogue Australia, FHM, etc. WGN Chicago and Syndicated TV show, “The Daily Buzz” anointed him “The Woman Expert” and FOX News pronounced him “A voice for women.” turned to Wanis for expert insights and analysis when Michael Jackson died. Over five million people have read Wanis’ books in English and Spanish.

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