Whitney’s death – where were her celebrity friends & sisters?

NEW YORK - SEPTEMBER 30: Singer Cissy Houston and daughter singer Whitney Houston attend the 2010 Keep A Child Alive's Black Ball at the Hammerstein Ballroom on September 30, 2010 in New York City. (Photo by Stephen Lovekin/Getty Images) *** Local Caption *** Cissy Houston;Whitney Houston

NEW YORK – SEPTEMBER 30: Singer Cissy Houston and daughter singer Whitney Houston attend the 2010 Keep A Child Alive’s Black Ball at the Hammerstein Ballroom on September 30, 2010 in New York City. (Photo by Stephen Lovekin/Getty Images) *** Local Caption *** Cissy Houston;Whitney Houston

To all of the celebrities who mourn Whitney’s death, calling her ‘friend’ and ‘sister’ – why didn’t you all try to save your friend & sister?

Social media has been on fire as the world mourns the loss of one of the greatest singers and icons of the twentieth century – Whitney Houston. The exact cause of her death is not yet known but Xanax and other pills were found in her hotel room and it was claimed that she had also been drinking alcohol.

Whitney had been battling addiction and drug and alcohol binges for years. Just two years ago, March 2010, I warned that she would die within 5 years unless she drastically changed her lifestyle. Even after stopping the use of drugs, a person can suffer a heart attack or stroke as a result of years of damage to the liver and cardiovascular system.

But addiction is never a battle that can be won by fighting it on your own. Conquering addiction requires a huge support system – family, friends, loved ones and even work colleagues. And even when an addict achieves sobriety, he or she still needs supportive, loving, vigilant people around her or him.

From the Tweets by celebrities, musicians, actors, athletes, mayors, church leaders and even a Governor, it would appear that Whitney had the largest support system possible.

After all, Star Jones Tweeted that Whitney was a “sister-friend”; Shaquille O’Neal called her “auntie”; Cee-Lo Green called her ‘sister’; “fortunate am I to have worked with u, and have u touch my life” Tweeted Randy Jackson from American Idol; Mariah Carey said “Heartbroken and in tears over the shocking death of my friend.” And Katy Perry and so many others Tweeted “We will always love you.”

So where were all of these ‘friends’, all of these people who claimed to have known her so well? Where were they when Whitney was suffering from addiction?

How many of these celebrities called her or reached out to help her when it really mattered; when she was alive and when she was in an abusive marriage with Bobby Brown or when she was engaging in self-destructive and self-sabotaging behavior?

Unfortunately, the pattern of Tweets reveals the level of hypocrisy, narcissism and self-promotion amongst so many celebrities.

Joan Rivers Tweeted “What a sad tragedy-the end of the life of an incredible talent.” But just recently Joan Rivers glorified and promoted drug use when she smoked marijuana on her own TV reality show. Are publicity, attention and notoriety more important to Joan Rivers than protecting people from drugs?

Kim Kardashian used the news of Whitney’s death for self-promotion. She let the world know just how significant and special she thinks she is when she tweeted her sympathies for Whitney and made sure she let everyone know that while she might not be a singer or musician, Kim K still gets invited to the elite big pre-Grammy party by music producer Clive Davis – “at Clive’s party.”

And what about all of the celebrities who felt it was appropriate to wine, dine, be festive and celebrate at a pre-Grammy party when 3 floors above them lay the corpse of Whitney – their ‘sister’, ‘friend’, ‘icon’, ‘inspiration’ and ‘angel’?

Dolly Parton, Barry Manilow, Deborah Cox and Christina Aguilera were just a few of so many celebrities to shout and proclaim their love for Whitney via Twitter: “I will always love you.” But love is taking action to help someone you love to end their self-destructive behavior; love is taking action when a person is alive – not simply expressing words of sympathy and loss when that person is dead.

How many of the celebrities who claim to have known, cared for and loved Whitney were actually involved in her life? Or, were they busy focusing on their own careers and self-aggrandizement as well as celebrating at other parties along with drug and alcohol use?

The music industry is rife with drug abuse; drugs are the hors d’oeuvres and cocktails of most music parties, tours and concerts. And it is the parasites (the entourage) who feed off the celebrities while also feeding them poison – just as they did with Michael Jackson and Amy Winehouse.

Drug addiction is a widespread problem that can take an addict’s life at any moment. Actor, rapper and music producer, Nick Cannon summed up the lesson well in his Tweet: “Tell our loved ones how much we love them while they’re still here. I wish I could’ve told Whitney how great she was one last time.”

And for all the celebrities who will want to cry out and broadcast that they are friends of other famous people, call Demi Moore now; rally around her, support and help her and spare us from the future narcissistic Tweets that she was your friend, sister and that you love her so much. Show it now!

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    terese gertig says:

    im the mother of an ex drug abuser and i can tell you its hard to help someone if they dont want it. They have to admit they have a problem first and sometimes by the time they do its too late so u see its never an easy one

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    Erol Fox says:

    There’s that powerful cutting-through-the-PC-BS Aussie insight mate! Can we really call ourselves “friends” when we let addiction and our “friends” suffering go on and on?

    You ask a powerful question: why don’t we try to save them? My mother died of lung cancer 2 years ago. When I was a little boy, I crushed all her cigarettes and put them back in the box. She opened it to get one and tobacco went all over. She was furious with me but I just didn’t want my mommy to die. I tried over the years many different ways to help her stop this addiction. She hated me for it, thought I was judging her, and partially thought that I must hate her or why else would I try to stop her from doing something that gave her so much happiness. When she was diagnosed with lung cancer, she said over the phone, “Are you happy now?” That’s how big a deal it was to her that I had tried to help her over the years.

    That’s the addiction talking! It makes the host think that anyone who tries to stop the addiction is an enemy. Addicts will usually attack anyone that tries to limit their “freedom” to indulge in their addiction.

    Because of this, “friends” have a hard choice. Have them hate us by trying to “limit their freedom” in any way OR watch them slowly die but at least we have them in our life. Which do we chose?

    Add to that the dark reality that America is a nation of addicts. Since 1980 marketing has infiltrated every part of society so that we have to hide our phone numbers and email addresses. Everywhere we turn a new addiction is being introduced, whether a new coffee or Facebook. All addictions to numb the pain of an isolated society with little trust or love. Now we get “stars”, as you pointed out, that see new wave happening and tweet so they can drive up their Google ranking and gain more “followers”. They don’t even know they are doing it. It’s just that since 1980 our highest value is to be rich, not good people, and whatever it takes to do that seems “normal”. Just as addiction is normal, so anyone trying to limit an addict, especially a friend, is “deviant” or “abnormal”.

    Let’s give sugar cookies and tater tots to children regularly. Then alcohol and the latest electronics when they get older. We get to watch loved ones passing away from addiction to food, substances, even anger every day. But who’s got the courage to say something about addiction and risk being hated? Our greatest fear may be rejection. It causes us to not speak up when it may even save a life. And so it goes…

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