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Why? Why? Why Do You Want It?

Why? Why? Why? Why Do You Want This?

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal the significance of self-awareness and being able to answer the question honestly, “Why do you want it?”

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Now, let’s talk about the significance of self-awareness and being able to answer the question honestly, “Why do you want it?”

“Millions of people never analyze themselves. Mentally they are mechanical products of the factory of their environment, preoccupied with breakfast, lunch, and dinner, working and sleeping, and going here and there to be entertained. They don’t know what or why they are seeking, nor why they never realize complete happiness and lasting satisfaction. By evading self-analysis, people go on being robots, conditioned by their environment. True self-analysis is the greatest art of progress.” -Paramahansa Yogananda

A friend was sharing with me her deep disappointment in herself. She had already built a highly successful business with two stores. However, she was in the process of selling the business because she felt completely burnt out. And yet she was experiencing extreme disappointment at the thought that someone else was going to buy her business and open five stores compared to her two stores.

‘Why do you feel disappointed about this?’

“I feel like if I’m a failure because I could only open two stores and not five, and I’m envious because I wasn’t able to do it.”

‘And therefore, you label yourself as a failure?’


‘Then the solution is to determine why you wanted the success in the first place and what five stores means to you versus two stores.’

This is one example of the pain caused by lack of self-awareness: we truly do not know why we are doing the things we are doing, and therefore, either nothing is ever good enough or even if we do achieve our goals, we are still not satisfied. In this case, this friend had sacrificed so much of her health and energy to achieve these goals, but, that wasn’t enough to make her happy or fulfilled.

This is the focus of my work – this is the study of human behavior – why we do the things we do.

In another contrasting example, Corinne Olympios, a celebrity TV reality star and former villain of The Bachelor, was featured in a show “Who is America?” by Sacha Baron Cohen.

All of the media outlets referred to Corinne Olympios as being duped by Cohen, who dressed up and pretended to be a famous Italian photographer there to do a modeling shoot and falsely informing her that she was the recipient of a British Awards “Reality Star of the Year.”

Olympios went as far as stating on camera that she spent a week in Sierra Leone and because of her fame, the warlord recognized her while he was on his way to massacre a village and she saved 6000 lives. She also asked for people to donate money to help children to become soldiers, stating to the camera, “When you launch a grenade, you launch a dream.”

Away from the show, Olympios also expressed dismay, “And when I got home, my award fell apart. I’m like ‘what the f—? Now I don’t even have my award.”

Olympios tried to explain away her absurd behavior saying she didn’t have her phone or purse, felt so frightened, and therefore didn’t even know how she changed into a bikini or a hazmat suit showing her cleavage.

Why did she go along with all of this? What was her real motivation?

It might be simply argued that as a TV realty star, all Olympios wanted was attention, fame and relevancy. But again, why? What inner need or emptiness would the attention, fame and relevancy fill or fulfill?

When one has no idea why they do the things they do or what they really want, then they will be led astray, will sacrifice the wrong things, betray their own morality, standards or principles and will still, at the end of it all, feel miserable or totally empty.

Why do you want this?

When you find the answer, the truth sets you free because it gives you the opportunity to be consciously in control of yourself and to no longer be a product of your environment!

So again, why do you want it?

If you need personal help and guidance to get to the root cause of your issue or to overcome the past – book a one-on-one session with me.

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I wish you the best and remind you “Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!”

Patrick Wanis Ph.D.
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & SRTT Therapist

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