Do women want a man who will control, dominate, intimidate, scare, abuse and rape them?
Is that what women truly aspire to experience in a relationship?
Is this the way women secretly fantasize about being treated?
The following 15 quotes from the book 50 Shades of Grey reveal a woman who is an abuse victim and who would be categorized as suffering from Stockholm Syndrome. So why do readers and moviegoers admire her character?
Even Jamie Dornan who plays Christian Grey in the movie cannot explain it.
“I wonder what it is about this set of books that has, excuse my pun, penetrated the global market. Mass appreciation doesn’t always equate to something good. Think of Hitler! But I think, in this case, it must. It simply must. There’s got to be merit in it if so many people agree.”
– Actor Jamie Dornan – confused and unable to offer reasons and an explanation for women’s fascination with 50 Shades of Grey
The movie is also telling men that women want to be abused; they want to be dominated, controlled, humiliated, criticized and raped!
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15 Quotes from 50 Shades of Grey that reveal abuse, violence and rape
- ‘You need to learn to manage my expectations. I am not a patient man.’ [Christian Grey]
- He’d probably like to beat seven shades of shit out of me. The thought is depressing.
- “Please don’t hit me,” I whisper, pleading.
- “You scare me when you’re angry,” I breathe, staring at him.
- I don’t want him to beat me, is that so unreasonable?
- ‘Are you having second thoughts?’
He shifts as if uncomfortable.
Holy crap. How did this suddenly become such an intense and meaningful conversation? It’s been sprung on me, like an exam that I’m not prepared for. What do I say? Because I think I love you, and you just see me as a toy. Because I can’t touch you, because I’m too frightened to show you any affection in case you flinch or tell me off or worse – beat me? What can I say?
- “How did you find me?”
‘I tracked your cell phone Anastasia.’
Oh, of course he did. How is that possible? Is it legal?
- He pulls up outside my duplex. I belatedly realize he’s not asked me where I live – yet he knows. But then he sent the books, of course he knows where I live. What able, cell-phone-tracking, helicopter owning, stalker wouldn’t.
- Of course he doesn’t ask me for my mother’s address. He knows it already, stalker that he is. When he pulls up outside the house, I don’t comment. What’s the point?
- Next time you’ll be in the cargo hold, bound and gagged in a crate. [Christian writes to Ana in an email]
- Holy crap. That’s the problem with Christian’s humor – I can be never be sure if he’s joking or if he’s seriously angry. I suspect on this occasion he’s seriously angry.
- You can’t write things like that to me – bound and gagged in a crate – (Were you serious or was it a joke?) That scares me… you scare me… [Ana’s reply to Christian in an email]
- But his moods… oh – and he wants to hurt me. He says he’ll think about my reservations, but it still scares me.
- ‘I wondered what your bedroom would look like,’ he says. [Christian doesn’t have permission to enter her home.]
I glance around it, plotting an escape route, no – there’s still only the door or window.
“No,” I protest, trying to kick him off.
‘If you struggle, I’ll tie your feet too. If you make a noise, Anastasia, I will gag you. Keep quiet. Katherine is probably outside listening right now.’
Gag me! Kate! I shut up.
- You wanted to know why I felt confused after you – which euphemism should we apply – spanked, punished, beat, assaulted me. Well, during the whole alarming process I felt demeaned, debased and abused. [An email from Ana to Christian subject “Assault and Battery: The After-Effects” ]
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“Fifty Shades of Grey teaches your daughter that pain and humiliation are erotic, and your son, that girls want a guy who controls, intimidates and threatens.”
– Psychiatrist Dr. Miriam Grossman