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20 Life Lessons From A Dying Girl – Holly Butcher

20 Life Lessons From A Dying Girl – Holly Butcher

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to share the wisdom of a girl who died of cancer at age 27 and left behind an inspirational letter.

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Now, let’s talk about the wisdom of a girl who died of cancer at age 27 and left behind an inspirational letter.

Holly Butcher, from Australia, died at age 27 after she lost the battle with Ewing’s Sarcoma – a cancer that affects the bones.

One week before her death, Holly wrote a letter for her friends and family. In just 1,700 words, Holly beautifully shares such extraordinary wisdom. Here is my summary of 20 of the most powerful lessons of life with Holly’s words in italics.

1. Don’t take life for granted – you’re not immortal
The days tick by and you just expect they will keep on coming; Until the unexpected happens.

2. Life is a gift and your time could be up at any moment
It is fragile, precious and unpredictable and each day is a gift, not a given right. I’m 27 now. I don’t want to go. I love my life. I am happy. But the control is out of my hands.

3. Your problems are tiny and often meaningless
Those times you are whinging about ridiculous things (something I have noticed so much these past few months), just think about someone who is really facing a problem.

4. Be grateful you are alive
Think how lucky you are to be able to do just that – breathe.

5. Stop worrying about the small stuff – and when things don’t go your way
Let all that shit go…I swear you will not be thinking of those things when it is your turn to go. It is all SO insignificant when you look at life as a whole.

6. What really matter in life are love, friends and family
I’m watching my body waste away right before my eyes with nothing I can do about it and all I wish for now is that I could have just one more Birthday or Christmas with my family, or just one more day with my partner and dog. Just one more.

7. Appreciate your body! Stop obsessing over it!
Work and exercise may seem like such trivial things … until your body doesn’t allow you to do either of them. Look after it and embrace how amazing it is. Move it and nourish it with fresh food. Don’t obsess over it.

8. Being healthy doesn’t equal having the body everyone else wants you to have!
…work just as hard on finding your mental, emotional and spiritual happiness too. That way you might realise just how insignificant and unimportant having this stupidly portrayed perfect social media body really is..

9. Stop trying to please others; surround yourself with people who build you up, not tear you down!
…delete any account that pops up on your news feeds that gives you any sense of feeling shit about yourself.

10. The teaching is true: more blessed to give than to receive
Whinge less, people! .. And help each other more.
Give, give, give…It is true that you gain more happiness doing things for others than doing them for yourself. I wish I did this more.

11. Respect other people
Value other people’s time…and appreciate that your friends want to share their time with you, not sit by themselves, waiting on a mate.

12. Material things and gifts don’t create love and connection
This year, our family agreed to do no presents…those cards mean more to me than any impulse purchase could…Anyway, moral of the story- presents are not needed for a meaningful Christmas…don’t miss out on experiences because you spent all your money on material shit.

13. Be in the moment – stop trying to get everyone’s approval
Life isn’t meant to be lived through a screen nor is it about getting the perfect photo.. enjoy the bloody moment, people! Stop trying to capture it for everyone else.

14. Little things mean a lot – best things in life are free
Get up early sometimes and listen to the birds while you watch the beautiful colours the sun makes as it rises.
Cuddle your dog. Far out, I will miss that.
Talk to your friends. Put down your phone. Are they doing okay?

15. Reassess and readjust your life priorities
Work to live, don’t live to work.

16. Live with joy and purpose, not fear or guilt
Seriously, do what makes your heart feel happy.
Eat the cake. Zero guilt.

17. Live for yourself; not to please others
Say no to things you really don’t want to do.
Don’t feel pressured to do what other people might think is a fulfilling life..

18. Express love now – don’t wait until it is too late
Tell your loved ones you love them every time you get the chance and love them with everything you have.

19. You have control over your life, and no time to be miserable!
Also, remember if something is making you miserable, you do have the power to change it – in work or love or whatever it may be. Have the guts to change. You don’t know how much time you’ve got on this earth so don’t waste it being miserable.

20. At your very last moment, you will remember the people with whom you shared love and friendship
…a year I will be forever grateful that I got to spend it here on Earth with my family, friends and dog. A year I had some of the greatest times of my life.

..’Til we meet again.

Thank you Holly Butcher for your wisdom and passion for life! You inspire us deeply!

If you need personal help to overcome the past, release shame or trauma – book a one-on-one session with me.

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I wish you the best and remind you “Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!”

Patrick Wanis Ph.D.
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & SRTT Therapist

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