In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like reveal the 3 dramatic things that happen when you thank & praise people.
First a quick update:
“Positive Attention Is More Powerful Than Playing Victim Or Poor Me”
If every day, you walked past the same man who, every day, kept repeating his story of being a victim, how many days would it take before you began to walk on the other side of the street to avoid him? https://www.patrickwanis.com/positive-attention-more-powerful-than-victim-poor-me/
“Masculinity isn’t defined by the ability to control or have dominion over women”
The release of the video recording of Donald Trump from 2005 speaking with Billy Bush and admitting to trying to seduce a married woman while being a newlywed with a pregnant wife, and, admitting to grabbing women by the crotch, had a huge impact on me. Watch the video of my emotional story.
Now, let’s talk about the 3 dramatic things that happen when you thank & praise people.
In my article, “5 Simple Things To Do Every Day To Be Happy” I explain that research reveals that when your brain is in a positive state of happiness “Your intelligence rises, your creativity rises, your energy levels rise.”
Psychologist and happiness researcher, Shawn Achor says that based on scientific studies, a daily random act of kindness changes your brain and makes you happier.
One of the suggested random acts of kindness is to write and send a positive email every day praising or thanking somebody in your support network.
While this exercise might sound forced, trite or kitsch, it is actually extremely impactful – not just for you – but also for the recipient of the praising email.
Here are the 3 dramatic things that happen when you thank people.
1. When praising/thanking people, you make a positive difference in their lives
When I began this exercise, I was extremely shocked by the way it affected the people who were being praised. I had not expected that my words of thanks, my words of praise and compliments, would have such meaning to other people. It was obvious that people don’t hear enough deserving praise.
As you will see and read from this small sampling, people feel more significant and worthy when you praise them:
Thank you so much Patrick! It is always nice to hear my work is appreciated and even more so that it has made a positive difference in your life.
Having my whole family turn from me, I don’t often know if I’m just being a good friend, as I intend.
Thank you so much for the beautiful words. No one has ever said such nice things to me.
I am speechless…for a while…what lovely words you just wrote! It feels so warming and lovely to read that…hahaha…honestly! You made my day!!!
You can’t imagine how highly appreciated your feedback is, thank you very much for your kind words, really, it’s always a pleasure to assist you.
Awwwwww this warmed my heart so much! I held it as I read your email. Thank you Patrick! So wonderful to read that!
Wow!!!! Patrick, I am touched and humbled by your email.
Thank you so much for your kind note. I am very grateful to you for such beautiful sentiments.
I don’t know what to say except thank you back and so appreciate this note.
It is so easy to forget that most of us are accustomed to receiving the following types of emails on a regular basis:
- Useless information
- Relevant & irrelevant information
How often do you get an email thanking you for the impact you have had on someone’s life?
2. Praising/thanking people makes you feel significant
When the people whom I thanked and praised wrote back to me explaining how meaningful my words were, I realized that I am actually significant in their lives. In fact, most people wrote back and thanked me also.
Do you currently realize that you play a significant role in other people’s lives? The surprise will come when you realize that you play a significant role in the lives of more people than you originally thought.
3. Praising/thanking people makes your life richer and more meaningful
When you commit to finding someone new to thank and praise every day, you have to stop and analyze your world and life. That entails thinking about everyone you know and everyone you have known. Next, you begin to realize that so many people have come together in different ways to shape your life, your direction or your success.
You become enlightened by recognizing that truly there are so many people who have positively impacted your life and either you had forgotten them or you weren’t consciously aware of the positive impact they had on you. Suddenly, you move beyond the focus of going through the motions of daily life and you begin to relive great and meaningful moments in your life.
Whom you can thank today?
Whom you can thank tomorrow?
Whom you can thank the day after tomorrow?
Each morning I think of someone new I can thank and praise, and, I write the email as soon as I open my computer and inbox, before reading or responding to any other emails.
You will be so surprised by the amount of people you can actually thank and how you will impact their lives and vice versa!
If you need assistance to release negative emotions or love and respect yourself, book a one-on-one session with me.
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I wish you the best and remind you “Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!”
Patrick Wanis Ph.D.
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & SRTT Therapist
Anointed “The Woman Expert” by WGN Chicago, Patrick Wanis PhD is a renowned Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert who developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and is teaching it to other practitioners. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. CNN, BBC, FOX News, MSNBC & major news outlets worldwide consult Wanis for his expert insights and analysis on sexuality, human behavior and women’s issues. Wanis is the first person ever to do hypnotherapy on national TV – on the Montel Williams show.