In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to talk about tolerance and compassion.
First a quick update:
“Why do women crave romance?”
Why are women more emotionally charged than men? Why is the woman “the damsel in distress” and the man “the heroic prince”? Read the full article I wrote for date.com and matchmaker.com here
Now let’s talk about tolerance and compassion.
Are you compassionate? Here is an excerpt from my book: “Finding God: Spiritual strategies to help you find happiness, fulfillment and inner peace” © 2005
“The Dalai Lama is an international spiritual leader who was worked for human rights and peace throughout the world. Although he was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize in 1989, the Dalai Lama still describes himself as “a simple Buddhist monk.” He teaches that, “The foundation of peace is compassion.” In a series of talks he gave here in the United States, the Dalai Lama said: “Peace [is] not just absence of violence, but peace is something full. Peace means, I think, any action [made] out of compassion, out of sense of concern, out of respect [for] others’ rights; that is peace. So in the promotion of peace we have to create a foundation of peace: that is human compassion.”
The dictionary defines compassion as: “the deep awareness of the suffering of another coupled with the wish to relieve it.” When we see and feel the vulnerability, pain and hurt of others around us, it opens our heart and we become less judgmental than before. The very act of recognizing that everyone else around us experiences pain, hurt, doubts and fear just like we do, helps us to feel connected to humanity. Instead of feeling that we are separate, inferior or superior to others, we feel a bond, a sense that essentially we are all the same. We lose our fear and judgment of others. Thus we see past skin color, race, social status, gender, or religious beliefs and we see each other as fellow human beings. Jesus never turned away anyone that needed help or healing, no matter what the person’s background or condition was.
Princess Diana sought inner peace throughout her brief life. She was recognized as a great humanitarian who despite her royal status still went out to offer comfort and healing to the everyday person. She promoted kindness: “Carry out a random act of kindness, with no expectation of reward, safe in the knowledge that one day someone might do the same for you.”
The Chemistry of Kindness
Serotonin is a chemical that acts as a communicator between the brain and the body. Some scientists believe that low activity of Serotonin in the brain can lead to an underlying inability to handle powerful feelings, impulsive acts, aggressive behaviors and suicidal tendencies. Interestingly, every time you do a good deed for someone else, an act of kindness, it raises your Serotonin levels and you feel better than before. Maybe, that is the scientific explanation of Jesus’ words, “It is more blessed to give than to receive.”
An End to Prejudice
Daily we are challenged to forgive and love others and ourselves. Jesus and many of the great masters taught love, compassion and acceptance. As these teachings entered my heart, I suddenly looked around and many of my prejudices and judgments dissolved. The sense of separation was lost, and I felt a connection and empathy for people around me.
I noticed the change one day and surprised myself as I smiled warmly at a young man in Jewish Hasidic clothing -long black coat, long beard and hat. He was dressed differently to me but that’s not what I saw – I just saw a person. In the past, I would have been critical and made a judgment regarding his beliefs and apparel. I would not have looked into his eyes and smiled. And now for the first time, I saw him as a human, as a real person. He had not changed. I had. This was my enlightenment and freedom in action, my inner peace – and I believe it’s the way God wants us to be…
…I have concluded it to be true that inner peace comes from finding and knowing God, and that we experience God when we express love. The opposite of God is fear in all its disguises: guilt, blame, shame, punishment, judgment, anger, bitterness and revenge. The expression of love is forgiveness, compassion and kindness for others and ourselves. I hope that you might allow love to fill your world, heal you and your relationships thus bringing peace and happiness to you, your family and the people around you.”
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I wish you the best and remind you “Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!”
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & Clinical Hypnotherapist
Anointed “The Woman Expert” by WGN Chicago, Patrick Wanis PhD is a renowned Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert who developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and is teaching it to other practitioners. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. CNN, BBC, FOX News, MSNBC & major news outlets worldwide consult Wanis for his expert insights and analysis on sexuality, human behavior and women’s issues. Wanis is the first person ever to do hypnotherapy on national TV – on the Montel Williams show.