In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal 7 tips to becoming emotionally resilient.
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Do Women Cheat More Than Men? Survey
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Now, let’s talk about the 7 tips to becoming emotionally resilient.
Resiliency is defined as the power or ability to return to the original form, position, etc., after being bent, compressed, or stretched; elasticity.
Are you able to bounce back from adversity and return to your original form?
Are you elastic when faced with life?
Are you able to bounce back from life’s challenges & difficulties, and respond in a way that moves you forward and helps you to enjoy life and live it to its fullest?
If yes, then you are emotionally resilient!
Emotional resilience is not about being cold, callous or void of emotion; nor is it about being constantly high and joyful. Emotional resilience infers that you will feel the full range of human emotions and then be able to move through the heavy emotions quickly and still be empowered to function at a high level, learning from your experiences and reducing adversity in the future.
Here are 7 ways to become more emotionally resilient:
1. Stop Taking It Personally – Stop making it about you! People will always react and say and do things that are unwanted, inappropriate or even hurtful. Reduce the hurt or impact by not taking it personally. People respond to you and life based on their own filters – their own issues, beliefs and programming. Memorize and repeat this mantra until it becomes part of your consciousness: “I understand that the way others choose to respond to me is about them.”
2. Forgive Yourself For Being Human – Perhaps you did something wrong and hurt others. Yes, you did! Unless you are from another planet, you will make mistakes, you will do wrong things, and you will hurt others and yourself. Forgive yourself for being imperfect; forgive yourself for being human. Forgiving yourself makes it easier to forgive others and, forgiveness leads to inner peace.
3. Accept The Human Experience – movies, advertising and the media demand perfection and create false expectations that we are supposed to always be ecstatic no matter what happens. The human experience involves every emotion from joy and ecstasy to loss and suffering; they are unavoidable. Accept all of your emotions. Simply, remember that you can choose for how long you will stay in those emotions and how you will respond to those emotions.
4. Neutralize Anxiety – anxiety is the feeling that your world is out of control, coupled with the attempt to control the things you can’t control. Get clear about what you can control and what you can’t control. Next, focus only on taking action over the things you can control, and let go and accept the rest. Stop expecting perfection.
5. Take Charge of…Your Thoughts – When things don’t go the way you want, remember that your thoughts will, in turn, create the way you feel and then the action you take, and finally your result. Notice what thoughts you are choosing. Who told you to think those thoughts? Was it mom, dad, sibling, teacher, ex? Remind yourself you can change your thoughts.
6. Everyone Has The Same Issue – I work with celebrities, athletes, and the rich and successful as well as the everyday person. Everyone has exactly the same issue – the subconscious belief: “There’s something wrong with me; I am not good enough, lovable or worthy.” Remind yourself of that truth – we are all the same – we all carry shame. Use self-compassion over self-esteem. Next, go back and read the above 5 ways to become emotionally resilient!
7. You Will Be Okay – When we experience adversity, we often also experience self-doubt and fear, asking the question “Will I be okay?” Yes, you will be okay. You will survive, grow and learn from the experience. You will have greater appreciation for life, and hopefully more gratitude for everything. You will be okay!
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I wish you the best and remind you “Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!”
Patrick Wanis Ph.D.
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & SRTT Therapist
Anointed “The Woman Expert” by WGN Chicago, Patrick Wanis PhD is a renowned Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert who developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and is teaching it to other practitioners. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. CNN, BBC, FOX News, MSNBC & major news outlets worldwide consult Wanis for his expert insights and analysis on sexuality, human behavior and women’s issues. Wanis is the first person ever to do hypnotherapy on national TV – on the Montel Williams show.