I would like to talk about the most important element and factor to success in life: what you believe about you and your self-worth.
We get only what we believe we subconsciously deserve and no more. When we get more than we believe we deserve, we will sabotage it. And we do this in every area of our life – including finances and relationships. In the Showtime documentary, Reversal of Fortune, a homeless man was suddenly given $100,000 but he quickly squandered the money. It was as if he was trying to lose or get rid of the money. He had subconscious blocks about what he believed he deserved in life. Do you have a friend or know of someone who when she finds herself in a relationship and is treated well, she sabotages it or tries to push the man away? Why?
She doesn’t believe she deserves to be treated well. For example, I recall one time when a woman said to me, “Why would someone with your intelligence, wit and good looks be attracted to someone like me?” She couldn’t see her own beauty. She was suffering from low self-esteem, low self-worth, and a poor self-image.
Have you noticed patterns in people’s lives such as the woman who somehow continually seems to end up in relationships with abusive men or the man who repeatedly invests in ventures that fail?
Based on your childhood experiences you subconsciously made associations, conclusions and generalizations about money, life, the world and what you deserve.
Here is a simple exercise for you to gains some insight into what you believe about yourself: How do you respond when someone praises you or offers you a compliment? Do you say, “Oh, you’re too kind…actually, I am having a bad hair day…it’s just a cheap dress…but I feel fat…it was just luck…I don’t know how I did it…etc”?
There is only one response to praise or a compliment: “Thank you!”
If you can’t receive a compliment, how can you receive anything else good in your life? When you deny compliments or gifts, you are in effect saying, “I don’t deserve it…I am not good enough…I am not worthy” and this belief will be reflected in every area of your life. Choose now to accept compliments and feel and believe that you deserve them. And if you can’t give them, the same principle applies: you can only see in others what you see in yourself!
Any negative self-beliefs will impact what you receive and achieve in life and to what extent you will be able to enjoy what you have. Recall, in the past Success Newsletters, I have said that you must take action to get results. If you don’t believe you deserve the best in life, you won’t even try -you will make no attempt and take no action.
Look in your heart: do you feel guilty for something you said or did in the past? Do you put yourself down and continually criticize yourself? Did someone tell you that you are no good or don’t deserve to be happy, rich and wealthy? Do you feel or believe that others are better than you?
In my next Success Newsletter, I will explain how to change your beliefs about your self-worth so that you can get what you want – and enjoy it.
Meanwhile, consider these products to help change your beliefs and the way you feel about yourself: My hypnosis audio program, “Be Happy, Rich & Wealthy” to remove the subconscious blocks so that you will believe you deserve the best of everything, and, for the ladies, “Get the man YOU want!” (an audio makeover book.)
I wish you the best and remind you “Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!”
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & Clinical Hypnotherapist
Anointed “The Woman Expert” by WGN Chicago, Patrick Wanis PhD is a renowned Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert who developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and is teaching it to other practitioners. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. CNN, BBC, FOX News, MSNBC & major news outlets worldwide consult Wanis for his expert insights and analysis on sexuality, human behavior and women’s issues. Wanis is the first person ever to do hypnotherapy on national TV – on the Montel Williams show.