In this success newsletter I am going to talk about how to break loose from the power struggle that exists between men and women.
One of our greatest fears is rejection and in relationships we often try to control the other person to protect ourselves from the pain and hurt of rejection. This is known as The Power Struggle.
In my new audio book, “Get the man you WANT!”, I explain how we often try to control the other person so that he or she won’t leave us or walk out. We do it to protect ourselves from the potential pain of rejection. And we even do it at the office.
Men are the greatest culprits of The Power Struggle. Men will often put a woman down and break her self-esteem with the intention of attaching how she feels to what the man says about her, so that she becomes hooked and won’t leave him.
How men control women by using The Power Struggle
Many men try to control women because of their own insecurity and self-doubt. Here are some of the numerous examples of The Power Struggle:
- Criticism, condemnation and judgment
-the man will tell the woman that she is ugly, fat or stupid and no other man will ever want her
The man comments openly about other women’s beauty while putting down his woman, or trying to make her feel jealous, inferior, unworthy or plain low
- Playing games
–mental and emotional manipulation (praise and condemnation)
-being late for dates, canceling at the last minute
-in the early stages of dating as a way to avoid committing 100% emotionally while getting the other person to commit
Using work as a way to maintain emotional distance and not open up emotionally or get close
- Playing hard to get
-pushing someone away when they get too close
-being emotionally warm then cold for no apparent reason
- Casual dating
-“We are not exclusive” (when one partner knows the other has fallen for them and then continues to date other people)
In my audio book, “Get the man you WANT!” I reveal various techniques to help you break loose from The Power Struggle.
How to break loose from The Power Struggle:
- Call the other person out
- Create a safe place in the relationship with reassurance and openness
- Build YOUR self-esteem and self-worth
- Stop trying to get the other person’s approval
- Give your best and then if the other person refuses to stop the ploys, choose to respect yourself and leave
Recently, during an interview with the syndicated TV show, Daytime, the hosts said to me that many so-called experts speak of raising one’s self-esteem but never explain how to do it. Well, I explain how to do it. There are specific strategies, techniques and exercises to build your self-esteem, and I reveal them in my audio book, “Get the man you WANT!” This audio book is divided into 5 Sections:
- Understanding men – the male psyche
- Understanding relationships
- Understanding yourself, what you want and why you want it
- Strategies and techniques to help you to change what you believe about yourself so that you will only accept the best and you will get the best
- Building your self-esteem
In the final track of this audio book, I offer you something unbelievably powerful and unique, truly transformational: support and positive encouragement and affirmations that I read, declare and state to you that will sink deeply into your mind and help to build your confidence, self-esteem and self-worth.
You can also watch a recent TV interview I gave on “The Power Struggle” I will be appearing and talking about this topic on FOX 45 Baltimore Monday September 18, 2006 at 8:15 AM and Great Day Houston channel 11 same week, WGN radio Chicago Wednesday September 20 at 1:40 PM, and soon on FOX News Channel.
In my next Success Newsletter I will highlight: What women define as real strength in men and what men can do to overcome the need to play The Power Struggle.
I wish you the best and remind you “Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!”
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & Clinical Hypnotherapist
Anointed “The Woman Expert” by WGN Chicago, Patrick Wanis PhD is a renowned Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert who developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and is teaching it to other practitioners. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. CNN, BBC, FOX News, MSNBC & major news outlets worldwide consult Wanis for his expert insights and analysis on sexuality, human behavior and women’s issues. Wanis is the first person ever to do hypnotherapy on national TV – on the Montel Williams show.