Revenge or Understanding?

Revenge or understanding?

Revenge or understanding?

In this Success Newsletter, I would like to talk about the power of understanding.

First, I would like to alert you that I will be presenting a phone seminar on “The secret to get what you want” on August 21 at 9 PM NY time. The phone seminar is a gift – no cost. It is part of the trainings offered by Details in next week’s success newsletter.

The motion picture, Spider-man 3, explores the themes of revenge, the power of choice, and the dark side that exists within each and every one of us. The movie reveals how destructive revenge can be and how it can consume and overpower us, and that in each moment we always have a choice – we are not forced into acts of revenge or hatred. We can choose a different path.  Throughout the movie, we see the power of revenge taking over each of the characters, Peter Parker for his uncle’s murder, Eddy for the loss of his job, Harry for the death of his father and Sandman/Flint Marko for the people that try to stop him for getting help for his ill daughter.

In one of the final scenes of the movie, Sandman/Flint Marko confronts Spider-man/Peter Parker and explains his involvement in the murder of Peter Parker’s uncle. Sandman says, I don’t expect you to forgive me but I do want you to understand. As Sandman relates his story – about his desperation to save his sick daughter and how the attempted car robbery turned tragic, Peter’s face softens and demeanor change and he responds with “I also have done bad things.” Peter pauses and then adds, “I forgive you.” The sandman changes into sand and becomes a sandstorm fading into the distance.  Although the scene mentioned above may seem to be an oversimplification it does illustrate well the principle that I believe and teach that true forgiveness comes from two keys: understanding and acceptance.

Peter arrived at the point of being able to forgive Flint for his role in murdering his uncle by first understanding Sandman’s true intention (he was desperate to help his ill daughter and he had no money -he never intended to hurt anyone else) and second by accepting his own imperfections – he too, had done bad things.  When we can accept that we are all human beings, thus imperfect and when we can accept that we too, do make mistakes and do wrong, then we can arrive at the place of empathy and compassion in her heart for ourselves and others.

Thus, forgiveness is not based on forget about it or just let it go. Forgiveness involves putting yourself into the other person’s shoes, seeing the world and situation through their eyes – seeking to understand the other person and why they may have responded the way they did. When we succeed in doing this, it helps us understand that in almost every situation, even the things done directly to us, were not about us. And when we can accept our own flaws, mistakes and poor choices then we can accept the same in others. True forgiveness ultimately sets us free from the binds we set on ourselves – the binds of blame, shame, guilt, judgment, suffering and revenge.  Forgiveness leads to compassion and empathy for ourselves and others.

To learn more about the power of understanding and forgiveness, check out my Ebook “Finding God- spiritual strategies to find happiness, fulfillment an dinner peace! and if you choose to get help on forgiving yourself and others, check out my hypnosis audio program: “Feel Good About Yourself – and be more confident” 

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I wish you the best and remind you “Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!”

Patrick Wanis
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & Clinical Hypnotherapist

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