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The One Secret To Improve Your Marriage & Any Relationship

The One Secret To Improve Your Marriage & Any Relationship
The One Secret To Improve Your Marriage & Any Relationship

In this week’s Success Newsletter, 

One secret to improve your marriage & any relationship.

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Now, let’s talk about the one secret to improve your marriage & any relationship.

There are endless principles that are taught as critical components to a happy, meaningful and long lasting relationship and marriage.

There is one, though, that is very rarely discussed.

And it is easy, simple and straightforward in its execution.
And when you find out what it is, you will be wondering why such an obvious thing isn’t done all the time; you might even be guilty of not doing it yourself, or perhaps your husband or boyfriend is guilty of it!

The one secret to improve your marriage & any relationship is illustrated in the 1995 American romantic comedy-drama film Don Juan DeMarco.

In “Don Juan DeMarco,” Marlon Brando is Dr. Jack Mickler, a psychiatrist who must cure a young delusional patient (Johnny Depp) who believes that he is Don Juan, the greatest lover in the world.

But the psychiatric sessions have an unexpected effect on the psychiatric staff and Dr. Jack himself who has been married for 32 years to Marilyn (Faye Dunaway.)

You’re retiring on Monday.
So, what are we going to do?

Dr. Jack
We’re going to get airborne, kiddo, I’ll tell you that.

I’m trying to tell you something.

I like it here. I like my garden.

Dr. Jack
We need to be a flight of eagles.

I don’t see myself in that picture.

Dr. Jack
What’s the matter with you?
What are you talking about?

I don’t know.

Dr. Jack
I need to find out who you are.

Jack, you know who I am.
Who’s brought you coffee for the last 32 years?

Dr. Jack
Listen, I know a lot about dirty coffee cups…
…and I know a lot of facts, but I need to know all about you.

What do you want to know?

Dr. Jack
I want to know what your hopes and your dreams are that got lost along the way while I was thinking about myself.

What’s so funny?

Marilyn (laughing then crying, overwhelmed)
I thought you’d never ask.

It might seem to be so absurd that a man married for 32 years does not even know his own wife’s dreams and hopes, particularly when he works in the field of mental health.

And yet, this is true of many couples and even so-called best friends; what do they really know about each other?

How well do you know your wife, your girlfriend or your partner?
Do you actually know her dreams, her hopes and her desires?

The importance of asking and honoring your wife’s dreams is not simply limited to your wife.

If you choose to build strong, meaningful and satisfying relationships then ask about and honor the dreams of all of the people in your life. And if you choose to ask that question in the early stages of any relationship (personal or business) then you will also know whether or not this will be a good partnership.

Remember, if your dreams clash with your partner’s dreams, then you have a case of clashing values and neither of you will be happy or fulfilled.

The way to build a meaningful partnership is for the two of you to know, honor and support each other in the realization of each other’s dreams!

Don Juan: There are only four questions of value in life, Don Octavio. What is sacred? Of what is the spirit made? What is worth living for, and what is worth dying for? The answer to each is the same: only love.

If you need personal help in your relationship – book a one-on-one session with me.

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I wish you the best and remind you “Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!”

Patrick Wanis Ph.D.
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & SRTT Therapist

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