In this Success Newsletter, I would like to talk more about one of the key elements missing from the bestseller book and DVD, The Secret – one of the key missing elements for you to truly get what you want.
(Read last week’s newsletter “Oprah and The Secret Part 1“)
It is a paradox that “to get what you want you must also give.” Too many people think only in terms of taking but not contributing. There is a joke that says that Hollywood people often will greet you with, “Hello, what can you do for me?” This is the Parasitic Relationship. The other type of relationship is Symbiotic. Parasitic refers to feeding off another organism but not contributing anything in return while symbiosis refers to a mutually beneficial association of two different organisms. If we were all parasites the balance of nature would crumble. The same principle applies in every area of life. And when we only take, take, take, we are reflecting a deep subconscious belief that there is not enough, and focusing on the belief that there is not enough.
Ironically, when we give, contribute and help other people we also gain a deep sense of fulfillment and satisfaction. In fact, every time we commit an act of kindness, our serotonin levels naturally rise. Serotonin is a chemical our brain releases that makes us feel good. Depressed people have low serotonin levels. Let me give you an example of how this principle results in getting what you want with an excerpt from my audio book, “Get What You Want”: “There is one final secret key ingredient to getting what you want, everything that you want. And this missing piece is the guarantee that you will also be able to fully enjoy the harvest of your life, feeling deeply satisfied. Recently, I was at Planet Hollywood in Orlando. There was a letter hanging on the wall that inspired me. In January 1969, Bruce Lee wrote to himself:
My definitive chief aim: I, Bruce Lee, will be the first highest paid oriental superstar in The United States. In return I will give the most exciting performance and render the best of quality in the capacity of an actor. Starting in 1970, I will achieve world fame and from then onward, till the end of 1980, I will have in my possession 10 million dollars. I will live the way I please and achieve inner harmony and happiness.
Notice that Bruce Lee wrote that he would give something in return for his success, fame and fortune! Here then is the final key: Add value to other people’s lives, make a difference and focus on contributing to others. Think about what you, your talent, product or service has to offer. How will it help others? Everything is energy and when you focus on raising your energy and sharing your gifts and talents with the intention of helping others, then everything that your heart desires will be given to you.” If you are already a giving person but seem to have challenges getting what you want in life, then in my next Success Newsletter, I will address the missing element.
In my audio book, “Get What You Want” (published and released prior to The Secret), I clearly explain these points in detail and offer specific exercises about how to apply all of these laws and principles. I have also created a audio program, “Be Happy, Rich & Wealthy” to help you overcome procrastination, get motivated to take action, remove the subconscious blocks so that you will believe you deserve the best of everything, to embrace money and wealth, and to use money the way you want – to help yourself and others!
I wish you the best and remind you “Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!”
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & Clinical Hypnotherapist
Anointed “The Woman Expert” by WGN Chicago, Patrick Wanis PhD is a renowned Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert who developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and is teaching it to other practitioners. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. CNN, BBC, FOX News, MSNBC & major news outlets worldwide consult Wanis for his expert insights and analysis on sexuality, human behavior and women’s issues. Wanis is the first person ever to do hypnotherapy on national TV – on the Montel Williams show.