TOP 10 CELEBRITY MELTDOWNS OF 2011
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Santa Claus is coming to town
He’s making a list
And checking it twice;
Gonna find out
Who’s naughty and nice
If it were up to Santa, a lot of celebs would not be getting any presents this year!
The celebrity list of who’s naughty and NOT nice is a long one: Fake marriages, quick divorces, infidelity, shoplifting, sexting, jumping from balconies and falling into trees, becoming a groupie at age 45, wanting to kill the Pope, throwing tantrums on a plane, carrying $10,000 cash in your purse to a house party, illegal gambling, drugs, violence, racism, and just plain, stupid nasty comments! These are just some of the bizarre behaviors that landed celebrities into the 5th annual list of The Top 10 Celebrity Meltdowns of 2011 by Human Behavior Expert, Patrick Wanis PhD.
“Bad behavior is on the rise amongst celebrities because we glamorize and create idols of people who have truly made little or no contribution to society and we reward them with money, fame, attention, prestige and undeserving significance’ says Wanis. “And by rewarding bad behavior instead of punishing it, we only serve to encourage and nurture it.”
“The media is also responsible for rewarding and encouraging bad behavior: as more and more media outlets fight to get attention and to get the scoop, they ignore all sense of responsibility, morality and integrity by willingly agreeing to interview, promote and thus glorify accused pedophiles, criminals, cheaters, mistresses, liars, addicts, misogynists, and self-promoting narcissists.”
“Meanwhile, women are also responsible for nurturing of female bad behavior. The paradox is that while we are obsessed with being politically correct in our language, women continue to undermine and demean themselves by promoting demeaning, derogatory and sexist terms and viewpoints with books authored by women with titles such as “Skinny Bitch” “Prairie Bitch”, “Yoga Bitch” and “Good Christian Bitches”, reveals Wanis.
“This is an example of the way the Hip-hop culture and its sexist and misogynistic language and paradigms have pervaded all strata of society (including celebrities), resulting in the dissolution of all boundaries of morality, the sexual objectification of women and violence against women. Snooki and the cast of MTV’s Jersey Shore are but one example of the glorification and rewarding of extremely negative role-models.”
“Part of the solution is to awake and stop viewing celebrities as leaders, role models or people to follow; and instead celebrate the artistic achievements and contributions of those people who actually make a positive difference and not the narcissistic ones who demand to be rewarded for simply being in existence on this planet and for their parasitic behavior.”
Here is Wanis’ fifth annual list of The Top Ten Celebrity Meltdowns of 2011 along with his expert insights into their antics and dangerous behavior.
Can you guess the number 1 Celebrity Meltdown of 2011?
Here is Patrick’s list along with his insights.
Let’s start at number ten and work our way up to the top Celebrity Meltdown of 2011…
10. JOHNNY DEPP, SUSAN SARANDON & SINEAD O’CONNOR.
We have all had a moment where our emotions have taken over and we have lost control and said something stupid that we later regret. But giving interviews that express verbal violence or demean women and rape is absurd and indicates how fame and wealth can disconnect and isolate a celebrity from reality and the challenges that the everyday person experiences. Johnny Depp – AKA Captain Jack Sparrow told Vanity Fair magazine that he compares photoshoots with rape: “Well, you just feel like you’re being raped somehow. Raped…It feels like a kind of weird – just weird, man.” Meanwhile Johnny Depp also angered religious activists by teaming up with British rock band Babybird to record “The Jesus Stag Night Club,” about a boozing Christ-like figure in a strip club.
Susan Sarandon spoke out against the death penalty but referred to Pope Benedict XVI Joseph Ratzinger as a Nazi (his biography states that he was once involuntarily enrolled as a member of the Hitler Youth.) Meanwhile, Sinead O’Connor went further tweeting that that she would perform a “bloodbath” if Pope Benedict XVI visited Ireland. Celebrities could promote their cause by using appropriate language and metaphors instead of polarizing people or distracting from the topic at hand.
9. ALEC BALDWIN
In 2007, Baldwin made it into the Top Ten List of Celebrity Meltdowns at no. 8 when he threatened and insulted his 11-year-old daughter, Ireland, in a phone message, calling her a “thoughtless little pig,” threatening to “straighten your ass out when I see you”, telling her she doesn’t have the brain of a human being and then verbally bashing her mother and his ex-wife, Kim Basinger as “a thoughtless pain in the ass who doesn’t care about you.” But in 2011, Baldwin violated FAA regulations and threw a childish tantrum that one might expect from an 11-year-old but not from a father; behavior that reflects immaturity, entitlement, arrogance, selfishness and irresponsibility. Alec Baldwin was kicked off an American Airlines flight for ignoring flight attendant requests to power off his iPad for departure and for using offensive and violent language: “with the seat belt light still on for departure he took his phone into the plane’s lavatory. He slammed the lavatory door so hard, the cockpit crew heard it and became alarmed even with the cockpit door closed and locked.”
Federal Aviation Administration rules prohibit an airline or pilot from allowing passengers to operate “any portable electronic device” on an operating aircraft. Baldwin’s choice to respond in a “violent, abusive and aggressive” way was a selfish action because it inconvenienced so many other passengers. Alec Baldwin did Tweet an apology for inconveniencing passengers but he refused to fully accept responsibility for his inappropriate behavior and example, and instead he wrote at length about the bad state of the airlines and then went on SNL and spoofed, ridiculed and belittled American Airlines, the captain and crew, by playing the role of the airline pilot Steve Roach. Dressed as the pilot, Baldwin proceeds to apologize to himself, calling Baldwin “a treasure” and “an American Hero.”
But a hero is usually someone who displays tremendous courage and saves a life – not someone who throws a tantrum, acts in a violent and abusive manner, locks himself in the lavatory like a spoilt child, inconveniences other passengers, and refuses to accept any responsibility for his behavior. Thus, again, in 2011, Baldwin displayed behavior that is a bad example as a father – belligerent, rude and unable to restrain his emotions just as he did in 2007 when he called his then 11-year-old daughter a “thoughtless little pig”; words that might now be a better description of his own behavior.
Ultimately Baldwin’s behavior and subsequent responses stir resentment towards flight attendants (whose priority is safety) and do nothing to help change FAA regulations. In other words, Baldwin will still have to turn off his iPad, cell phone or other video games when on board a plane preparing to depart or land. No matter how many times he cries, stamps his feet or locks himself in a bathroom, the rules will still apply to him.
(Other celebrities who have displayed wanton entitlement in 2011 on flights include actor Josh Duhamel, Green Day’s Billie Joe Armstrong and diva Whitney Houston.)
8. GEORGE LOPEZ.
He’s been married and divorced and still George Lopez doesn’t realize that one of the most offensive and hurtful things you can ever say to a woman is to call her ugly or fat. On his TV show “Lopez Tonight”, he made a joke about former “Cheers” actress Kirstie Alley’s appearance on “Dancing with The Stars” – but he compared Alley to a pig. “She did a nice job, her little hooves tapping away. Before the show she went to the market, then she had roast beef, and this is her going all the way home,” he said and then cut to a video of a squealing pig. Alley responded by comparing Lopez to the Big, Bad Wolf, saying she would laugh as he suffered in boiling water. Lopez apologized but Alley Tweeted back to Lopez whose ex wife donated a kidney to him in 2005: “I don’t need or want ur apology…I want your kidney dude..on behalf of ur X and all the women uv insulted…give it back.”
7. BRETT RATNER, KATT WILLIAMS/TRACY MORGAN.
Director of the Rush Hour movies and Tower Heist, Brett Ratner “resigned” as producer of the 2012 Academy Awards after stating that “rehearsal is for fags.” While his response to his comments was honorable, Ratner was trying to puff up his own chest and boast of his own manliness when making that original statement.
And while comedians often push the envelope and say controversial things (some even make social and political commentary), Katt Wiillams went too far when he ranted about Mexicans, stating that they should go back to their country. And Tracy Morgan said if his son turned out to be gay, he would pull out a knife and stab that little nigger to death. Morgan typically bowed to pressure, apologized and claimed that he is not hateful or violent. But racism, bigotry, bias and prejudice cannot be changed by a forced apology. Forcing people to be fake and give fraudulent apologies to save their career and popularity doesn’t change their beliefs and only encourages people to lie about their real feelings. Morgan and Williams would have served more people by admitting their real feelings and prejudices and then agreeing to address those feelings and beliefs to become more accepting and compassionate comedians.
6. KELSEY GRAMMER & CAMILLE.
It’s common for people to carry resentment and thus say nasty things about their spouse after they are divorced. But the star of “The Real Houswewives of Beverly Hills”, Camille Grammer, doesn’t know how to be a real mom, ignoring all thought of the destructive impact her comments about her husband would have on her children, bringing them embarrassment, shame and humiliation when she told the world that Kelsey Grammer is not well endowed physically: “Big hands, big feet, big disappointment.” Meanwhile, Kelsey, who dumped his wife Camille for another younger woman, threw a hissyfit after being interviewed on ‘Sunrise’, a national Australian TV program which showed clips of ‘Real Housewives of Beverly Hills’ with Camille commenting on Kelsey. But Kelsey with a hugely inflated sense of self and ego, along with symptoms of The Fame Factor (denial, entitlement and delusions of grandeur and power) believed that his owed so much more from the world; Kelsey called one of show producers and slammed her “You are a vile person … a sick dog…Your life must be tragic. … I feel sorry for you.” Grammer refused to apologize for his insults and childish response, saying “My outburst was deserved”; the Sunrise TV show, in turn, has banned him from appearing on it ever again.
Kelsey continues to reveal that he is a bad role model for his children and for other men with his infidelities, narcissism, entitlement and childish temper tantrums.
5. ASHTON KUTCHER and JESSE JAMES.
Both celebrities have a lot in common as they refuse to be men and accept responsibility for the destruction of their relationships. After Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore ended their six year marriage, Kutcher said “Marriage is one of the most difficult things in the world and unfortunately sometimes they fail.” But Kutcher failed to add that his marriage also failed because he cheated on Demi and on their sixth anniversary night. Kutcher and his wife Demi found a mission and purpose greater than themselves by working to end underage sex trafficking but he lost sight of that mission when he turned hedonistic and distracted attention from a greater cause than his own pleasure.
Jesse James was number four on the list of Top Ten Celebrity Meltdowns for 2010 after cheating on wife Sandra Bullock numerous times with strippers and tattoo models. Then he became engaged to LA ink star, Kate Von D, but cheated on her with 19 women. “I am the most hated man in the world” he said in 2010, reflecting a grandiose and overly inflated sense of self – and it seems one year later that nothing and no amount of women can satisfy his inner emptiness. Nothing has changed for him as he still refuses to take responsibility for his own horrible behavior, speaking out in December 2011, and crying that he lost himself by marrying Sandra Bullock: “I became a big shot and married some Hollywood actress and didn’t talk to anybody anymore, so I feel bad…” Now, he finally reinforced the claim by people who said Sandra Bullock was in a higher league than him!
4. KIM KARDASHIAN.
One of the richest and most famous women in the US, Kim Kardashian and her sisters built an empire based on the Paris Hilton model – release a sex tape, promote your sexuality, self and hedonism, and let the world feel like they are privileged to have a peek into your world of glitz, glamour and the princess life.
But Kim tarnished her empire and power when she married and then filed for divorce from NBA player Kris Humphries after only 72 days of marriage – and a ten-million-dollar televised wedding. Fans became angry feeling betrayed that the wedding had been a fraud. Even her husband Kris Humphries now claims he was played for a fool, stating that the wedding was fraudulent and he has filed for annulment. James Bond star Daniel Craig labeled her and each one of the Kardashians as a “f…ing idiot.”
But the greatest damage Kim has done is by the bad example she has set for other women; instead of accepting any part or responsibility in a sham marriage, Kim tried to defend her choice to end her pledge of “till death do us part” by responding to the large public outcry and criticism of a fake wedding with claims that she loved Kris but he was mean to her and he called her fat. Does a spouse break a pledge based on name-calling and cite that as “irreconcilable differences” in divorce papers after refusing to even go to couples counseling?
Unknowingly, Kim Kardashian is setting the worst example for women and setting up women for major disappointment as she leads women down the dangerous path of idolizing the woman who seemingly has it all (fame, fortune, glam, power and independence) but cannot have a meaningful relationship and ultimately becomes a narcissist. The goals seem empty, meaningless and unfulfilling. The focus is self-centered – the wedding but no family – and no interest in motherhood! Which celebrity woman today promotes giving back or helping others? They all promote parasitism and narcissism.
The latest studies on narcissism amongst college students reveal that we are all progressively becoming more narcissistic but women make up the largest share of those increases in narcissism. So, women are becoming more narcissistic than men as they focus on attention, competition, materialism, instant gratification, consumerism and individualism – following in the footsteps of Kim Kardashian, Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan, Snooki and all the women scratching each others’ eyes to get on a TV reality show.
Kim Kardashian could learn a lot from Paris Hilton who proceeded her; Paris’ life thus far reveals that she is alone, unhappy and unsatisfied!
3. ARNOLD SCHWARZENEGGER and ANTHONY WEINER.
Arnold Schwarzenegger revealed that no matter how powerful, famous or successful a man might be, power corrupts him as he seeks out submissive women. Schwarzenegger was the Terminator on screen, a champion bodybuilder around the world and Governor of California. He married an equally if not more powerful and successful woman – Maria Shriver – and they had four children together. In 2011, it was revealed that Schwarzenegger was an example of ‘men marrying up but cheating down’; Schwarzenegger had engaged in an adulterous affair and secretly fathered a son 14 year prior with his housekeeper Mildred Baena, a frumpy woman of average looks and low social status. The Terminator’s marriage was terminated by his wife when she filed for divorce.
Power leads to cheating because it can lead to delusions of invincibility, entitlement and the male ego-drive to win, conquer and dominate but, when an externally powerful man like Schwarzenegger cheats with a submissive woman (his housekeeper), one whom he can control, he is trying to feel the power and masculinity that he lacks in his relationship with his often very powerful or famous wife. Men unconsciously seek the approval and validation of their wife and without it they look for another woman to compensate.
This, in no way justifies cheating nor does it lay blame on the wife, but the women engaging in the betrayal are giving into the greatest aphrodisiac of all – the power that these men offer.
The next best and most scandalous example in 2011 of infidelity and men marrying up but cheating down is US Democratic Congressman Anthony Weiner. His wife, Huma Abedin is powerful and successful in her own right; she is a longtime personal aide of Hillary Clinton. Engaging in selfish, stupid and self-sabotaging behavior, Weiner Twitted lewd photos of himself and his weiner to a few of his Twitter followers, young admirers and a former porn actress.
Weiner acted in a manner that reflected the corruption by power when he thought he was above the law and could fool people by denying that he sent those photos and lying that someone else had hacked his Twitter account. Eventually, Weiner was forced to admit that he was the one who sent out the photos although he still tried to justify his infidelity by saying that he never had any physical relations with any of those women and so therefore he wasn’t cheating. On June 16, 2011, Weiner announced his intention to resign from Congress and the scandal was dubbed Weinergate.
Both Weiner and Schwarzenegger are examples of the way men can destroy their careers when they allow power to corrupt them, resulting in the feeding of their most basic sexual desires.
2. LINDSAY LOHAN and MICHAEL LOHAN.
Lindsay’s meltdowns and reckless behavior have put her on the list of the top ten celebrity meltdowns 4 times out of the past 5 years. In 2007, Lindsay was no. 4. In 2009, she was no. 7, in 2010, was no. 3, and in 2011, she has climbed up again to no. 2 as her behavior continues to spiral out of control and her stupidity sees no bounds – she took $10,000 cash in her purse to a house party in Hawaii, where her purse and the money were subsequently stolen.
The list of her irresponsible and stupid actions in 20111 alone is exhaustive and not worthy of fully identifying except to say that her record is an example of self-serving judges who are more intent on placating Hollywood and being reelected than they are in serving justice and the community.
On February 9, 2011, Lohan was charged with the theft of a necklace from a jewelry store in January. She was sentenced to 120 days in jail, but due to jail overcrowding, Lohan served the sentence under house arrest, wearing a tracking ankle monitor, for 35 days. While under house arrest, Lohan failed a random alcohol test but again the judge refused to issue additional punishment. When Lohan later violated court-ordered community service, she was given a jail sentence (the 5th jail sentence in 4 years) but again she only spent 5 hours in jail. Until a judge fulfills his/her responsibility and duty, Lohan will continue to break the law because she has been given little motivation thus far to abide by it and because people are happy to reward her bad, selfish and narcissistic behavior such as Playboy Magazine paying her a reported one million dollars for a nude photoshoot.
Meanwhile, one of the people responsible for her psychological issues and dysfunction, her father Michael Lohan, parallels his daughter’s shocking behavior with his own shameful actions over many years (cocaine use, jail sentences, contempt of court et al.) Amongst the many incidents in 2011 alone that could be cited here, on such occurred on October 25, 2011, when Michael Lohan was arrested on suspicion of domestic violence involving his girlfriend and he then feined chest pain. Michael Lohan was issued a restraining order but after violating it, police came to his hotel to arrest him and he jumped from his third story hotel balcony and fell into a tree as he tries to escape police.
Sadly, none of the Lohans are doing well and it only seems to get worse.
1. CHARLIE SHEEN.
No one engaged in more unashamed and blatantly bizarre, shocking and controversial behavior or got more publicity in 2011 than Charlie Sheen!
“Whu-whu-winning!” was Charlie Sheen’s catch-cry across the country as he told the world that he has “Tiger blood” and “Adonis DNA.” He paraded his escort porn actress mistresses around the country with his aptly named tour “My Violent Torpedo of Truth/Defeat Is Not an Option.” His year was peppered with violent language and drunken binges as Charlie took every opportunity to appear on every TV show and internet specials to attack anyone that possibly stood in his way. Often referring to “war”, Sheen attacked his boss Chuck Lorre (resulting in his firing from the hit TV show – “Two and a half men”), TV execs saying they have ugly wives and children cast members and even his wife, Brooke Mueller. And this was one of the most damaging acts for his children, when he announced that he is teaching his young kids the word “rehab” so they will know where their mom Brooke Mueller is.
Eventually the mania that Sheen displayed died down as his claims of winning also came to an end – as he encountered boos, hisses, and objects thrown at him by people who paid to attend his performances, his prophecies of TV execs begging him to come back failed to come to fruition and he even indirectly begged for his job back.
The saddest part of Sheen’s multiple meltdowns and perverse behavior is the potential damage and trauma to his children; in 2010 he also admitted he assaulted Brooke Mueller. Sheen’s subconscious drive to prove himself and thus scream to the world that he is a winner is driven by the simple subconscious belief that he is a loser and can never win. Charlie’s father, Martin Sheen, admitted that he never let Charlie win – and even robbed him of fair and real wins. On one occasion, Charlie, age 15, for the first time beat his father one-on-one basketball, but his dad cheated him, claiming “No, you stepped on the line, right here. You went out of bounds.” Martin summed up his own behavior towards Charlie: “I could not let him have it. He beat me fair and square, and I could not let him have it, and he was furious. That’s the ego. That’s what he had to deal with in me, what the whole family had to deal with.”
And now, Charlie is tortured as he strives to convince the world and ultimately himself and his father that his is a winner, that he is good enough and worthy. And unless Charlie Sheen urgently changes his beliefs and behavior, his children will lose and grow up following in his footsteps, feeling like losers, turning to drugs, alcohol and sex in the hope that it might drown out the pain of feeling unloved, unwanted and not good enough.
Anointed “The Woman Expert” by WGN Chicago, Patrick Wanis PhD is a renowned Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert who developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and is teaching it to other practitioners. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. CNN, BBC, FOX News, MSNBC & major news outlets worldwide consult Wanis for his expert insights and analysis on sexuality, human behavior and women’s issues. Wanis is the first person ever to do hypnotherapy on national TV – on the Montel Williams show.