Will Smith and Hollywood relish every opportunity to preach to the entire world about the way we should all be living, about politics, faith, morality, peace, unity, saving the world, and loving each other.
But when put to the test, their hypocrisy and lack of responsibility & accountability are nauseatingly evident.
Last night, during the televised Oscars, comedian Chris Rock made a joke about Jada Pinkett Smith’s hair, “Jada, I love you. G.I. Jane 2, I can’t wait to see it.” Pinkett Smith has alopecia and so she has shaved her head.
The audience laughed and Will Smith at first laughed loudly and clapped, but his wife was not happy with the comment, and she rolled her eyes.
Will Smith next got up, walked on the stage, and slapped Chris Rock.
Smith walked right back to his seat and then angrily shouted out to Rock to not speak his wife’s name from his “f**king mouth.”
Chris Rock replied, “It was a G.I. Jane joke”, implying it was a complimentary joke and comparison.
How did Hollywood respond to a physical assault at their own live, televised event?
They completely ignored it!
Will Smith was not asked to leave the event. He was not escorted out. Nothing at all was done.
In fact, Smith was allowed to stay at the ceremony, and later, to come up to the stage, receive his award for best actor, and speak, while the audience of hypocrisy gave him a standing ovation.
This lack of action to a live assault came from the body of film and entertainment professionals who on screen, off screen, and at awards shows, take every opportunity to preach against war and violence, domestic violence, racism, sexism, and prejudice.
But they did nothing when there was violence in their own room, and by doing nothing, they displayed their hypocrisy and they condoned the violence: ‘If you are a celebrity and we like you, it is ok to physically assault a comedian when you don’t like his joke.’
What did Will Smith do?
When receiving his award, he played the victim and demonstrated hypocrisy, narcissism, and extreme immaturity.
Maturity is the choice to take full responsibility for your actions and to possess the clarity and awareness to apologize and make amends when you have wronged someone.
Smith did none of that.
Instead, in his speech, Smith chose to cry, display narcissism, make excuses for his actions, and use words that perpetrators of domestic violence often use to justify their attacks and abuse: “But love will make you do crazy things.”
No. Love didn’t make Smith slap Rock in front of the world; Smith’s wife wasn’t threatened or in any physical danger. Rather, it was ego, false pride, and a lack of emotional control that drove Smith to assault Rock.
Will Smith boasts about introducing his children and family to an Indian spiritual guru, Sadhguru. Smith had the opportunity to demonstrate and teach accountability and responsibility. Instead, he manipulated the audience with his choice of victimhood: “In this business, you gotta be able to have people disrespecting you and you gotta smile and you gotta pretend like that‘s OK.” Smith likened himself to the man he portrayed on screen, the father of Venus and Serena Williams: “Richard Williams was a fierce defender of his family.” But Smith only defended himself and stood for nothing more than entitlement, narcissism and victim-playing.
When he didn’t play victim, he demonstrated delusions of grandeur: “I am overwhelmed by what God is calling on me to do and be in this world.”
But children learn more from parent’s examples than they do from any visiting guru. Smith’ son, Jaden Smith Tweeted about the incident, supporting violence: “And That’s How We Do It.”
Of course, we all make mistakes, we all do wrong things, we lose our temper, we hurt others, but we all have the choice to admit we were wrong, accept responsibility, acknowledge the damage and hurt we created, and then offer to make amends.
Smith was crying throughout his awards speech because he felt shame and embarrassment for his violent outburst, but he ran from it and from his lack of emotional intelligence.
So, too, did the Academy of Motion Pictures Arts and Sciences (as well as Hollywood in general) run away from their responsibilities to act when someone physically attacks another person.
Smith apologized to the Academy and the members but not to Chris Rock, and he never even said for what he was actually apologizing.
Smith’s closing words summed up his motivation: “I’m hoping the Academy invites me back. Thank you.”
Finally, comedian and host Ricky Gervais’s words from the 77th annual Golden Globes in January 2020 were prophetic:
“So, if you do win an award tonight, don’t use it as a platform to make a political speech. You’re in no position to lecture the public about anything. You know nothing about the real world.”
Anointed “The Woman Expert” by WGN Chicago, Patrick Wanis PhD is a renowned Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert who developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and is teaching it to other practitioners. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. CNN, BBC, FOX News, MSNBC & major news outlets worldwide consult Wanis for his expert insights and analysis on sexuality, human behavior and women’s issues. Wanis is the first person ever to do hypnotherapy on national TV – on the Montel Williams show.