50 Shades of Grey movie condones domestic violence and sexual abuse by reinforcing the notion that women are victims who can cure an abuser by accepting his abuse and offering him love, says Human Behavior and Relationship Expert, Patrick Wanis PhD.
The movie sets up women to fall for the most dangerous mistake possible – falling in love with the potential of a damaged man and making it her role to fix him, all the while giving her own power away and letting him emotionally & psychologically manipulate & control her, and physically & sexually abuse her.
In the movie, Christian Grey, who is a “cold-hearted predator with a dungeon filled with toys” clearly tells Anastasia Steele, who views him as an intimidating man, that her role is to receive and enjoy the sexual and psychological pain, control and manipulation for one reason alone – to please him.
Anastasia unveils the classic symptoms of a woman trapped in an abusive relationship: she is humiliated, controlled, stalked, manipulated, hit, diminished, criticized, alienates friends, experiences mood swings, becomes isolated and above all, begins to feel helpless that she cannot change him with her love.She wants to fix, heal and cure the abuser, thus blaming herself when she fails.
Three women are murdered every day in the US due to domestic violence. While many women attend the movie 50 Shades of Grey looking for a love story with kinky scenes, they are being brainwashed into thinking their role is to be submissive and embrace abuse in order to win the rich, powerful man. This is an extreme setback for equality.
Finally, the BDSM community (bondage, discipline, domination, submission, sadism and masochism) does not support 50 Shades of Grey because it is not an accurate depiction of BDSM and one real-life Dominatrix clearly states that there is a vast difference between abuse and BDSM.