Here is the final issue, No. 20 of the Top 20 psychological issues of being a celebrity. For the previous article, for issues No. 18 and 19 click here.
20. “My real issue…” – Uncovering the core issues prior to becoming a celebrity
Every one of us has issues that were created during our childhood; something our parents (caretakers) did or didn’t do; something that resulted in painful emotions that we haven’t yet released along with disempowering subconscious beliefs that affect the way we view and interact with the people and world around us.
Just because you are famous and a celebrity doesn’t mean that those emotions and beliefs have magically disappeared or will magically disappear.
In other words, aside of the challenges that are the result of being famous (as explained above), like everybody else, your unique experiences and upbringing have combined to make you who you are and have created your perspectives. Of course, with the right help, they can be changed!
“He made me terrified all the time, terrified like I had to pee on myself. I remember one night he made her nose bleed. I was crying and thinking, ‘I’m just gonna go crazy on him one day.’ … I hate him to this day.” – Chris Brown, 2007 speaking about his stepfather and the way his stepfather abused his mother for years. Children who grow up in homes of domestic violence, often repeat the behavior of the abusive father/mother when they become adults, even though they want to protect the victim of the abuse as well as punish and hurt the abuser. At age 11, Chris Brown vowed to his mother that he would be in jail by age 15 for killing his abusive stepfather. “I’m gonna take a baseball bat one day while you’re at work, and I’m gonna kill him.” https://www.mtv.com/news/1604730/chris-brown-haunted-by-familys-history-of-domestic-violence/
“From the moment Mum left, I was a fearful kid who felt powerless.” – Hugh Jackman
“When your parents split up, like mine did, it’s impossible to delude yourself about fairytale romance and happy endings. I think it taught me that life isn’t always perfect and gave me a realistic approach to marriage, which I value. Marriage brought up all the kind of things I pushed to the back-burner – the fear, the mistrust, the doubts, and the insecurities.”
– Jennifer Aniston, 2005, interview with Heat Magazine https://www.femalefirst.co.uk/celebrity/Jennifer+Aniston-3460.html
“I used to be cruel to my woman, and physically – any woman. I was a hitter. I couldn’t express myself and I hit. I fought men and I hit women. That is why I am always on about peace, you see. It is the most violent people who go for love and peace. Everything’s the opposite. But I sincerely believe in love and peace. I am a violent man who has learned not to be violent and regrets his violence. I will have to be a lot older before I can face in public how I treated women as a youngster.” – John Lennon – interview with Playboy magazine, January 1981 https://www.recmusicbeatles.com/public/files/bbs/jl_yo.playboy/lennon4.html
“You have to work on yourself . . . It’s not talking to yourself in the bathroom, it’s finding out what’s really going on, digging down into the gooey, messy stuff . . . You have to face yourself sometimes, like OK, ¬seriously, everything is not going perfect, what are you doing wrong? Me, not you, me.” – Jennifer Lopez, 2014 answering questions about why her relationships have failed https://www.foxnews.com/entertainment/2014/11/08/jennifer-lopez-admits-that-huge-entourage-damaged-her-relationships.html
‘What I learned about myself is this, when I was younger I was not a good problem solver, meaning I had a very difficult time with dealing with my problems in life…I had many addictions, of several kinds, to deal with my life issues, but today, at 42, I have my wisdom, my heart and my conscience as the only tools to overcome life’s inevitable obstacles.” – Jada Pinkett Smith, writing on a post on her Facebook page, 2013 https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-2432816/Jada-Pinkett-Smith-reflects-difficult-time-youth-turns-42.html#ixzz39SmCMBtG
The desire for fame can also come from a feeling of never being or receiving unconditional love – thus fame is equal to unconditional love ‘They love, applaud and give me attention just because I exist; because I am.’ Listen to my interview and conversation “Can children be divine without being narcissistic?” with Dr. Vicki Panaccione, child psychologist, and founder & director of www.betterparentinginstitute.com as she reveals the significance of loving a child for ‘being’ while also adopting strategies to prevent the child from becoming narcissistic.
“I have wanted more than anything to have your respect. And I can’t deny the fact that you like me, right now. You like me!” – Sally Field acceptance speech for her second Oscar for Best Actress for her performance in “Places in the Heart”, 1985 https://www.ontheredcarpet.com/Sally-Field-finds-out-the-Academy-likes-her—Oscar-History-Video/8517
“Growing up I was scared of the dark. I was scared of heights. It limited me. I hated it, and that contributed to my anger. Isn’t most anger fear-based, ultimately? It emanates from some kind of powerlessness. I was really feeling that.” – Hugh Jackman
“It would be my guess that Madonna is not a very happy woman. From my own experience, having gone through persona changes like that, that kind of clawing need to be the center of attention is not a pleasant place to be.” – David Bowie
“I can tell you that if I look back on my life any of the negative things that have happened usually have [drinking] as a root cause, whether it was a DUI, or fighting, or a breakup, a relationship not working. There’s a price to pay for it. If you take a look at the songs, none of them are positive.” Keifer Sutherland speaking about his musical album “Down in a Hole” , 2016
For the first part in this series:
The Top 20 psychological issues of celebrities Click here
Anointed “The Woman Expert” by WGN Chicago, Patrick Wanis PhD is a renowned Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert who developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and is teaching it to other practitioners. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. CNN, BBC, FOX News, MSNBC & major news outlets worldwide consult Wanis for his expert insights and analysis on sexuality, human behavior and women’s issues. Wanis is the first person ever to do hypnotherapy on national TV – on the Montel Williams show.