Cheating. Athletes, actors, politicians and pastors do it – a NJ pastor admitted to a three way affair; even famous women do it – Princess Diana cheated and Farrah Fawcett kept it a secret for 11 years. But cheating is not limited by gender according to one expert who says women cheat for distinctly different reasons than men.
“For men, cheating is often first about power and temptation, but for women, cheating is about feeling neglected, unloved and even ugly” says Human Behavior & Relationship Expert Patrick Wanis PhD – author of “Get over it – breakups, betrayals and rejection.” “As was the case with Princess Diana who admitted an affair with her riding instructor, James Hewitt, women cheat when they feel invisible and their needs aren’t met. When another man enters her life and gives her the attention, listens to her and makes her feel alive, treasured and special, she will give in and have an affair.”
Why do men cheat?
According to Dr. Wanis, “Men are motivated by power, opportunity, narcissism, desire for instant gratification, lack of discipline & self-control, false sense of invincibility, delusions of grandeur, corroding relationships and lack of sex within the relationship. As soon as men get in power, they believe the rules no longer apply to them – Tiger Woods, John Edwards, Elliot Spitzer, Governor Mark Sanford and ahthletes such as Tony Parker, husband of Eva Longoria.”
Why do women cheat?
Dr. Wanis, who is also the exclusive relationship expert to the movie “The Putt Putt Syndrome” (a movie about a married woman who cheats on her husband), reveals that “Today’s marriages are often ripe for women to cheat: the man is in mid-life crisis and the woman is disillusioned by a one-minute romp, feeling lonely, isolated and neglected by her husband who is lost in his work while she is lost in the children and maybe her own career. Gone is the romance and excitement and they have become roommates – the woman feels invisible, she’s not being heard, and with plenty of opportunity and temptation around her, she seeks to have her needs met elsewhere…cheating occurs”
Dr. Wanis also offers clear tips and strategies for men and women to avoid cheating, affairs and betrayal. Read his article, “Why women cheat” https://patrickwanis.com/blog/why-women-cheat-2/
Is Facebook to blame?
A New Jersey pastor tried to ban Facebook for married people in his church saying it can lead to infidelity by rekindling old flames but The Rev. Cedric Miller admitted to three and four-way affairs before Facebook even existed. Dr. Wanis says “There are, though, real dangers to reconnecting with your ex on Facebook as he or she may want more than friendship, might be stuck in the past or may simply be jealous and bitter and may secretly want to sabotage your marriage.” Watch the TV interview Dr. Wanis gives about the dangers of reconnecting with your ex on Facebook: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TqOqdvaikjA (Part 1)
Originally from Australia, Patrick Wanis PhD, is a Celebrity Life-Coach, Author, Expert in Human Behavior and Relationships and a Clinical Hypnotherapist with a PhD in Health Psychology. Wanis has appeared on FOX News, MSNBC, Extra, the Montel Williams Show, Mike and Juliet, Cosmo, Rolling Stone, InTouch Weekly, Women’s Health, Dating on Demand, E! TV, Vh1, CNN.com, Date.com, Matchmaker.com, NY Daily Mail, NY Post, Vogue Australia, FHM, etc. Wanis is the first person ever to do Clinical Hypnotherapy on national television. WGN Chicago and Syndicated TV show, “The Daily Buzz” anointed him “The Woman Expert” and FOX News pronounced him “A voice for women.” Over five million people have read Wanis’ books in English and Spanish. www.patrickwanis.com
Anointed “The Woman Expert” by WGN Chicago, Patrick Wanis PhD is a renowned Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert who developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and is teaching it to other practitioners. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. CNN, BBC, FOX News, MSNBC & major news outlets worldwide consult Wanis for his expert insights and analysis on sexuality, human behavior and women’s issues. Wanis is the first person ever to do hypnotherapy on national TV – on the Montel Williams show.