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Self Doubt

Self Doubt

In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to talk about self doubt and how to overcome it.

First a quick update:

“Celebrity meltdowns”
Watch the FOX News channel story and my take on the real causes 

“Are you dateworthy?”
Watch the two-part TV interview I gave on iVillage Live

“Britney and Dr Phil’s lesson”
Listen to the interview I gave to XM radios’ Broadminded including the reasons why “will power” doesn’t succeed in helping people to conquer deep-seated subconscious issues at

Now let’s talk about self-doubt and self-confidence.

To be confident means you are self-assured. You know yourself, believe in yourself, and respect yourself. Arrogance is “I am better than you” which, actually comes from feelings of insecurity and inferiority. Confidence is “I know who I am and I know what I am doing.”

Self-confidence is tied into self-esteem: “how much you like yourself.” The level and extent to which you like yourself depends on how significant you feel and how capable you feel. 

When you feel capable, you feel confident. In other words, you believe in yourself, you trust yourself and you know that you will succeed, even if you make mistakes.

Self-esteem and self-confidence are also tied into fear and the need for the approval of others.

  • Do you trust yourself?
  • Do you fear that you will fail?
  • Do you fear that you will make a fool of yourself or that you might look silly?
  • Do you constantly seek the approval of others?
  • Do you have low self-esteem?
  • Do you doubt yourself?
  • Do you suffer from anxiety and worry?
  • Are you simply unsure about your abilities and skills?

Have you noticed that children have no fear? Have you noticed that children are enthusiastic, excited and always seeking out adventures? Have you noticed that when children make mistakes they just get up and try again?

What instills fear in children and kills their self-esteem and self-confidence are the actions, example and words of adults:

 “Don’t run Johnny, you will fall and hurt yourself…Don’t do that –it’s dangerous…Don’t do that, what will the neighbors think of us?..You are embarrassing us…Good children don’t do that…That’s not for you…Don’t say anything, you have already done enough bad around here…You will never amount to anything…You are stupid…lazy…foolish…bad…etc” 

Parents unknowingly pass down to their children their own fears, doubts, worries and poor self-images. Parents pass down to their children their own limiting self-beliefs. They often pass down the criticism and judgment that they received as children.

Ultimately, parents instill fear and self-doubt into their children. They teach children that they are worthless, cannot trust themselves or the world around them.

Parents don’t deliberately do this to hurt their children and often do it thinking they are protecting their children but the result remains the same for the children: low self-esteem, no self-confidence, anxiety, worry, self-doubt and fear. In turn, when the child becomes an adult, it moves through the world with subconscious fear, the inability to have strong, meaningful and trusting relationships, unsure of itself, feeling like an impostor, focusing on its weaknesses and failings instead of focusing on its strengths, always worried about what other people will think and constantly seeking validation from others.

Children innately do not have these issues, challenges or blocks. Research shows children are born only with two fears: the sound of loud noises and falling. Yes, everything else – fear, self-doubt, worry, anxiety, self-loathing and so forth comes from negative programming.

The key to releasing and overcoming self-doubt, fear, anxiety and worry is to reprogram your subconscious mind to become aware of and focus on your many talents and abilities, to believe in and trust yourself, to realize that you can handle whatever comes your way, knowing that you will be fine. I have created a new hypnosis CD – supreme self-confidence to help you to subconsciously become aware of  your inner strength and security and to help reshape your perspective so that you view life through a child’s eyes:

 “…think of the child riding the bicycle and you notice how much fun it has because life can be adventurous and if the child happens to fall, it just gets up and rides again, learning from every experience, feeling good and stronger. And the child feels that it can conquer everything, seeing and feeling life as a sense of adventure, exploring, learning, growing, having fun, meeting people, laughing and playing, curious and fascinated by life. Always open and ready to take on new challenges with enthusiasm, excitement and self-assurance, self-assurance that everything is ok. Knowing that it can always do well and succeed. Believing in its abilities. Always focusing on the fun and adventure that can be had. 

And the child loves life and is self-confident because it has faith in its abilities, and focuses on new experiences, learning, growing becoming deeply absorbed in every task and new challenge. The child feels a passion and enthusiasm for life, it feels invincible, because it has let go of anything and everything that might have been said in the past that caused doubt in the past…”  

The Supreme Self-confidence hypnosis audio program works on reprogramming your subconscious mind to create a new, positive and empowering self-image and to raise your self-esteem so that you can feel good, supremely confident and stop those habits that are creating pain for you in your life right now.

The Supreme Self-confidence hypnosis audio program  also helps to unleash the power within you and teaches you a technique whereby you can instantly bring up that feeling of supreme self-confidence anytime you are faced with a challenge.

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I wish you the best and remind you “Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!”

Patrick Wanis
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & Clinical Hypnotherapist

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