In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to talk about what a woman wants.
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Now let’s talk about what a woman wants.
This is the age-old question that has racked men’s brains: “What does a woman want?”
Let’s first take a look at one of the key myths that men have about women:
All a woman needs to be happy is financial security
This is false. A woman needs emotional security first, above all else. She can make her own money! In my next appearance on the Montel TV show, you will see me explain to a married man, a father of four children, that a man’s role is much greater than just being the provider. This father often refers to being there for his children and wife but until we began to work together, he never knew what it actually meant to be there for them and he simply believed paying for the bills and repeatedly saying, “they know I am there for them” was suffice for his family. He sincerely believed that he was fulfilling his role as a father and husband.
As you will see on the Montel TV show, I explain that a man needs to provide his wife/partner with emotional security in the form of love, encouragement, emotional and moral support, emotional growth, allowing her to establish her identity and individuality within the framework of the relationship/partnership. And with regards to his children, he needs to give them attention, love and support. He needs to listen, pay attention, be interested in them, ask questions and do things for them. And given, that this particular man has four daughters, he needs to learn to, “hang out” with them and communicate more often.
Having said the above, it is true that in our present day society, it seems that our values have moved from inner treasures to outer treasures – material possessions. And yes, mothers yearn for financial security for themselves and their children, but again, remember many of them are doing it on their own. And as men, we need to be careful that we don’t get swept up by the hysteria and myth that more and more money and possessions will fill the inner emptiness and make us happy or that bigger TVs, cars, houses will provide what our family truly needs. The pain, insecurity, resentments, anger, self-doubt and issues that almost all of my clients cry to me about is what they didn’t get from their parents in the form of love, attention, affection, recognition, validation, approval, acceptance, interest, support, encouragement, praise and time together.
So again, what do women want?
From my book: “What a woman wants – and how to give it to her”, I answer that question:
“Women want a man that knows who he is, respects himself, respects others, and is actively pursuing his dreams. Women want a confident man who has personal power with whom they can trust and feel safe. Let me fill you in on a secret that many women don’t even consciously know: women generally fall in love with the potential of a man, while men fall in love with a woman the way she is. Women want to know that their man is going to grow, mature, and blossom. Men, on the other hand, want or expect that a woman will stay the same forever –the same hairstyle, same body shape, and the same looks.
Ultimately, a woman wants her man to make her feel special. She wants to experience love and ecstasy with him. She wants him to listen, pay attention to her, and be with her. She wants him to be understanding and empathetic of her feelings. When she makes a mistake or faces challenges, she wants understanding from her man, not loads of advice. She wants him to hold and cherish her and tell and show her that she is the one. Finally, she wants her man to respect her body and not just touch her sexually whenever he feels like it”
Ultimately there is one thing that every woman longs for –the state of love and ecstasy. In my book, “What a Woman Wants – and how to give it to her” ©WOW Media, I explain what that state is and how you can help bring about those feelings in a woman. I also reveal in the book, the four things that a man wants! And no, it’s not just food and s..
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I wish you the best and remind you “Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!”
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & Clinical Hypnotherapist
Anointed “The Woman Expert” by WGN Chicago, Patrick Wanis PhD is a renowned Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert who developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and is teaching it to other practitioners. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. CNN, BBC, FOX News, MSNBC & major news outlets worldwide consult Wanis for his expert insights and analysis on sexuality, human behavior and women’s issues. Wanis is the first person ever to do hypnotherapy on national TV – on the Montel Williams show.