Being Appreciated Equals Being Valued

Being appreciated equals being valued. What is your value

Being appreciated equals being valued. What is your value?

In this Success Newsletter, I would like to respond to the many requests for more discussion about self-worth.

I would like to first do this by talking about value and appreciation.

When you appreciate someone or something, you are grateful for him/her, you value and regard them highly, you understand their worth and you believe they are important.

When you value someone or something, you believe that it is desirable, useful, worthy, special and significant.

So let me ask you a couple of simple questions: Did your parents value you as a child? Did they appreciate you? Did you grow up being appreciated for who you are, the inner you? Were you praised and complimented? Were you told, treated or shown that you are special and important?

If the answer is no, then there is a good chance that you are not being valued professionally or personally, that you are not receiving what you deserve at work, in business or in personal relationships.


If you were not valued and appreciated as a child (son or daughter) or as an individual, then you probably don’t truly value and appreciate yourself subconsciously and your life will reflect this belief. For example, do you feel valued and appreciated in your romantic relationship and your relationships with your family? Do you feel you are being paid and rewarded for what you truly deserve at work or in business?

Let me further explain. Yesterday, Sally Jessy Raphael was interviewing me on her new syndicated radio show ( and I was explaining that as human beings we all have needs. Our basic needs for survival are food, water and shelter. However, our emotional needs are vast and vary according to our personality, character and upbringing. Our basic emotional needs are validation, significance, reassurance & approval, appreciation, sense of belonging, acceptance and love. In other words, we all need to be needed and want to feel important, loved and accepted. We also have certain physical needs such as touch, affection and intimacy.

To listen to my radio interview gave to Sally Jessy Raphel Click here

When we feel appreciated we have a sense that we are valued, important and significant. Appreciation can be expressed in many different ways: compliments and praise, recognition of your talents and gifts, time spent with you, being noticed for your achievements & accomplishments, being encouraged to freely and joyfully express yourself, gratitude for things you do and who you are, hugs and affection, attention and interest in you, questions asked to learn more about you, listening to you genuinely, prizing your opinions and desires, being rewarded financially and verbally for chores, tasks or work performed, and so forth.

So now, let me ask you, do you value and appreciate yourself and others? Do you truly feel and believe that you are special? Do you appreciate and feel good about who you are – your core essence – your way of being? Do you praise yourself for things well done and for your inner qualities? Do you encourage yourself? Do others around you appreciate you or do you choose to surround yourself with people who don’t value or appreciate you? Do you express appreciation and gratitude for the people and things in your life?

In my next Success Newsletter, I will explain how to change your beliefs about your self-worth, value and appreciation.

Meanwhile, consider these products to help change your beliefs and the way you feel about yourself: My hypnosis CD/MP3, “Be Happy, Rich & Wealthy” to remove the subconscious blocks so that you will believe you deserve the best of everything, and, for the ladies, “Get the man YOU want!” (an audio makeover book.) My Hypnosis CD/MP3 and book are available from my website.

“Be Happy, Rich and Wealthy”

“Get the Man YOU Want!”

I wish you the best and remind you “Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!”

Patrick Wanis
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & Clinical Hypnotherapist

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    Patrick says:

    Self-esteem, self-love and worthiness are all connected. Self-esteem is: how much you like yourself, how significant and capable you feel. Self-love is about being able to acknowledge and accept your weaknesses & mistakes and still like and love yourself inspite of them. self-esteem and self-love will affect your self-worth. The latter refers to whether or not you believe you deserve the best in life – in every area of your life. Self-love does not equal nor lead to narcissism. The latter is when you don’t like or love yourself and so you become obsessed trying to love yourself, screaming out to the world to notice how great you are because deep down you don’t believe it. Narcissism is self-centeredness, egotism, lack of empathy for others and vanity. Narcissism is a sign that a person does not love himself. When one loves himself, he loves and respects others! He feels good about himself and accepts praise and recognition but doesn’t scream out for it and he is able to give to others and not just scream for them to give to him!

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    tony says:

    What is difference between self esteem and self love or worth if any, and where do these cross over into narcissiasm?

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