In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to talk about “Self-talk” – the things that you say to yourself all day long – and how to control that Inner Chatterbox.
First a quick update:
“How Your Mind Prevents Success –and what to do about it”
Listen to the hour-long interview I gave to world-famous sales trainer Blair Singer, here.
Listen to the interview I gave to the ladies of XM radio’s Broadminded show about “Celebrities who sabotage and destroy their lives & success” because of their deep beliefs about a lack of self-worth: Michael Vick & The O.J Effect.
To listen to my radio interview, click here.
Now let’s talk about Self-talk – the things that you say to yourself – and how to control that Inner Chatterbox.
Here is an excerpt from my book, “How to Hypnotize Anyone”:
“We say that only mad people talk to themselves, but the truth is that we all talk to ourselves all day long, without even knowing it. In fact, we have around 60,000 thoughts a day. What are we thinking? What are we telling ourselves, and where does this inner voice come from?
Self-talk is what we repeat to ourselves – our mental background music. Most of us are not even aware of our self-talk, yet it has a powerful influence on behavior, our stress, motivation and actions.
This inner voice is often referred to as the chatterbox, because it practically never ceases talking. This inner chatterbox is the voice inside your head that says, “I can’t do it… I’ll fail… I am a loser… I am fat…” or “You can’t afford it… You will never be rich… You’re stupid… You’re ugly…”
All those thoughts that make up the chatterbox are the result of everything you have ever been told and that you accepted as true. These thoughts and messages are the things you were told during your childhood by your parents, family, peers and the media. They can also be the result of events that occurred in your life or your personal thoughts and fears.
You may find that many of the things your parents told you as a child are the very things you repeat to yourself all day long – often without even knowing it. Some of these things you accepted as true because you experienced them as a child, and children learn by imitating. For example, if your parents worked hard to make their money, you probably believe that only hard work leads to money, yet others around you may seem to come into money easily.
Reprogramming the Inner Voice
One of the keys to happiness, peace of mind and getting what we want is being able to change the messages we continually repeat to ourselves all day long.
If you consistently and permanently change your self-talk and start saying, “I am thin and attractive” instead of “I am fat and ugly,” your mind would direct you toward activity to make you thinner. Your imagination starts to create images and pictures of you as a thin person. You start to exercise or eat less, and you become thinner.
Hypnosis works the same way by changing permanently your thoughts, beliefs, self-talk and imagination – and thus, your reality.”
Blair Singer is a world famous sales trainer and public speaker who was personally selected by Robert Kiyosaki- best-selling author of “Rich Dad Poor Dad” as part of his business team. Recently Blair Singer interviewed me to learn more about the link between the mind, human behavior and success – and specifically how our mind prevents us from success. I explained to Blair that one of the reasons affirmations so often fail is because we have 60,000 other negative affirmations throughout the day. And most of us are not even aware of what those thoughts or negative affirmations are. In the interview I share an exercise to help you to first become aware of those subconscious thoughts and then how to change them. Listen to the full interview.
When you do become aware of worry or negative self-talk, say “stop” or “cancel that” and proceed to replace the disempowering thought with something positive and supportive. Remember, in every moment, you can always choose happiness, “I choose happiness, I choose peace” and proceed to visualize and imagine a positive outcome.
If you want to begin now to reprogram the inner voice so that it supports you, use my hypnosis CDs such as “Be Happy, Rich & Wealthy”.
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I wish you the best and remind you “Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!”
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & Clinical Hypnotherapist
Anointed “The Woman Expert” by WGN Chicago, Patrick Wanis PhD is a renowned Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert who developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and is teaching it to other practitioners. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. CNN, BBC, FOX News, MSNBC & major news outlets worldwide consult Wanis for his expert insights and analysis on sexuality, human behavior and women’s issues. Wanis is the first person ever to do hypnotherapy on national TV – on the Montel Williams show.