Human behavior expert warns the book “He’s just not that into you” is damning to men, disempowering to women and destructive to relationships
New York, NEW YORK …”Authors Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo are spreading falsities and inaccuracies like wildfire with their book, He’s Just Not That Into You: The No-Excuses Truth to Understanding Guys,” according to therapist and life coach, Patrick Wanis.
The premise of the book is that whatever is wrong in your relationship with your boyfriend, the cause is he is simply not that interested in you and you need to move on. The authors claim that if he’s not calling you, keeping his word, committing to you, having regular sex with you, then he doesn’t love you. Australian human behavior and relationship expert, therapist and author of What a woman wants –and how to give it to her, Patrick Wanis, claims this book “He’s just not that into you” is taking people down the wrong path. Wanis says women are being fooled into thinking that they no longer need suffer to understand their boyfriend’s weird behavior or make the relationship work, all they need do is dump him and find another guy. “The danger”, Wanis says, “is that this book now makes women helpless, powerless and dependent, It claims that if the man doesn’t act exactly the way she wants and when she wants, he doesn’t love her. The book undermines equality of the sexes and regresses us to a time when women were at the mercy of men, waiting for men to rescue, dominate and make decisions for them.”
“The book is damning to men because it expects men to be prince-charming and perfect by claiming he will move mountains and do anything for you if he truly wants you. The authors are reducing relationships to unrealistic black and white terms; to fairy-tales where the woman is number one 24/7, creating false expectations that no man can live up to. Clearly the authors do not understand the complexities of human emotions and relationships. They fail to take into account the various problems and hard work required by both sexes to make a relationship work. They fail to realize the greatest issue and challenge that faces almost all men -the fear of commitment. Even when a man does truly love and want to be with a woman, it will not help the man to overcome the fear of commitment because it is the love and intimacy that spurs the fear of commitment. Dumping the man isn’t the answer either. It won’t solve the problem of the male fear of commitment. When a man loves a woman, he still wrestles the demon of fear of commitment and intimacy, and he can only conquer it with her help in a loving, trusting and safe environment. No man will express intimacy or vulnerability when a woman says, do as I want and be perfect otherwise I am out of here.
- Read the full article by Patrick Wanis: “He’s just not that into you – A dating revolution or one giant step backwards?” https://patrickwanis.com/blog/he-just-not-that-into-you-dating-revolution-giant-step-backwards/
Patrick Wanis is an international speaker, certified therapist, Neuro-Linguistic Programming practitioner and hypnotist with degrees in communication and human behavior. He has appeared on television and radio and teaches around the world. He has authored: How to get over it –breakups, betrayals and rejection; Soul mates, and; What a woman wants –And how to give it to her.
Anointed “The Woman Expert” by WGN Chicago, Patrick Wanis PhD is a renowned Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert who developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and is teaching it to other practitioners. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. CNN, BBC, FOX News, MSNBC & major news outlets worldwide consult Wanis for his expert insights and analysis on sexuality, human behavior and women’s issues. Wanis is the first person ever to do hypnotherapy on national TV – on the Montel Williams show.