In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to reveal the 20 principals that demonstrate real care – at home and at work.
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Now, let’s talk about the 20 principals that demonstrate real care – at home and at work.
How much do you care about the people in your life? How do you show and demonstrate that care? If I asked your people, would they be able to say unequivocally that you really care and that they feel and experience that care?
The principals I am about to share with you about creating a culture of care apply equally to personal relationships and home life as well as to the workplace.
Simply put, care is looking after, protecting, and providing for the needs of someone. The 20 principals below reveal a culture of care that ultimately focuses on helping people to become the best version of themselves.
As you read the list below of the foundations of a culture of care, you can replace the word ‘people’ with team, family, partner, spouse, child, loved one, or best friend.
1. Care is your priority: Make the mental, emotional and physical well-being and success of your people your priority
2. Care is helping people to grow, develop and harness their greatness: Focus on helping everyone to become the best version of themselves
3. Care is creating a family: Make your people a unified community who support each other; beware of creating unhealthy rivalry and competitiveness which can lead to division or favoritism; build relationships and networks of support and connection
4. Care is HUV: Everyone, including you, needs HUV – to be heard, understood, and validated
5. Care is creating the space for people to express their ideas: Look for ways to ensure everyone is heard, particularly at meetings, decision-making or brainstorming sessions
6. Care is asking: Understand your people by asking and learning more about their personal lives and families. (If you have a child, ask, ask and ask – even your teenage child who tells you to butt out, is saying the opposite of what they want and need – they actually want you to demonstrate that you care – that you are interested and concerned about them.)
7. Care is making people matter: Give feedback to your people; let them know how they are doing; let them know that they are being seen and that they matter; acknowledge their actions, progress, and accomplishments
8. Care is listening: Listen attentively and actively; give your complete and undivided attention; beware of waiting for someone to finish what they are saying just so you can say what you want. Listen to learn and understand. Ask probing questions to get to the core issue. Listening leads to being heard, understood and validated.
9. Care is demonstrating that people are valuable and worthy: Validation is the act of demonstrating that this person matters, is significant and their opinion, ideas and contribution are also significant to you and the company. Validation is also expressed with safety measures and inclusiveness.
10. Care is encouraging people to show up as themselves and thus to be effective: Know each person’s values, hobbies, interests, passion, goals, character and behavioral style and personality. Reinforce who they are and help them to achieve their goals.
11. Caring is know the names of everyone on your team: Stop and greet them in the hallway or in the team zoom meeting
12. Care is showing financial respect: Validate your people with fair compensation to also demonstrate love and respect
13. Care is cheerleading: Celebrate everyone’s accomplishments and successes, and do so loudly, proudly, and publicly
14. Care is empathy and compassion in action: When someone is hurting, suffering or going through a challenge or difficult time, be there for them: listen, express empathy and compassion, offer help or ask for ways to help and support them
15. Care is maintaining dignity: Support their dignity and value: If you have to let someone go show them respect and worth by being generous, treat them well, and celebrate their accomplishments
16. Care is encouraging others: Teach your people to be courageous by convincing them that you believe in them, even when they doubt themselves or are fearful or unsure
17. Care is recognizing that the problem often stems from a personal issue: When things are not working, it is usually because someone needs help (training, support, encouragement, guidance, course-correction or even discipline.)
18. Care is instilling the right principles and values: Win with commitment, teamwork, grit, and integrity.
19. Care is love, humility and service: Help people by giving of your time, talents and resources, and by being genuine, authentic (living in alignment with your values) and by being vulnerable to reveal your humanness and to build mutual trust. Say, “I am sorry…I was wrong…forgive me.”
20. Care is being the coach: Be honest, use tough talk and sincere love. “A coach is someone who tells you what you don’t want to hear, who has you see what you don’t want to see, so you can be who you have always known you could be.” – Tom Landry
If you would like coaching or would like help to develop empathy or compassion or become a coach or leader, book a one-on-one session with me.
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I wish you the best and remind you “Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!”
Patrick Wanis Ph.D. Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & SRTT Therapist
Anointed “The Woman Expert” by WGN Chicago, Patrick Wanis PhD is a renowned Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert who developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and is teaching it to other practitioners. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. CNN, BBC, FOX News, MSNBC & major news outlets worldwide consult Wanis for his expert insights and analysis on sexuality, human behavior and women’s issues. Wanis is the first person ever to do hypnotherapy on national TV – on the Montel Williams show.