Jealousy, insecurity and ogling other beautiful people

Jealousy, insecurity and ogling other beautiful people

Jealousy, insecurity and ogling other beautiful people

A study released in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology reveals just how insecure both men and women are.

The Associated Press reported on the study:

While people of each gender tend to ogle beautiful people of the opposite sex, they also check out good-looking rivals who might show interest in their partner, a study shows. 

The Florida State University researchers examined something that isn’t a surprise to anyone — people’s eyes are quickly drawn to someone attractive. But this being serious research, they gave it a serious name: “attentional adhesion.” 

Jon Maner, an assistant professor of psychology, said human brains are designed to latch on to people’s attractive features in a quest to find the right mate, or to guard a sweetheart from rivals. 

“I was also surprised that jealous men paid so much attention to attractive men,” Maner said. 

The professor’s findings were published in the September issue of the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. Graduate students Matthew Gailliot, Aaron Rouby and Saul Miller co-wrote it. 

Maner and his colleagues found that the study participants — all heterosexual men and women — fixated on highly attractive people within the first half-second of seeing them, even if it was someone of the same sex. 

In three experiments, 442 respondents completed questionnaires to determine the extent to which they were motivated to seek out members of the opposite sex. 

They were then shown photos of attractive men and women and average-looking men and women. 

After a photo of one of the faces flashed in one quadrant of a computer screen, the participants were required to shift their attention away to somewhere else on the screen. Electronic eye-tracking equipment found that it took participants about a tenth of a second longer to shift their attention away from photos of attractive people. 

“Literally in the blink of an eye … just a tenth of a second, we can detect attractiveness,” Maner said. “I don’t think we had a good sense of just how automatic and nonconscious this kind of attentional bias can be.”

So men and women ogle beautiful people of the opposite sex but also check out and beautiful rivals. Is this truly news or are motivations behind this behavior the real news? Jim Peake of mysuccessgateway.com interviewed Patrick Wanis for his insights on this study and the motivations behind the findings of this type of human behavior and sexuality. Listen to the full interview here.

Patrick revealed that:

  • Women compete with and are threatened by other women
  • How women react to other beautiful women
  • Men compete in terms of financial power
  • Social Value – what that is and how social values determines attraction and the type of partners we choose
  • Why Social Value is critical in making you more attractive to other people
  • What threatens men?
  • Are women more insecure than men?
  • What is the one secret about women that every man must know about and know how to apply it to have a happy and meaningful relationship
  • When and how to reassure a woman
  • When is the ideal time to reassure and validate woman
  • The power struggle that men perpetrate
  • How to make your partner more attracted to you and more secure around you

Listen to the full interview here

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    Lucia says:

    I actually completely love my partner sooo much and consequently he is indeed , outstanding for myself. I appreciate just about everything close to him. The only problem though, is he is friends with way too many ladies and I hate knowing that he could be speaking with a bunch of young ladies besides me. I hate being jealous. I’m trying to just ignore the jealousy but I can’t. Please help me out. Thanks.

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      Patrick Wanis says:

      Dear Lucia,
      some jealousy is okay but when it become overpowering, it become destructive; jealousy comes from a feeling of not being good enough – fear of loss.
      If he has a better connection with other women, then you know there is a serious problem.

      Is he insecure also? Why does he speak with “a bunch of young ladies besides” you?
      Have you and he discussed your feelings? Have you told him how could reassure you without giving himself up?
      What do you need to believe and feel that you are worthy, unique and loveable?
      Patrick

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