In this Success Newsletter, I would like to talk about self-sabotage, destructive behavior and how to change it.
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Now let’s talk about more about sabotage, destructive behavior and how to change it.
In last week’s Success Newsletter, I said that “Self-destructive behavior can be any situation in which you subject yourself to being treated poorly.” And that it comes from “a deep often, subconscious belief that we are not good enough or that we do not deserve the best. This belief almost always incorporates feelings of guilt, shame, blame and self-punishment. “
Yesterday, on XM Radio’s Broadminded show, I spoke about Michael Vick’s present situation and explained that so many celebrities are sabotaging their success. I said that money, power, fame and success will only make you more of who you truly are and ultimately these distractions or masks can’t hide the deeper beliefs we have about our own self-worth. In other words, we always return to our roots, our deep emotional roots. Note that Vick grew up in a rough place surrounded by gangs and drugs; his mother gave birth to him at 16 and his father was almost never around. What subconscious conclusions do you think Vick made about the level of success he deserves? Do you think he might be angry at the world and thus he admitted that he engaged in a cruel illegal sport, killing dogs?
The same principle applies to Britney and Lindsay Lohan: Britney is returning to her roots, and Lindsay is struggling with the same drug issues that her father did. So how are these examples relevant to you and I?
Everything we do is motivated by our deep subconscious beliefs, and those beliefs are reflected in our reality, our results. When we are engaging in destructive behavior we are simply living into the belief that we are not good enough –that we do not deserve the best. Step one to changing this behavior and its consequences is to identify and acknowledge when you are actually doing it i.e. notice the way you are treating yourself. If you are still unsure about how you are behaving or acting, then notice the way you are treating others – for it is simply a reflection of how you will be treating yourself. If you cannot be kind, loving or caring to an animal or another human being, then you surely cannot be kind, loving and caring to yourself. In other words, if you express hatred and cruelty to other living things then you will also have hatred for yourself.
When I work one-on-one with clients, I rapidly change their beliefs via hypnosis. We identify where and how those beliefs originated and proceed to change the subconscious understanding of those events, forgive the relevant people and change the conclusions about self-worth and deservedness. You can also begin to have a positive impact on your subconscious beliefs by consciously expressing more compassion, kindness and understanding towards yourself and others.
Here is a simple but highly effective exercise: when you “screw-up” imagine yourself as a little child. How will you speak and treat the child, the younger you? Can you be patient and express sympathy, tenderness and the desire to alleviate the suffering of that little child? When I fist did this exercise many years ago, I wanted to punish and beat the little child – me. I was shocked to realize how much I believed that I deserved to be punished. From there, I was able to begin to change the way I viewed myself and what I felt I believed and deserved. Please understand that transformation is a process.
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Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & Clinical Hypnotherapist
Anointed “The Woman Expert” by WGN Chicago, Patrick Wanis PhD is a renowned Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert who developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and is teaching it to other practitioners. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. CNN, BBC, FOX News, MSNBC & major news outlets worldwide consult Wanis for his expert insights and analysis on sexuality, human behavior and women’s issues. Wanis is the first person ever to do hypnotherapy on national TV – on the Montel Williams show.