In this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to share with you a powerful technique to neutralize and bust worry.
First a quick update:
“Power leads to cheating and betrayal” What do Governor Spitzer, Bill Clinton, Bill Murray, Shania Twain’s famous music producer husband, John “Mutt Lange” and Dr. Phil have in common? Listen to the extensive interview I gave to Jim Peake of mysuccessgateway.com when I reveal that positions of power, authority and influence as well as any form of power can result in cheating because it can lead to delusions of invincibility, entitlement and the male ego drive to dominate and conquer. I also explain how power creates the ultimate test of our morals, values and integrity. Jim also raises questions about the link between the power of priests in the Catholic Church, betrayal, and the abuse and molestation of children.
Now let’s talk about worry.
Worry is negative imagination. It is what you create in yourself that causes you stress and anxiety. Worry also leads to greater fear. Worry is a conditioned response. You have learned to worry and you therefore can unlearn the process. You can eliminate the behavior.
Negative imagination (worry) is a sustained form of fear caused by indecision. When you make decisions, you end worry.
But first, let’s take a look at the roots of worry.
Worry comes from fear and fear intensifies, exaggerates and exacerbates worry. When you are afraid, you are likely to experience:
- Worried thoughts
- Physical sensations like a faster heart rate, sweating, increased breathing, tunnel vision
- Behaviors, like trying to escape the situation that made you afraid in the first place
The human brain and body are designed to respond to fear with action: Fight or Flight. The fight or flight response (including large pumps of adrenaline and norepinephrine) is what leads to the physical sensations like a faster heart rate, sweating and increased breathing with the intention that you are ready to protect yourself by either fighting back or escaping the situation that made you afraid. Ultimately the body is preparing itself for violent muscular action.
Thus, once fear has taken over, often it seems the only remedy is action. If we stand still, the adrenaline and other hormones continue to rush through our body and if not used up can act as a poison. Interestingly, when we use the adrenaline for exercise or sporting activities we feel refreshed and empowered. Continued and sustained releases of the stress chemicals over a long period of time leads to Adrenal Exhaustion, physical and mental fatigue, low Thyroid, poor digestion, overweight issues, suppression of the immune system, depression and even social anxiety.
Worry and the stress response are designed in many ways to protect us – from pain and harm. The challenge we face today is that unlike our ancestors, we are not faced with a large animal standing over us about to devour or attack us. In that situation, it may have made sense to have “negative imagination” as a way to keep us safe, to protect us. Today, almost all of our worries are baseless. A study was done on the worries that people have and it was revealed that:
- 40% of the worries people had never happened
- 30% of the worries were things in the past and nothing could be done about the past
- 12% were worries about health that were needless
- 10% were petty worries
- 8% of the worries were about something substantial, and
- 4% of those were out of their control
That means 96% of what we worry about is irrelevant.
In other words, every time we experience worry, we are experiencing fear – the anticipation of pain, set in the future. We fuel the worry and fear with negative imagination.
Here are a few simple ways to eliminate worry:
- Live one day at a time
- Get the facts (stop guessing about what may have happened.) Facts often eliminate worry. They give you a proper perspective on the situation at hand, and then give you the opportunity to accordingly take purposeful action.
- Use “The Worry Buster Technique” (see below)
- The antidote to worry is purposeful action. This utilizes the Law of Substitution (you can only think one thought at a time.) You can’t worry about something if you are working to take care of it.
Remember: worry is a form of negative goal setting. It is also prayer in reverse. We get more of what we focus on –and if we focus on these negative images they can easily become our reality or at the very least block us from pursuing our real goals, dreams and passion. For most of us, the worry freezes us because we stay stuck it the fear and never create a plan of action.
Here is one of my favorite responses to neutralize worry: The Worry Buster Technique.
The Worry Buster Technique involves four simple steps:
- Define your worry clearly in writing
- Determine the worst possible outcome in writing
- Resolve to accept the worst possible outcome should that occur
- Begin immediately to set in place steps and action to prevent the worst from occurring. In business, this is called the Minimax Regret Analysis(minimizing the maximum regret)
Now begin to focus, visualize and emotionalize what you really want and intend to create in your life!
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I wish you the best and remind you “Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!”
Patrick Wanis Ph.D.
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & Clinical Hypnotherapist
Anointed “The Woman Expert” by WGN Chicago, Patrick Wanis PhD is a renowned Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert who developed SRTT therapy (Subconscious Rapid Transformation Technique) and is teaching it to other practitioners. Wanis’ clientele ranges from celebrities and CEOs to housewives and teenagers. CNN, BBC, FOX News, MSNBC & major news outlets worldwide consult Wanis for his expert insights and analysis on sexuality, human behavior and women’s issues. Wanis is the first person ever to do hypnotherapy on national TV – on the Montel Williams show.