Why People Reject Love

Why people reject loveIn this week’s Success Newsletter, I would like to talk about people who reject love.

First a quick update:

The episode of the Montel show “Explosive Anger” -featuring me working with people who have challenges with anger airs Monday October 1, 2007

Tonight I am presenting a phone seminar for Peak Potentials Training 7 PM New York time: “The Secret to Get What You Truly Deserve.” You just pay the cost of a long-distance call. Dial: 512-439-6551 and enter the pin 998225#  Get on the call early as places are limited.

The Montel show is looking for a family that wants to save its marriage and is willing to do what it takes. Montel is offering a unique opportunity to get the help by having me live in your house for five days, working and coaching every member of the family. This would normally cost thousands of dollars but costs you nothing absolutely free. The experience will be taped for TV and the family would be flown to NY for an in-studio interview. If you or someone you know is interested, kindly send us an email.

There were non-stop laughs and phenomenal insights when I joined John Devore & Diana Falzone on Maxim Radio to reveal what a life coach does and the secrets to seduction & persuasion. Sparks fly and Diana exclaims to me “You’re a sweetheart…but you’re making me so uncomfortable…” Listen here

Listen to me on Broadminded (XM radio) this Thursday September 27 at 12:25 EST speaking about celebrities who have everything and seem to fail

Look for the September issue of “Positive Change” magazine for my article: “What do men really want?”

Now let’s talk about people who reject love.

Here is an excerpt from my book, “Soul Mates – Find your perfect match now”  


Philosophically and theoretically the answer is yes. Practically, the answer is no. If you are not ready, even if you do meet your soul mate the relationship will quickly fail. For me it was never about meeting the right woman, it was about me becoming the right man. In other words, for me, the right woman, my perfect match may have passed me many times over but I wasn’t ready, I couldn’t see her or notice her, because I wasn’t even looking for her. And whatever I believed about myself wasn’t going to attract her to me. 

Therefore to be ready for your soul mate or perfect match means to develop your self-worth, self-esteem and those qualities that will attract your soul mate to you. You obviously want your soul mate to have high self-esteem and self-worth. You obviously want your soul mate to be someone who loves, likes and accepts him or herself. So do you think your soul mate will be attracted to someone who has low self-esteem and self-worth or who doesn’t like him or herself? In other words to become the magnet for your soul mate, you must become your soul mate. You must develop the qualities you seek in your soul mate. 

For example, if you are seeking a soul mate that is drug and addiction free, you must ask yourself, “Am I the same?” Would a kind, loving, forgiving and compassionate person be attracted to or last long in a relationship with a partner that is mean, angry, stingy, unforgiving and judgmental? The answer is obviously no.  

Also be careful that you do not expect your perfect match to be able to rescue you or heal you from your mental and emotional ailments. They cannot. I mistakenly thought that I could heal and rescue my girlfriends. What I realized after much wasted time, energy and disappointments was that I could only heal myself and no one else. And no matter what I did, said or modeled for my girlfriends, it was their choice about when they would choose to let go of the past, the pain, the suffering and the non-forgiveness. It was their choice about what they would believe about their self-worth, self-esteem and value. No matter how often I complimented them or supported them, their deepest beliefs always won.  

It is also very hard to love someone who doesn’t love herself because inevitably she sabotages the love and relationship because she doesn’t believe that she deserves it. I can only express from personal experience how sad and painful it is when I see the beauty in a woman and I offer her love only to have her fail to see her own beauty and thus she rejects being treated well and rejects the love that is offered.”

If you want to build your self-esteem, use daily my Hypnosis CD: “Feel Good about yourself”. 

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I wish you the best and remind you “Believe in yourself -You deserve the best!”

Patrick Wanis
Celebrity Life Coach, Human Behavior & Relationship Expert & Clinical Hypnotherapist

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